Skip to comments.Women begin feeling invisible to men ‘when they turn 51′
Posted on 04/06/2014 7:30:19 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine
Women feel invisible to the opposite sex at the age of 51, it emerged yesterday.
A detailed study of 2,000 women revealed a large percentage felt they no longer received the level of attention they once did after hitting 51.
Many even went as far as to admit they felt ignored.
The women claimed their confidence plummeted after hitting 50 and blamed greying hair, having to to wear glasses or even struggling to find fashionable clothes.
The lifestyle study, commissioned by herbal remedies company, A.Vogel, also found more than two thirds of women over 45 had walked into a room and felt completely unnoticed by the opposite sex.
More than half said they felt left on the shelf and that theyd been judged negatively because of their age.
Health expert Eileen Durward, who provides advice and support to women through the A.Vogel website and helpline, said: The results show a worrying decline in confidence and self-worth in women when faced with the prospect of growing older.
The world can feel very geared toward appreciating younger women, leaving those of a certain age to feel neglected or less worthy.
These women are not invisible and neither are their concerns.
They are often the driving engine behind many a family, juggling careers, looking after older relatives and bringing up children.
All the while dealing with the ageing process and changes brought on by the menopause.
They need to be supported, not made to feel washed up.
The study also found just 15 per cent of women over 45 could claim they had high or very high confidence while, sadly, nearly half described themselves as not very confident at all.
The biggest reason for a decline in self-belief was the feeling that their image had deteriorated.
A dejected four in ten said not getting attention from men like they used to was a factor, more than half had felt intimidated by the presence of younger women at a social event.
A concerned six in ten of the 2,000 studied felt modern life is geared toward a focus on younger women while 46 per cent thought that a lot of what older women go through wasnt seen or spoken about.
The research also examined the effect the menopause has on womens confidence as they age.
The results showed around one in five who had experienced menopausal symptoms had difficulty in finding answers to the questions they had about the changes they were facing.
In fact, only 13 per cent felt women were well supported in the lead up to the menopause.
The research, which also involved 500 men, showed many have a head in the sand approach to the menopause.
Eileen Durward, who is also an expert on menopause, added: Women need to know they are not alone and there are things they can do to help themselves.
Hot flushes are a good example of something that can have a real impact on confidence, especially in social situations or at work.
Many women dont realise that simple steps, like breathing slowly or taking a herbal remedy containing sage, can provide relief.
"Life sucks, then you die"
Authorities say 51-year-old Christine Lee Brown called 911 six times to thank a sheriff for providing her with bologna sandwiches while she was in jail.
She was arrested and charged with six felony counts of misusing 911 communications.
Well bless their hearts... Poor babies.
Younger women’s faces look too smooth to me. They have no character.
On another note, a friend’s girlfriend (about 50-ish) who I had only seen a few times, was wearing a rather low cut number yesterday when we were doing a photo shoot for our band. I thought, “Holy cow, those are rather large.” I never noticed before. Keep in mind I’m not really a breast man, but you can’t help but notice some times.
Anyway, the reason I bring it up: She leaned against me to see the pictures on the back of my camera and they felt like a couple of coconut halves.
This stuff is not surprising at all given the cult of youth that advertisers have foisted on America for many decades. It is all about appearances. But if a woman is Godly this fact will be detected and admired soon enough.
At the risk of being called a chauvinist, this guy thinks women focus on looks too much and that it isn’t what you look like, it’s what you do for a guy. Any port will do in a storm, unless you can’t get provisions. (Ducking )
We talking liberal single women over 50 that no one cares about anymore because they feel no one wants to bang them?
Thank the National Organization of Women for this. They elevated women to a social status that destroyed the delicate balance that had existed before (not saying that reforms weren’t needed re equal pay, opportunity, etc).
Men are guarding the last remnants of masculinity that the Left has left them, so they don’t need competition from women who once scorned them.
If you look back at the late 1950’s, it was a much more civil and caring place. Today it’s every man and woman for themselves. So sad.
Is there a similar poll for men?
I’d be interested to read the results.
Man, I’m getting old. A fifty year old woman is a young hottie in my eyes.
I think it was Dave Barry commenting on how old age is harder on women. This was at the time Sean Connery was the dapper and graying bearded fifty something.
He said that when men get older they look like Sean Connery, but when women get older they look like...Sean Connery.
The majority of women that age (and men) are overweight. Of course they're not going to get the attention they did when they were not.
And please don't try to tell me it's inevitable. I am 50 and not overweight only because I eat and drink less than I want and exercise more than I want. It's not magic, luck or genetics.
I think we can all appreciate the herculean effort involved in reeling and reeling to keep that vignette fish close to the boat .. LOL .. bravo !
Hinty for yoos:
When you turn 50, don’t start acting like a homebody, lose your excitement and think only about your safety and future...
If I were a woman who had turned 51′ I’d be grouchy too
I lose track of my wife all the time. I know she’s in the house somewhere. One of these days I may go looking for her if I can remember what she looks like.
Hell, it starts much earlier than 51.
I can’t see them when they’re over 25.
Anytime you can feel a woman’s breasts touching you, she can feel them touching you, too. Just an observation.
I mean the silly typography of course
And yer hot!
LOL x2 !
I find this to be hilarious! I walk into a room and everyone notices because I make an effort to be polite and kind at all times. I am in my late 50’s and could give a flying fart regarding my clothing or my looks!
How insecure can you get? Some people never get out of High School!
Liz, do you get a lot of “notice”?
But it might affect Cher! LOL!
SOOOO... how is your sex life?
Anytime you can feel a womans breasts touching you, she can feel them touching you, too. Just an observation.
If the very basis of your self-image and identity revolves around the level of attention you’re getting from strangers of the opposite sex, then getting old will tend to pose a particular challenge. Leave it to feminists, to make it into some sort of societal ill for which men are yet again responsible, instead of plain old vanity and refusing to age gracefully.
Well, so? Do old fish care if bicycles don’t notice them?
“Women need men like fish need bicycles” - Gloria Steinham
When will the whining end?
Could be worse, many men feel women look at them Sasquatch when they reach that age. Invisible or Sasquatch, I’d take invisible.
That makes two of us. My peers are mature people with faces that reflect character and interesting lives. While I wouldn't mind getting back a little of that youthful energy, I wouldn't care to return to the high school obsession with looks and fashion. There is a measure of freedom that comes with maturity.
One day it occurred to me “If I can feel her, she’s got to feel me.” It livened up my life a bit.
I’m pretty sure they didn’t interview Palin or Bachmann.
Remember, many of these women used their youthful good looks and sexuality to make your life miserable.
Wait ‘til they’re 81 like me.
‘Villages’ Retirement Home is Widower’s Sex Paradise
Lady LAKE, Fla. It’s 11 p.m. at the Bourbon Street Bar, and Roselyn’s gyrating her hips to the blues band, Sue’s sipping a cocktail and flirting with her new boyfriend, and Alan is scanning the crowd for cute girls.
“See those two?” a buxom blonde asks, pointing to an elegant couple at the bar. “They were caught having sex in their golf cart a few weeks ago. It happens a lot!”
Welcome to ground zero for geriatrics who are seriously getting it on.
It’s a Thursday night at one of a half-dozen hot spots at the 20,000-acre Central Florida complex called The Villages, the largest gated retirement community in America and one of the most popular destinations for New Yorkers in their golden years where the female-to-male ratio runs 10 to 1.
“Whatever you know about 20-year-olds, it’s the same with seniors,” said Roselyn Shelley, 68, a divorced former dancer.
“...they felt like a couple of coconut halves.
Creeped by breasts like coconut halves? Ah, come on...you are having us on, our FRiend!
as if men are immune to this?
it may happen at a different age, but I can guarantee you that at a certain age 20 year old girls stop looking at men in... that way.
Jo Raquel Tejada, age 74.
Well i’m 46 and and I am REALLY getting pissed at how quickly time has flown by.
It seems like I woke up......at 46!
It wasn’t supposed to be like this, I was meant to be 24 FOREVER!
Now look what happened.
Worst thing is i’m practically BROKE.......at 46.
Well, yes. They're not separate entities.
> no longer received the level of attention they once did after hitting 51.
Isn’t this what women say they want? Why aren’t they celebrating?
I pretty much felt invisible to 25 year old women when I turned 40. Maybe God intended it that way.
A lot of married soccer moms gave all for the kids, relegating hubby to leftover status, then split up because they had no real union anymore. Now she’s alone and in her 50’s with wrinkles, sags and grey hair, and her past romantic interest plying lonely 40 somethings.
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