Posted on 04/21/2014 8:50:24 PM PDT by chessplayer
5th graders at Zeman Elementary School in Lincoln, Nebraska got this flyer on how to deal with bullies. Naturally, a lot of the parents are pretty upset.
(Excerpt) Read more at youngcons.com ...
I think it’s a pretty safe bet that the person who wrote these guidelines says the words “Yes mistress” a lot more often than most people.
I think that the person who wrote it IS a bully, or else grew up in a horribly dysfunctional family. Imagine the outcry if they gave out this kind of advice to domestic abuse victims.
The one about not showing anger, but showing hurt is especially silly. If you’re dealing with a sadist or sociopath, and a lot of them are, they don’t care about your feelings. Indicating weakness to predatory types gets you off on an abusive foot.
One of the most valuable lessons children can learn is how to tell the difference between people who mean them well and those who don’t. I wish I had learned it when I was growing up. But when a child grows up watching adults play cruel games with each other, he or she won’t show very good judgement about these matters, I suppose.
It’s okay, LPS has apologized for the ‘staffing error’ that led to this flyer being sent home with students. It was never intended to be seen by adults, only the children. They’re very sorry for the confusion this caused, and are working to correct the staffing error that inadvertently let the parents know just what a messed up message they were giving kids..
(that last part was my own input, of course...)
Supposedly, this was ‘one of the options’ presented to children when discussing bullying, and ‘not the main message’ that LPS was trying to impart. They ‘encourage’ students when faced with a bully to tell the bully to stop and walk away, and if the bullying continues, tell a teacher or parent.
But I have to admit, if a teacher passes out a piece of paper in class that says ‘rules’ on it, as a student, I’m going to assume that these are indeed rules, not ‘just ideas in a discussion.’ Especially with nine very detailed rules that effective looks to be a free pass for any and all bullying, and any attempts to stop it will be seen as inciting the fight. Resist the bully in any fashion, you started a fight, and of course, everyone knows what happens when you start a fight in school - you get zero toleranced right out of there.
Has to be a gag. All this advice does is encourage a bully to continue and to escalate. In the real world the best way to deal with a bully is explosive violence, hit first, hit hard, keep hitting.
You are right
Rule #2 is where it goes from insults to a good old ass kicking.
LOLbump
One bully would make the rounds with kids, tire of them, then move on. When he got to my son, my son did all three. We went with him to the teacher (anonymously). The teacher called his parents down. (The father told the teacher “I have to work, that's his mom's job.” The teacher (public!) said “No - you're the father - be one.”)
The teacher said she would work with the bully, and the parents had to as well. Or he would get kicked out. The bully had a lot of other issues. Once the law was laid down he was okay. He and my son became good friends!
My daughter (6th grade) on the other hand had done as much walking as she could from one bully. She kept walking faster, and he kept pestering her. It just so happened that she spied a pencil on the floor as she was walking. She picked it up, swung around and jabbed it into his arm. He ran crying to the nurse with blood trickling down his arm.
My daughter got called down to the office and she assured us and the principal that it would never happen again. (The principal had previously dealt with the bully many times.) And we stopped for ice cream on the way home.
Rule #1: ...like they are an ememy.
Rule #3: If you afraid...
Rule #9: I've know that...
You’re probably right. I fell for it. Glenn Beck fell for it.
This is faked? It has a very believable side to it, because it’s closer to real consequences than fake. If a kid who’d being bullied kicks the bully’s butt, he’s usually the one one punished, not the bully. The bully always skates, almost without exception.
My parents raised me by a few rules regarding bullies:
1) Names won’t hurt you
2) Don’t start a fight
3) You have the right to defend yourself
4) Knock the bully down hard enough he won’t get up to kill you
5) We will back you up if you didn’t start the fight
My parents enrolled me in Judo class to learn how to defend myself. My grandfather told me as a child, if a bully won’t leave you alone, just pick up a rock and hit them on the head. Wow, the old-timers sure didn’t fool around!
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