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Because of China's preference for baby boys, some men now buy ‘wives’ from abroad
Global Post ^ | 05/16/2014 | Denise Hruby

Posted on 05/16/2014 9:05:32 AM PDT by SeekAndFind

KANDAL PROVINCE, Cambodia — Petite, soft-spoken and innocent Kai Sochoeun dreamed of a better life, away from the poverty she was born into in rural Cambodia.

She passed her days fetching water from a pond and tending to chickens that roamed near her wooden stilt home. She watched the men in her village skeptically. If they only cared about card games and alcohol, how could marriage improve her life?

“I wasn't interested in a husband,” she said.

That changed when an acquaintance of her uncle approached her with a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. The woman could arrange for Kai to travel to China, where there’s an abundance of well-paying factory jobs and, if she was interested, sophisticated, affluent men awaited.

After she agreed to go to China — a place she only knew from TV dramas — things moved quickly. Within a week, the human traffickers had forged all the necessary documents and brought her to the airport.

In hindsight, Kai realized that it was too good to be true.

Soon, she had been sold to a Chinese man who physically abused and raped her. She had never met him before, she didn't speak his language, and she had no clue where she was — other than that it was somewhere in China.

“[W]hen I didn’t want to sleep with him, when I tried to resist, he grabbed me. He got angry and pushed me on the bed and had sex with me. ... He was very aggressive. He was the first man I slept with, I didn’t have any experience, but I knew that this was not right. It was terrible,” she said.

Besides the daily rapes, the man’s family treated her like a servant and she was held in solitary confinement.

She wasn't the only one who was trafficked to southern China that day.

“There were two other girls, younger than me, who were also at the airport. They cried when they said goodbye to their families. We were all a little bit scared,” Kai remembers.

“I had heard of such stories, where women were trafficked, where they were tricked and then sold. But I thought it wouldn't happen to me,” Kai said.

For years, local media in Laos and Myanmar, both neighboring China, have reported cases of women who were trafficked to China — often under the influence of drugs.

China's one-child policy, introduced in 1979 to address rapid population growth, has produced a gender imbalance. Male heirs are favored in Chinese culture, and there have been reports of parents aborting female fetuses or even killing baby girls. The British Medical Journal estimated in 2005 that China had produced a surplus of 32 million young men — about four times the population of New York City.

For many of these men, looking across China's borders has become the only option to find a wife.

Quest for a better life

Kai and the two women she had traveled with were led to believe that they would find work in China, and possibly marry a suitable Chinese man.

At the airport, they were picked up by a Cambodian woman and four Chinese who took them to a town that Kai remembers by the name “Fuja.”

They were told to doll themselves up so they'd look pretty for the men who were about to visit the house to pick one of them as a bride. It was then that Kai finally realized that she was being trafficked. There was no lucrative $500-a-month job waiting for her, and it was not up to her to decide who she'd marry.

One by one, impoverished-looking Chinese men came in to shop for an obedient, Southeast Asian wife who would give them an heir.

“When I was sitting there so the Chinese men could look at me, I knew that I had been trafficked. They chose us, and I felt like a prostitute,” she said.

As soon as she arrived at her new husband's house, the abuse began.

“[W]hen I didn’t want to sleep with him, when I tried to resist, he grabbed me. He got angry and pushed me on the bed and had sex with me,” Kai said, adding that the same ordeal would take place up to four times a day.

The United Nations reports that millions of people worldwide are victims of trafficking. This may be a conservative estimate, as most cases are thought never to be reported. The picture of shackled slaves inspected at auctions has changed into a secretive and much more nuanced underground trade worth billions.

“Asia, and in particular Southeast Asia, remains one of the key areas of origin and destination of trafficking in persons,” said Annette Lyth, the UN's Inter-Agency Program on Human Trafficking's regional program coordinator.

Overall, about 80 percent of victims are trafficked for sexual exploitation, forced to work in brothels or, like in the case of Kai, sold as brides against their will.

After two months, Kai finally managed to get ahold of a phone and called a Cambodian radio station whose phone number she remembered, begging for help.

Within several days, she was repatriated.

Others, Cambodian authorities say, are not as lucky. The first cases of trafficking Cambodian brides to China were recorded about two years ago, when families informed human rights organizations that they were looking for their daughters, who had disappeared in China.

Every month, said Choun Bun Eng, chairwoman of the Cambodian government's committee to fight human trafficking, police arrest traffickers just before they send women off to China. But the majority slip through.

“We don't know why this has risen so much, but we take it seriously,” Choun said.

Kai's traffickers have disappeared and will most likely never be arrested. Of the two women who boarded the plane with her, one has been repatriated, and the second remains missing. Nobody, not even her family, knows what happened to her.

Back at her home in Cambodia, Kai said that tending after her small plot of land and the handful of chickens now makes her feel content.

“In a way, I was lucky,” she said.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: cambodia; china; trafficking

1 posted on 05/16/2014 9:05:32 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

And when that starts to not work any more, look for military conquests in order to get wives.


2 posted on 05/16/2014 9:06:11 AM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter admits whom he's working for)
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To: SeekAndFind

I hear Russia has extra women.


3 posted on 05/16/2014 9:07:56 AM PDT by Jeff Chandler (Hillary may have brain damage, but what difference does it make?)
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To: MrB
And when that starts to not work any more, look for military conquests in order to get wives.

That has been the traditional way. One of the pillars of Islam is war and sexual booty. They even promise it in death (72 raisin-eyed virgins).

But, there is another way. I hear the Japanese are making tremendous advances in fembots. /S

4 posted on 05/16/2014 9:11:26 AM PDT by Pearls Before Swine
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To: SeekAndFind
Back at her home in Cambodia, Kai said that tending after her small plot of land and the handful of chickens now makes her feel content. “In a way, I was lucky,” she said.

Excellent looking-on-the-bright-side skills, Kai. She's fortunate that she wasn't pregnant, forced into abortion, or infected with an std, or at least the article doesn't mention it.

5 posted on 05/16/2014 9:11:56 AM PDT by Tax-chick (If I offended you, you needed it.)
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To: SeekAndFind
"...some men now buy ‘wives’ from abroad

And there's a "Blue Light" sale now ongoing in Nigeria.

6 posted on 05/16/2014 9:13:11 AM PDT by DJ Taylor (Once again our country is at war,and once again the Democrats have sided with our enemy.)
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To: SeekAndFind
No one should be surprised by this.

7 posted on 05/16/2014 9:15:01 AM PDT by BitWielder1 (Corporate Profits are better than Government Waste)
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To: Jeff Chandler

Yep, most non-muslim post-Soviet nations has 5 to 15% surplus female population. For Russia is is about 10 million extra women and it makes a mail order bride phenomenon. For some reason China is not a primary destination for them. Many women are moving to North America and Europe, others are importing grooms from Middle East and Turkey.


8 posted on 05/16/2014 9:16:28 AM PDT by wetphoenix
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To: MrB

I would not be surprised if they head to the middle east... they can eliminate the men who are trying to force islam on them and take the women


9 posted on 05/16/2014 9:16:30 AM PDT by Mr. K (If you like your constitution, you can keep it...Period. PALIN/CRUZ 2016)
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To: SeekAndFind

The end result will be China becoming a much more racially diverse nation.

I don’t think they are prepared to deal with that.


10 posted on 05/16/2014 9:17:00 AM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: SeekAndFind

"Your Women, how much for the Women?"

11 posted on 05/16/2014 9:18:23 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: dfwgator

The most valuable Chinese bride will be one of those adopted Chinese orphans who has a US passport...or one of the anchor babies birthed in the US. Chinese millionaires will be paying parents big bucks to marry one and get a bonus of a US green card.


12 posted on 05/16/2014 9:23:56 AM PDT by Oldexpat
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To: SeekAndFind

I work with a Chinese girl in mid 20’s that came here a few years ago for school and now works here. She has no clue about this kind of stuff. Chicoms are great at hiding it from their won.


13 posted on 05/16/2014 9:25:33 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: SeekAndFind

Rape is not a good way to produce male children.

It is scientific fact that a female’s orgasm increases the chances, ( If I remember correctly, by a factor of 2 ). of male offspring. It is doubtful that rape would produce a female orgasm so that most of these pregnancies would produce female offspring.


14 posted on 05/16/2014 9:25:47 AM PDT by spel_grammer_an_punct_polise (What we need is to sucker the fedthugs into a "Tiananmen Square"-like incident on the National Mall!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Has it occurred to anyone else that perhaps China planned this all along? Planned having up to 100 million young men, without the possibility of wives?

Why would they do that, you ask?

Because it would make one hell of an aggressive army.

You draft those young men with no chance for wives, and you tell them “It’s China’s turn to rule: Vietnam, Burma, Thailand, Malaysia, etc. After we conquer and annex them, the Motherland will reward you with land and wives from the new annexed provinces”.

China would get a twofer: attrition would kill off many of those millions in war, and the survivors would plant colonies, force the spread of Chinese language and culture in the new lands, and eventually ethnically “China-ize” all of that fertile land in neighboring countries that China covets so badly.


15 posted on 05/16/2014 9:26:23 AM PDT by DesScorp
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To: Oldexpat

Heh, funny you should say that. I know a guy that married a Chinese woman. He was complaining that US Immigration wouldn’t let her whole family come over. I don’t know if she (and he) just assumed that would automatically happen after marriage to a US citizen, but a lot of people do assume that’s a package deal.


16 posted on 05/16/2014 9:31:54 AM PDT by DesScorp
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To: spel_grammer_an_punct_polise

It is scientific fact that a female’s orgasm increases the chances, ( If I remember correctly, by a factor of 2 ). of male offspring. It is doubtful that rape would produce a female orgasm so that most of these pregnancies would produce female offspring.


I’d be interested to see evidence of that, but I do believe that male orgasm significantly increases the chance of offspring.


17 posted on 05/16/2014 9:31:54 AM PDT by Freeping Since 2001 (Since 2001. Seriously.)
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To: SeekAndFind
Here's a potential wife available for purchase from Afghanistan.


18 posted on 05/16/2014 9:33:52 AM PDT by Dr. Thorne ("How long, O Lord, holy and true?" - Rev. 6:10)
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To: wetphoenix
Many women are moving to North America

The men here are already trained.

19 posted on 05/16/2014 9:36:26 AM PDT by Jeff Chandler (Hillary may have brain damage, but what difference does it make?)
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To: Jeff Chandler

For what?


20 posted on 05/16/2014 9:44:53 AM PDT by wetphoenix
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To: spel_grammer_an_punct_polise

Color me highly skeptical.

The sex distribution of babies across the world is very similar, within about a 1% range if I remember correctly.

I seriously doubt the percentage of sexually satisfied women is that consistent across the world’s many cultures, some of which don’t even recognize the existence of the female orgasm.

Also, given the many cultures which inflict genital mutilation on their women, one of two factors would need to apply for this orgasm/male child link to hold true.

Either women after genital mutilation are still able to achieve orgasm at a rate comparable to unmutilated women, something that flies in the fact of current feminist dogma. Or societies that practice FGM would quickly have a severe shortage of male babies, which would in a couple of decades result in their being overrun by their enemies.


21 posted on 05/16/2014 9:45:43 AM PDT by Sherman Logan
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To: SeekAndFind

I guess there is a run on black US women from them. /sarc


22 posted on 05/16/2014 10:33:04 AM PDT by vetvetdoug
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To: Buckeye McFrog

All China has to do is look at the USA and notice the mess that diversity has caused.


23 posted on 05/16/2014 10:35:16 AM PDT by 353FMG
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To: Oldexpat

Now why should Chinese millionaires want a US green card when they will soon own the country anyway?


24 posted on 05/16/2014 10:37:40 AM PDT by 353FMG
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To: SeekAndFind

Indochina is now a place to get wives... future colonies?


25 posted on 05/16/2014 10:39:18 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans!)
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To: Jeff Chandler
I hear Russia has extra women.

I have a wife for sale, cheap.........

26 posted on 05/16/2014 10:44:09 AM PDT by Hot Tabasco (Under Reagan spring always arrived on time.....)
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To: GeronL
Indochina is now a place to get wives... future colonies?

"Me love you long time."

27 posted on 05/16/2014 10:45:34 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Resolute Conservative
I work with a Chinese girl in mid 20’s that came here a few years ago for school and now works here. She has no clue about this kind of stuff. Chicoms are great at hiding it from their own.

If she is from a city, in particular one of the large coastal cities, she wouldn't likely be aware of it. Chinese cities are flooded with under-30 girls - I was in Guangzhou for business last week and the malls looked like they had been hit by a girl-tsunami. The shortages occur in the rural areas, where the sex-selection abortions are common and every girl who can flees to the nearest city to avoid ending up as a peasant farm wife.

So there may be a 100 million uneducated Chinese farmers who have no chance of getting married, but they also aren't likely to remember which end of a gun to point at the Vietnamese - so fears of a massive Chinese army of frustrated single men marching through Asia are more than a little overblown. :)

28 posted on 05/16/2014 10:47:22 AM PDT by Mr. Jeeves ([CTRL-GALT-DELETE])
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To: Sherman Logan

Please let me rephrase:

The statistics I mentioned apply to the USA, not the world. ;-)


29 posted on 05/16/2014 10:52:18 AM PDT by spel_grammer_an_punct_polise (What we need is to sucker the fedthugs into a "Tiananmen Square"-like incident on the National Mall!)
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To: Mr. Jeeves
So there may be a 100 million uneducated Chinese farmers who have no chance of getting married, but they also aren't likely to remember which end of a gun to point at the Vietnamese - so fears of a massive Chinese army of frustrated single men marching through Asia are more than a little overblown. :)

I think you over estimate the intellect and education needed to make minimality effective soldier.
30 posted on 05/16/2014 11:02:33 AM PDT by TalonDJ
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To: SeekAndFind

And what is to happen to Kai’s uncle who got her roped into this mess?


31 posted on 05/16/2014 11:08:24 AM PDT by Bigg Red (1 Pt 1: As he who called you is holy, be holy yourselves in every aspect of your conduct.)
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To: Freeping Since 2001

“but I do believe that male orgasm significantly increases the chance of offspring.”

Why do some people find it necessary to be sarcastic?


32 posted on 05/16/2014 11:57:26 AM PDT by spel_grammer_an_punct_polise (What we need is to sucker the fedthugs into a "Tiananmen Square"-like incident on the National Mall!)
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To: spel_grammer_an_punct_polise

Why do some people find it necessary to be sarcastic?


Because it’s more polite that telling you that there is no evidence for your absurd theory that female orgasm helps determine the sex of the baby.


33 posted on 05/16/2014 12:07:44 PM PDT by Freeping Since 2001 (Since 2001. Seriously.)
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To: Hot Tabasco

Layaway plan?


34 posted on 05/16/2014 12:58:46 PM PDT by SgtHooper (This is my tag!)
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To: SgtHooper
Layaway plan?

Noooooope! Cash and carry, no refund........

35 posted on 05/16/2014 1:24:25 PM PDT by Hot Tabasco (Under Reagan spring always arrived on time.....)
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To: wetphoenix
I have a cousin in northern Michigan who married a Phillipino lady he met over an international match making service about 8 years ago. Tess is about 55 now and Pat is 65.

Given his lifestyle and vocation dealing with hunting, fishing, and fish charters, and the fact that he's not very good looking, I never thought he would have ever found a girl to marry..........

He proved me wrong. This lady sounds like she was sent to Pat from heaven and enjoys everything he does and treats him like a king. They are truly in love..........

36 posted on 05/16/2014 1:44:37 PM PDT by Hot Tabasco (Under Reagan spring always arrived on time.....)
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To: Hot Tabasco

Any warranties, or as-is? :-)


37 posted on 05/16/2014 2:06:49 PM PDT by SgtHooper (This is my tag!)
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To: Freeping Since 2001

“Because it’s more polite that telling you that there is no evidence for your absurd theory that female orgasm helps determine the sex of the baby.”

More polite? Nah, simply being a jerk will do that.

Also, I think that you meant to type, ‘Because it’s more polite than telling you’, not ‘Because it’s more polite that telling you’.

Please do a Google or Bing search for “female orgasm helps determine gender of offspring” without the quotation marks, sarcastic one. There are simply too many references to list them here. Do the search yourself. ;-)

You are now on my ‘ignore list’. ;-)


38 posted on 05/16/2014 4:57:59 PM PDT by spel_grammer_an_punct_polise (What we need is to sucker the fedthugs into a "Tiananmen Square"-like incident on the National Mall!)
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To: Mr. Jeeves
...malls looked like they had been hit by a girl-tsunami...

Do I really have to comment?

39 posted on 05/17/2014 5:56:34 AM PDT by Rodamala
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To: spel_grammer_an_punct_polise
Do you really believe everything you've "researched" on Google?

That is horrifying.

40 posted on 05/17/2014 6:03:41 AM PDT by Rodamala
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To: Rodamala

“Do you really believe everything you’ve “researched” on Google?”

No, of course not. My post was regarding something that I learned in high-school science class in the late 1950s but I could not post that because the original poster concerning this matter asked for direct evidence. Google or Bing was the best that I could do under the circumstances. Thus far, I have read the words, ‘absurd’ and ‘horrifying’ but, again, thus far no one has given to me direct evidence to the contrary except to use negative wording. That is most amusing to me. ;-) Where is YOUR evidence which disputes my high-school, science class?

Referencing my comment above about learning of this phenomenon in high-school, science class, maybe you and the original poster were ‘edumacated in our vaunted, publik skul sistum’. ;-)

Regards ;-)


41 posted on 05/17/2014 9:14:55 AM PDT by spel_grammer_an_punct_polise (What we need is to sucker the fedthugs into a "Tiananmen Square"-like incident on the National Mall!)
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To: spel_grammer_an_punct_polise; Freeping Since 2001

Sex is determined by the one sperm which fertilizes the egg. There is no mechanical or chemical way to sort the sperm, short of flow cytometry techniques which are done in a laboratory at a very high cost.

Disclaimer: I am not a microbiologist... but I did attempt some flow cytometry last night at a Holiday Inn.


42 posted on 05/17/2014 1:38:14 PM PDT by Rodamala
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To: spel_grammer_an_punct_polise
Why do some people find it necessary to be sarcastic?

Maybe because you invited it, opened the door so to speak?

43 posted on 05/17/2014 4:23:28 PM PDT by SandwicheGuy (*The butter acts as a lubricant and speeds up the CPU*ou)
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To: spel_grammer_an_punct_polise
Referencing my comment above about learning of this phenomenon in high-school, science class, maybe you and the original poster were ‘edumacated in our vaunted, publik skul sistum’. ;-)

In all fairness, our memories fail us as we get older. I know that female orgasms facilitate pregnancy so you may be getting that confused with something else.

44 posted on 05/17/2014 4:29:00 PM PDT by SandwicheGuy (*The butter acts as a lubricant and speeds up the CPU*ou)
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