I’m not a man-hater, so don’t get me wrong. That’s why I didn’t date while raising my kids. Oh, wait. I was MARRIED, LOL! How old-fashioned of me. My husband didn’t let me meet his son (and the nephews we ended up raising) until after we dated for close to a year. (Granted, he had other character flaws which led to our divorce, but being a parent and putting his son first wasn’t one of them.)
I don’t know how you tell. But, there certainly is a pattern to these cases, which is frustrating. And you don’t get a second chance. And as an added bonus, Mom has to live with this for the rest of her days.
Err on the side of caution when kids are involved. Always.
That's an excellent policy but refusing to date might not be the only option.There are many ways to investigate the past of people.Some involve a private detective and others don't.Yes,there are enough guys out there who are scum...guys who would hurt a woman or her kids.Guys who would steal $$$ from them.Guys who would do other bad things.So,IMO,it's not unreasonable for a woman to fully investigate a guy's past before getting too close.Expensive? Maybe.A reasonable option? I'd say so.