Free Republic
Browse · Search
News/Activism
Topics · Post Article

Skip to comments.

Kenner woman who shot estranged husband was hysterical, apologetic as police arrived
NOLA.com | The Times-Picayune ^ | July 08, 2014 | Michelle Hunter

Posted on 07/08/2014 4:57:48 PM PDT by BBell

When Kenner Police entered the front door at 2409 Kentucky Ave. early Tuesday morning, they found Melissa Desilva hysterically crying as she bent over the body of her estranged husband, Lyndell Desilva, who lay in the hallway of the home they once shared, dying of gunshot wounds.

Melissa Desilva, 34, was apologetic as she tried to render aid. "She said she didn't mean for this to happen," said Sgt. Brian McGregor, spokesman for the Kenner Police.

Paramedics transported Lyndell Desilva, 38, to Interim LSU Hospital in New Orleans where doctors pronounced him dead a short time later. As investigators spent the rest of the morning interviewing Melissa Desilva, her four children and other relatives, a narrative began to emerge of unreported domestic abuse, which culminated in a deadly confrontation between the couple of 16 years.

"Things have escalated, and here we are today with him being shot," McGregor said.

Kenner Police did not book Melissa Desilva in her husband's death on Tuesday. "If we felt there was probable cause to make an arrest we would have made one. But we thought it best to refer this matter to the district attorney's office," McGregor said.

Melissa and Lyndell Desilva had been married for 12 years with four children: a 10-year-old boy and three girls, ages 14, 12 and 4. But the couple separated two months ago, McGregor said, because of worsening domestic violence.

Though Kenner Police have no records of phone calls or reports to authorities, relatives of both Lyndell and Melissa Desilva, including the couple's children, told investigators that she suffered years of abuse at his hands, according to McGregor.

"According to members of both families, all the way around, they all witnessed physical and verbal abuse," said McGregor. Even the children described seeing bruises on their mother over the years.

Lyndell Desilva moved out

(Excerpt) Read more at nola.com ...


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; US: Louisiana
KEYWORDS: banglist; domesticabuse; kenner; la; selfdefense
I guess he won't be using her as a punching bag anymore.
1 posted on 07/08/2014 4:57:49 PM PDT by BBell
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | View Replies]

To: BBell
Kenner woman who shot estranged husband was hysterical, apologetic as police arrived

That's a little better than Amy Bishop, who basically said that the roomful of dead people she left in her wake didn't exist.

2 posted on 07/08/2014 5:00:05 PM PDT by Steely Tom (How do you feel about robbing Peter's robot?)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell

we’ve had two sets of killings today in my area by husbands....in one incident, he strangled his wife and his dtr....in another, he just came to her work place and shot her cold dead....


3 posted on 07/08/2014 5:02:35 PM PDT by cherry
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell

I blame her.

She should have shut the hell up and left years ago....

/s

Terrible. One person never relenting on demeaning remarks and the other constantly making room for them to grow a real and proper pair.

Feel sorry for the gal and now she’ll live with her action forever.


4 posted on 07/08/2014 5:05:10 PM PDT by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell

She’s sorry now, but the fact is, she waited and waited and absorbed all the abuse. If what she claims happened is true, she allowed her three daughters to see her allowing this to continue, all the while producing more and more children, all the while sinking deeper into this acknowledged trap. Sad that she didn’t seek help at least for herself to get out, vs facilitating it all. The boiling point did not have to be the only way out. One wonders if she kept this secret from her own family or were they cut off from all outsiders.


5 posted on 07/08/2014 5:06:38 PM PDT by lee martell
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell
Even the children described seeing bruises on their mother over the years.

Unreported physical abuse is an everyday occurance and I have nothing but sympathy for the abused who are too afraid or too controlled to come forward and ask for help.......

6 posted on 07/08/2014 5:07:02 PM PDT by Hot Tabasco (By now, everyone should know that you shoot a zombie in the head. Don't try to reason with them...)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell

What happens in Kenner, stays in Kenner.


7 posted on 07/08/2014 5:08:01 PM PDT by Oliviaforever
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell

One good outcome of her doing the shooting instead of the cops - their dog is still alive.


8 posted on 07/08/2014 5:08:43 PM PDT by Veggie Todd (The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants. TJ)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Steely Tom

Amy Bishop was a nut case. I can’t understand why she was not institutionalized when she shot her brother.


9 posted on 07/08/2014 5:10:10 PM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 2 | View Replies]

To: BBell
Amy Bishop was a nut case. I can’t understand why she was not institutionalized when she shot her brother.

Cause her very well-connected uber-liberal politician mother got her away from the police after they arrested her, and then saw to it that all records pertaining to the incident were "lost."

10 posted on 07/08/2014 5:12:08 PM PDT by Steely Tom (How do you feel about robbing Peter's robot?)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 9 | View Replies]

To: lee martell
"According to members of both families, all the way around, they all witnessed physical and verbal abuse," said McGregor. Even the children described seeing bruises on their mother over the years.

It's all in the article.

11 posted on 07/08/2014 5:12:57 PM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 5 | View Replies]

To: Hot Tabasco; All

“Even the children described seeing bruises on their mother over the years.”

A curious construction. Who would be more likely to see bruises or abuse than the children?


12 posted on 07/08/2014 5:13:04 PM PDT by marktwain (The old media must die for the Republic to live. Long live the new media!)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 6 | View Replies]

To: BBell

I know I’m building on scant evidence but it sounds as though the woman has been putting up with a lot, likely for the sake of the children and trying to save face publicly by not seeking help. However now, these same kids will have to live with memories of a frequently violent and abusive father and a mother who killed him. Prayers for her and her kids.


13 posted on 07/08/2014 5:14:30 PM PDT by JimSEA
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Steely Tom

If I remember correctly the police record was kept a ‘secret’ and was not made light of until after she shot 6 people.


14 posted on 07/08/2014 5:16:22 PM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 10 | View Replies]

To: BBell

Yet, she stayed with him for 12 years.= Co-Dependancy IMO.


15 posted on 07/08/2014 5:20:09 PM PDT by lee martell
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 11 | View Replies]

To: BBell

Talk about a perfect example of the psychosis that creates battered wives. The guy beats her and treats her like crap. She finally defends herself, yet is hysterically crying about his death and apologizing when the police come. If it was anyone else who beat her, she would have no guilt about killing them. Its a bizzare and very sad mental state.


16 posted on 07/08/2014 5:20:22 PM PDT by Opinionated Blowhard ("When the people find they can vote themselves money, that will herald the end of the republic.")
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell

I’ve known women who hurt themselves and blamed others. I think it is a common method used by psychotics to gain attention.


17 posted on 07/08/2014 5:21:25 PM PDT by Kirkwood (Zombie Hunter)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Oliviaforever
What happens in Kenner, stays in Kenner.

Except when Parker/Kenner gets assimilated into Hasbro. Note that the incident took place on Kentucky Avenue. I expect the next roll will be a NINE:


18 posted on 07/08/2014 5:22:53 PM PDT by Dr. Sivana ("If you're litigating against nuns, you've probably done something wrong."-Ted Cruz)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 7 | View Replies]

To: Vendome; BBell
I blame her.

She should have shut the hell up and left years ago....

That what you wished BBell had said, but it's not even close.

Evil people seem to exist everywhere.

19 posted on 07/08/2014 5:23:04 PM PDT by Balding_Eagle (I am a proud citizen of an idea called America.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 4 | View Replies]

To: Opinionated Blowhard
Talk about a perfect example of the psychosis that creates battered wives.

I dated a wonderful gal who was the ex-wife of an abusive alcoholic. It wasn't until he pulled over to the side of the road in their car, broke her jaw then kicked her out between Detroit and Ann Arbor that she finally had enough.........

20 posted on 07/08/2014 5:25:53 PM PDT by Hot Tabasco (By now, everyone should know that you shoot a zombie in the head. Don't try to reason with them...)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 16 | View Replies]

To: BBell
Dont' mess with those Kenner women!


21 posted on 07/08/2014 5:26:29 PM PDT by grundle
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell

“a narrative began to emerge of unreported domestic abuse, which culminated in a deadly confrontation between the couple of 16 years.”

When he is dead, he can’t defend himself.

When he is dead she can make up any story she wants.


22 posted on 07/08/2014 5:48:52 PM PDT by Hulka
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: BBell
"Things have escalated, and here we are today with him being shot," McGregor said.

This is not a funny story, but for some reason that line made me crack up. I was like "Oh, okay, thank you for that elegant summary."

23 posted on 07/08/2014 5:53:45 PM PDT by A_perfect_lady
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: A_perfect_lady

It did seem a little odd, the same tone as, “Well, we worked hard, and the thing just grew, and now we have a Founders Day celebration!”


24 posted on 07/08/2014 5:57:30 PM PDT by JennysCool (My hypocrisy goes only so far)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 23 | View Replies]

To: Hulka
You really should read the article before you make STUPID comments.
25 posted on 07/08/2014 6:07:10 PM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 22 | View Replies]

To: BBell

That would take the fun out of freeping.


26 posted on 07/08/2014 6:07:44 PM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 25 | View Replies]

To: GeronL

Sometimes I think half the people here are illiterate.


27 posted on 07/08/2014 6:11:44 PM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 26 | View Replies]

To: JennysCool

Exactly!


28 posted on 07/08/2014 6:14:04 PM PDT by A_perfect_lady
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 24 | View Replies]

To: Hulka; BBell; GeronL
When he is dead, he can’t defend himself. When he is dead she can make up any story she wants.

Well consider, if you will, that the dead husband’s relatives support her story.

Though Kenner Police have no records of phone calls or reports to authorities, relatives of both Lyndell and Melissa Desilva, including the couple's children, told investigators that she suffered years of abuse at his hands, according to McGregor.

Then consider that the police are turning over the case to the DA because they want to be fair and all of the available evidence supports her story.

"You've got a victim of a battery," he said. "You've got a individual (Lyndell Desilva) that is armed. There's a history of domestic violence. She felt threatened. She felt she was protecting her children. He wasn't living there at the time, and he's the instigator of the fight. She had marks and bruises on her that support the report of domestic violence. You take all of that into consideration."

29 posted on 07/08/2014 6:34:09 PM PDT by Pontiac (The welfare state must fail because it is contrary to human nature and diminishes the human spirit.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 22 | View Replies]

To: A_perfect_lady

Being a cop is a weird job. They can’t say the obvious thing, like “looks like the prick finally went to far.” But people still want commentary, so they have to use neutral cop speak and say things like, “the escalation of the ongoing situation resulted in the issuing of several projectiles at a high rate of speed that resulted in the expiration of one of the subjects of interest in this situation.” And then they turn away from the mic and mutter “and good riddance, too.”


30 posted on 07/08/2014 7:31:28 PM PDT by Talisker (One who commands, must obey.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 23 | View Replies]

To: Pontiac
Well consider, if you will, that the dead husband’s relatives support her story.

Yes, possibly a big factor in the police decision to wait for the DA's decision to forego an arrest at this time. BTW, one of the photos of Lyndell at nola.com is tagged as provided by the Kenner PD. Since the late Mr. Desilva was very much alive in the photo, I'm sure the Kenner cops knew more about him than they're stating in this case.

31 posted on 07/08/2014 7:39:01 PM PDT by Charles Martel (Endeavor to persevere...)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 29 | View Replies]

To: Balding_Eagle; BBell

Doing my Daniel Tosh Impression 7 minutes:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=im3hoZSCMek


32 posted on 07/08/2014 9:37:28 PM PDT by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 19 | View Replies]

To: BBell

Name calling on the net.

What are you, a 12-yr old democrat?

You should really grow up.


33 posted on 07/09/2014 6:45:23 AM PDT by Hulka
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 25 | View Replies]

To: Talisker

LOL... that’s like being a teacher. You cannot tell a parent, “Your child is lazy, dumb, and spoiled.” You have to say, “Francisco is having difficulties remaining focused for sustained periods of time. This is a skill that he needs to develop, but I’m worried about his motivation because he has specific challenges in the area of audio-visual processing and self-expression.”


34 posted on 07/09/2014 8:38:11 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 30 | View Replies]

To: A_perfect_lady

Perfect bureaucratic double-talk.


35 posted on 07/09/2014 9:54:31 AM PDT by Hulka
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 34 | View Replies]

To: BBell
Melissa Desilva, 34, was apologetic as she tried to render aid.

I did not mean to shoot my husband, the third time...
36 posted on 07/09/2014 9:58:08 AM PDT by Delta Dawn (Fluent in two languages: English and cursive.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Hulka

Honestly, after the stupid comments you have made you are not worth responding to.


37 posted on 07/09/2014 12:09:53 PM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 33 | View Replies]

To: BBell

But yet, there you are.


38 posted on 07/09/2014 3:48:30 PM PDT by Hulka
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 37 | View Replies]

Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.

Free Republic
Browse · Search
News/Activism
Topics · Post Article

FreeRepublic, LLC, PO BOX 9771, FRESNO, CA 93794
FreeRepublic.com is powered by software copyright 2000-2008 John Robinson