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DATING ETIQUETTE
Campus Report ^ | August 2014 | Deborah Lambert

Posted on 07/31/2014 10:09:24 AM PDT by Academiadotorg

Kerry Cronin, who teaches a philosophy class at Boston College, was shocked some years ago during a class on student hookup culture, when a student inquired, “How would you ask someone on a date?”

“It’s easy to hook up with someone you’ve just met in a dark room after having a few drinks,” said freshman Frank DiMartino, who took the class. “But asking someone out on a date in broad daylight, when you actually have to know their name, can be really scary.”

Other schools are apparently taking notice of the need to explain the socialization/dating procedure, according to The Boston Globe. At Duke University, the Counseling and Psychological Services office runs a series called “How to Be in Love,” which also “helps students, recognize “toxic romance” and analyze their break-ups.” And in a “weekly spring workshop, The University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign included sessions on ‘being single and ready to mingle’ and ‘uncovering the dating scene,’among other topics.”


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: dating; hookingup; universities

1 posted on 07/31/2014 10:09:24 AM PDT by Academiadotorg
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To: Academiadotorg

That’s you tax dollars at work America. Boys in addition to needing instruction on how a penis works, also now need to be taught how to form sentences during college conversations. What are we becoming?


2 posted on 07/31/2014 10:12:53 AM PDT by Viennacon (Rebuke the Repuke!)
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To: Academiadotorg

Dating dos and donts (1949)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j_7eVWPjm6A


3 posted on 07/31/2014 10:13:38 AM PDT by lowbridge
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To: Academiadotorg
I think it starts with ... hello ...

I could be mistaken, though

4 posted on 07/31/2014 10:16:17 AM PDT by knarf (I say things that are true .. I have no proof .. but they're true.)
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To: Viennacon

BC is a private school. But your point is well taken.


5 posted on 07/31/2014 10:16:56 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (If you want to keep your dignity, you can keep it. Period........ Just kidding, you can't keep it.)
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To: Academiadotorg

Maybe they could do what we did in Jr High School and start with co-ed mixers or dances.


6 posted on 07/31/2014 10:17:58 AM PDT by AU72
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To: Academiadotorg

In theory, this is a good idea. Boys and girls DO need to return to the basics. They DO need to know how to date and act and behave while on a date.

Colleges and universities, however, are the LAST places that should be giving these instructions.

(Unless of course they are Christian universities.)


7 posted on 07/31/2014 10:20:02 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: Academiadotorg

The biggest thing to know about asking somebody out on a date is that it’s no big deal. Really worst case scenario is they say no, not much of an impact. If they say no in a way that’s mean or rude that’s actually a good thing, you’ll be better off without them.

Second biggest thing to know is that dating actually kind of sucks.


8 posted on 07/31/2014 10:23:19 AM PDT by discostu (Villains always blink their eyes.)
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To: Academiadotorg

I could have used this class, my social skills with the babes were beyond lousy.


9 posted on 07/31/2014 10:23:24 AM PDT by JacksonCalhoun
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To: Academiadotorg

Boston College is a Jesuit school.

The Jesuit universities have been aggressive about honoring pro-aborts at their commencements. This year, their commencement speaker was John Kerry. Of course, Cardinal O’Malley, who loves snuggling with pro-aborts, was there.

Boston College threw a huge memorial Mass to celebrate the glorious life of an abortion clinic receptionist who was shot by John Salvi. She was an alumna of B.C.


10 posted on 07/31/2014 10:25:19 AM PDT by Arthur McGowan
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To: Academiadotorg

Homosexual bath house culture finds its way to a “Catholic” college.


11 posted on 07/31/2014 10:26:43 AM PDT by Gay State Conservative (Rat Party Policy:Lie,Deny,Refuse To Comply)
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To: Academiadotorg

Not so long ago it was after how many dates do you have sex. Now it’s after how much sex can you start dating. Not funny.


12 posted on 07/31/2014 10:31:46 AM PDT by all the best
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To: Academiadotorg
Well, I recently sent my high-school age daughter this video on dating etiquette from 1949!! She loved it.

Dating Do's and Don'ts

13 posted on 07/31/2014 10:35:07 AM PDT by Maceman
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To: Viennacon

Well I sure had trouble forming sentences at 17 or 18 when I was talking (trying anyway to girls.


14 posted on 07/31/2014 10:35:46 AM PDT by Maine Mariner
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To: lowbridge

Ohh . . . ya beat me.


15 posted on 07/31/2014 10:36:03 AM PDT by Maceman
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To: Academiadotorg

I’m reminded of a line from the movie “Saturn II”

The guy sez to Farrah Fawcett, “You have a nice body. May I use it.”


16 posted on 07/31/2014 10:39:15 AM PDT by cuban leaf (The US will not survive the obama presidency. The world may not either.)
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To: lowbridge
Funny Sexual Harassment and You
17 posted on 07/31/2014 10:41:42 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: discostu

Second biggest thing to know is that dating actually kind of sucks.


Now that I think about it, my wife and I met at our 25 year high school reunion, which she flew 2,000 miles to attend. Our courtship consisted of 850+ emails and over $3,500 worth of long distance calls. On her first trip to visit me here, three months later, I proposed, and I’ve been in a marriage the likes of which is the stuff of chick films - for 16 years.

We never “dated”.


18 posted on 07/31/2014 10:42:21 AM PDT by cuban leaf (The US will not survive the obama presidency. The world may not either.)
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To: Academiadotorg
Geez, and to think that for thousands of years, people figured this stuff out all by themselves.

Truly, we're becoming a helpless society.

19 posted on 07/31/2014 10:45:40 AM PDT by wbill
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To: Academiadotorg

I genuinely feel sorry for this hookup generation. A culture of licentiousness has robbed it of so much of the beauty and sweetness and joy of life. Our culture mocks delayed gratification, but without it these young people have no clue on the pleasure of real romance where one actually gets to know the person they love before having sex. To them, sex is just an activity one does. It has no deep meaning or connection and provides no genuine intimacy.


20 posted on 07/31/2014 10:46:43 AM PDT by Nevadan
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To: cuban leaf

Yep. Wife and I have been together for 24 years, before we got married we mostly hung out and talked and read and enjoyed each other’s company during normal life stuff. And then we got the same last name and now we hang out and talk and read and enjoy each other’s company during normal life stuff. I “dated” the previous girlfriend, nothing but uncomfortable clothes, pretending to be somebody I’m not, and hoping dinner doesn’t make me fart; then when we took the “next step” we found out neither was the person we thought they were.


21 posted on 07/31/2014 10:49:37 AM PDT by discostu (Villains always blink their eyes.)
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To: lowbridge
First rule of ballroom dancing in Finland:

Da yentelman should be car-full not to wommit on da ladies' shoes.

(From a documentary, I swear.)

22 posted on 07/31/2014 10:51:11 AM PDT by skeptoid (the thot plickens)
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To: Academiadotorg

“How would you ask someone on a date?”

Grunt!


23 posted on 07/31/2014 10:54:36 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (Pubbies = national collectivists; Dems = international collectivists; We need a second party!)
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To: skeptoid

“You Americans are so naive. Like when you break up with a girl, it’s a big deal. In my country when a man wants out of a relationship, he goes to the young lady and says, “I break with thee, I break with thee, I break with thee” — and then he throws dog poop on her shoes.” - Steve Martin


24 posted on 07/31/2014 10:54:40 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Academiadotorg

Mark


25 posted on 07/31/2014 10:57:36 AM PDT by gaijin
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To: discostu
“The biggest thing to know about asking somebody out on a date is that it’s no big deal. Really worst case scenario is they say no, not much of an impact. If they say no in a way that’s mean or rude that’s actually a good thing, you’ll be better off without them.”

I was almost paralyzed with fear before asking a girl out when I was in high school, even if her best friend had already told me she would say yes.

“Second biggest thing to know is that dating actually kind of sucks.”

I really enjoyed dating when I was a teenager, except for the initial fear of being turned down for that first date. I did not enjoy dating as an adult, in the “re-entry” market, however.

26 posted on 07/31/2014 10:58:04 AM PDT by riverdawg
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To: all the best

well put


27 posted on 07/31/2014 10:59:59 AM PDT by Academiadotorg
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To: Maceman

And Don’t Be a Mr. Bungle

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iC8UUNt0fiU


28 posted on 07/31/2014 11:01:41 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: riverdawg

I was afraid of it in my youth. It’s really in retrospective that I realize it was dumb and a little bit of rejection just isn’t a big deal. Of course then it was made worse once I found out just how uncomfortable I was in a dating environment, suddenly then rejection wasn’t the worst thing that could happen.

I’d hate to be back on the market again, but at least I’d know my goal: no dates, only women whose idea of a good time is finding someplace to kick back and chat for 3 or 4 hours.


29 posted on 07/31/2014 11:06:04 AM PDT by discostu (Villains always blink their eyes.)
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To: Academiadotorg

Thanks for the well put. best


30 posted on 07/31/2014 11:09:40 AM PDT by all the best
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To: Academiadotorg

At first, I thought this was satire. Sad state of affairs we have.


31 posted on 07/31/2014 11:13:11 AM PDT by Bigg Red (31 May 2014: Obamugabe officially declares the USA a vanquished subject of the Global Caliphate.)
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To: Bigg Red

Our culture has been destroyed. The things that made America great have been systematically taken apart.


32 posted on 07/31/2014 11:14:24 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: cuban leaf
congrats - for many it's a nightmare you can't awaken from ;)

Just kidding - 28 years here - Blind date, the other girl who was supposed to show didn't and my wife was my friends "plan B". Engaged at 6 mos - married at 12 mos. She still laughs at my jokes - Im blessed

33 posted on 07/31/2014 11:16:13 AM PDT by Revelation 911
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To: JacksonCalhoun

“I could have used this class, my social skills with the babes were beyond lousy”.
I see you made it through OK without some lib class explaining it to you.
The human race seemed to propogate for a long time without this crap. It used to be called “growing up”.


34 posted on 07/31/2014 11:18:00 AM PDT by certrtwngnut
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To: Revelation 911

She still laughs at my jokes - Im blessed


The money quote.

Interesting note: The song “I got a brand new girlfriend” was out about the time my wife and I were getting married. She is from an airline family and eventually ended up at Alaska Airlines (which is where the picture of the three of us my wife, me and Sarah Palin) was taken.

We used to fly down to burbank “for the weekend” on a fairly regular basis. Always made me think of that song.


35 posted on 07/31/2014 11:20:56 AM PDT by cuban leaf (The US will not survive the obama presidency. The world may not either.)
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To: GeronL

Yes, the progressives have been very successful in their plans.


36 posted on 07/31/2014 11:24:23 AM PDT by Bigg Red (31 May 2014: Obamugabe officially declares the USA a vanquished subject of the Global Caliphate.)
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To: Academiadotorg

Why weren’t they taught this in middle school?

My God, today’s young adults have been deliberately socially retarded.

If they don’t know stuff at 20 that they should have learned at 14 no wonder they’re still living at home at 30.


37 posted on 07/31/2014 11:26:42 AM PDT by Catmom (We're all gonna get the punishment only some of us deserve.)
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To: Catmom

Today a “date” means meaningless unattached sex


38 posted on 07/31/2014 11:56:18 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: dfwgator

One of my favorite guilty pleasures is the old HBO Pee Wee Herman show special featuring that clip- 1981 I think? Phil Hartman etc,
Don’t be a Mr Bungle!


39 posted on 07/31/2014 12:44:11 PM PDT by radioactivereb ("I'm tryin' to think but nothin' happens!"-Curly Howard)
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To: Academiadotorg

Simple solution: ask her out via a text message. No verbal communication required.

Social media sux, especially Facebook:

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/3187107/posts


40 posted on 07/31/2014 12:57:20 PM PDT by upchuck (It's a shame nobama truly doesn't care about any of this. Our country, our future, he doesn't care.)
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To: radioactivereb

Did you see the size of that piece of cake?!?!?! Whoa!


41 posted on 07/31/2014 1:12:33 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Bigg Red

today’s satire frequently becomes tomorrow’s news.


42 posted on 08/01/2014 6:12:39 AM PDT by Academiadotorg
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To: Academiadotorg

Sadly true.


43 posted on 08/01/2014 11:54:45 AM PDT by Bigg Red (31 May 2014: Obamugabe officially declares the USA a vanquished subject of the Global Caliphate.)
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To: Bigg Red

and truly sad


44 posted on 08/01/2014 12:45:40 PM PDT by Academiadotorg
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