Skip to comments.DATING ETIQUETTE
Posted on 07/31/2014 10:09:24 AM PDT by Academiadotorg
Kerry Cronin, who teaches a philosophy class at Boston College, was shocked some years ago during a class on student hookup culture, when a student inquired, How would you ask someone on a date?
Its easy to hook up with someone youve just met in a dark room after having a few drinks, said freshman Frank DiMartino, who took the class. But asking someone out on a date in broad daylight, when you actually have to know their name, can be really scary.
Other schools are apparently taking notice of the need to explain the socialization/dating procedure, according to The Boston Globe. At Duke University, the Counseling and Psychological Services office runs a series called How to Be in Love, which also helps students, recognize toxic romance and analyze their break-ups. And in a weekly spring workshop, The University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign included sessions on being single and ready to mingle and uncovering the dating scene,among other topics.
That’s you tax dollars at work America. Boys in addition to needing instruction on how a penis works, also now need to be taught how to form sentences during college conversations. What are we becoming?
Dating dos and donts (1949)
I could be mistaken, though
BC is a private school. But your point is well taken.
Maybe they could do what we did in Jr High School and start with co-ed mixers or dances.
In theory, this is a good idea. Boys and girls DO need to return to the basics. They DO need to know how to date and act and behave while on a date.
Colleges and universities, however, are the LAST places that should be giving these instructions.
(Unless of course they are Christian universities.)
The biggest thing to know about asking somebody out on a date is that it’s no big deal. Really worst case scenario is they say no, not much of an impact. If they say no in a way that’s mean or rude that’s actually a good thing, you’ll be better off without them.
Second biggest thing to know is that dating actually kind of sucks.
I could have used this class, my social skills with the babes were beyond lousy.
Boston College is a Jesuit school.
The Jesuit universities have been aggressive about honoring pro-aborts at their commencements. This year, their commencement speaker was John Kerry. Of course, Cardinal O’Malley, who loves snuggling with pro-aborts, was there.
Boston College threw a huge memorial Mass to celebrate the glorious life of an abortion clinic receptionist who was shot by John Salvi. She was an alumna of B.C.
Homosexual bath house culture finds its way to a “Catholic” college.
Not so long ago it was after how many dates do you have sex. Now it’s after how much sex can you start dating. Not funny.
Well I sure had trouble forming sentences at 17 or 18 when I was talking (trying anyway to girls.
Ohh . . . ya beat me.
I’m reminded of a line from the movie “Saturn II”
The guy sez to Farrah Fawcett, “You have a nice body. May I use it.”
Second biggest thing to know is that dating actually kind of sucks.
We never “dated”.
Truly, we're becoming a helpless society.
I genuinely feel sorry for this hookup generation. A culture of licentiousness has robbed it of so much of the beauty and sweetness and joy of life. Our culture mocks delayed gratification, but without it these young people have no clue on the pleasure of real romance where one actually gets to know the person they love before having sex. To them, sex is just an activity one does. It has no deep meaning or connection and provides no genuine intimacy.
Yep. Wife and I have been together for 24 years, before we got married we mostly hung out and talked and read and enjoyed each other’s company during normal life stuff. And then we got the same last name and now we hang out and talk and read and enjoy each other’s company during normal life stuff. I “dated” the previous girlfriend, nothing but uncomfortable clothes, pretending to be somebody I’m not, and hoping dinner doesn’t make me fart; then when we took the “next step” we found out neither was the person we thought they were.
Da yentelman should be car-full not to wommit on da ladies' shoes.
(From a documentary, I swear.)
How would you ask someone on a date?
“You Americans are so naive. Like when you break up with a girl, it’s a big deal. In my country when a man wants out of a relationship, he goes to the young lady and says, “I break with thee, I break with thee, I break with thee” — and then he throws dog poop on her shoes.” - Steve Martin
I was almost paralyzed with fear before asking a girl out when I was in high school, even if her best friend had already told me she would say yes.
“Second biggest thing to know is that dating actually kind of sucks.”
I really enjoyed dating when I was a teenager, except for the initial fear of being turned down for that first date. I did not enjoy dating as an adult, in the “re-entry” market, however.
And Don’t Be a Mr. Bungle
I was afraid of it in my youth. It’s really in retrospective that I realize it was dumb and a little bit of rejection just isn’t a big deal. Of course then it was made worse once I found out just how uncomfortable I was in a dating environment, suddenly then rejection wasn’t the worst thing that could happen.
I’d hate to be back on the market again, but at least I’d know my goal: no dates, only women whose idea of a good time is finding someplace to kick back and chat for 3 or 4 hours.
Thanks for the well put. best
At first, I thought this was satire. Sad state of affairs we have.
Our culture has been destroyed. The things that made America great have been systematically taken apart.
Just kidding - 28 years here - Blind date, the other girl who was supposed to show didn't and my wife was my friends "plan B". Engaged at 6 mos - married at 12 mos. She still laughs at my jokes - Im blessed
“I could have used this class, my social skills with the babes were beyond lousy”.
I see you made it through OK without some lib class explaining it to you.
The human race seemed to propogate for a long time without this crap. It used to be called “growing up”.
She still laughs at my jokes - Im blessed
Interesting note: The song “I got a brand new girlfriend” was out about the time my wife and I were getting married. She is from an airline family and eventually ended up at Alaska Airlines (which is where the picture of the three of us my wife, me and Sarah Palin) was taken.
We used to fly down to burbank “for the weekend” on a fairly regular basis. Always made me think of that song.
Yes, the progressives have been very successful in their plans.
Why weren’t they taught this in middle school?
My God, today’s young adults have been deliberately socially retarded.
If they don’t know stuff at 20 that they should have learned at 14 no wonder they’re still living at home at 30.
Today a “date” means meaningless unattached sex
One of my favorite guilty pleasures is the old HBO Pee Wee Herman show special featuring that clip- 1981 I think? Phil Hartman etc,
Don’t be a Mr Bungle!
Simple solution: ask her out via a text message. No verbal communication required.
Social media sux, especially Facebook:
Did you see the size of that piece of cake?!?!?! Whoa!
today’s satire frequently becomes tomorrow’s news.
and truly sad