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Flash: Christians Actually Far Less Likely to Divorce
Townhall.com ^ | August 18, 2014 | Matt Barber

Posted on 08/18/2014 4:25:18 AM PDT by Kaslin

This is a game-changer. Talk about “an old wives’ tale.” You’ve heard it said that 1) 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, 2) most marriages that do happen to make it are, nonetheless, unhappy, and 3) Christians are just as likely to divorce as non-believers.

These claims, long understood to be research-based facts, never quite sat right with me. Still, admittedly, while these assertions do swim upstream against the flow of both our common sense and our common experience, we have, nevertheless, accepted them (present company included) as valid because – well, you know, because “social science …”

As it turns out, your gut was right. It’s all nonsense – urban legend of a sort, propagated, most likely, by the same post-moderns who, today, seek to similarly undermine the God-designed institution of legitimate man-woman marriage by redefining it into oblivion.

Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-trained researcher and author. In her recently released book, “The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce,” Feldhahn details groundbreaking findings from an extensive eight-year study on marriage and divorce. Among other things, her research found:

In an interview with CBN News, Feldhahn shared that, like most of us, she had swallowed the anti-marriage propaganda hook, line and sinker. She believed, “that most marriages are unhappy and 50 percent of them end in divorce, even in the church.”

The CBN story continues:

“‘I didn’t know. … I’ve stood up on stage and said every one of these wrong statistics.’

“Then eight years ago, she asked assistant Tally Whitehead for specific research on divorce for an article she was writing. After much digging, neither of them could find any real numbers.

“That kicked off a personal, years-long crusade to dig through the tremendously complicated, sometimes contradictory research to find the truth.

“‘First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25 percent have ended in divorce on average,’ the study revealed. ‘Now, OK, that’s still too high, but it’s a whole lot better than what people think it is,’ Feldhahn added.”

CBN noted, “[T]he 50 percent figure came from projections of what researchers thought the divorce rate would become as they watched the divorce numbers rising in the 1970s and early 1980s when states around the nation were passing no-fault divorce laws.”

So, in other words, and I wish I could say I long suspected this, the 50-percent divorce figure is simply a myth based upon decades-old (and woefully inaccurate) speculation. As it turns out, the shelf-life for marriages in the U.S. has taken a sharp turn for the better since the 1970s and ’80s.

“‘But the divorce rate has been dropping,’ Feldhahn said. ‘We’ve never hit those numbers [the 50 percent figure]. We’ve never gotten close.’”

“And it’s even lower among churchgoers, where a couple’s chance of divorcing is more likely in the single digits or teens,” added CBN.

Additionally, the study determined that four-out-of-five marriages are happy. “That number flies in the face of the popular belief that only about 30 percent of marriages are happy.”

“‘Most people think most marriages are just kind of ‘eeh’ … just kind of rolling along,’ observed Feldhahn. ‘And they’re shocked when I tell them that the actual average is 80 percent: 80 percent of marriages are happy. …

“‘The studies show that if they stay married for five years, that almost 80 percent of those will be happy five years later,’ she concluded.”

Still, of the study’s many myth-busting revelations, the fact I found most interesting (and instructive) was this: Of all marriages, Christian marriages prove the most durable.

“‘The Good News About Marriage’ also reveals the divorce rate among those active in their church is 27 to 50 percent lower than among non-churchgoers,” noted the report. “Feldhahn’s hope is that once people learn the truth that they will spread it far and wide.”

“‘This is a great chance,’ she said, ‘to stand up and say. We were all fooled. Not anymore.’”

Indeed, “Fool me once …” and all that.

I’ve covered it before. Here’s what marriage is: the God-ordained, lifelong, covenantal union between man and wife, designed to provide men, women and children optimal stability and overall well-being. Marriage is that biologically, spiritually and morally centered institution calculated to ensure responsible procreation and perpetuate the human race. Marriage, real marriage, represents the fundamental cornerstone of any healthy society (any society that hopes to survive, at least).

Here’s what marriage is not: Anything else.

In short, marriage is what it is.

It’s encouraging to learn that, even under the increasing barrage of no-fault divorce and sin-centric marriage re-definition artillery, this cornerstone institution has, thus far, survived all efforts to destroy it.

It’s even more encouraging to learn that, as with all things, marriages built upon the rock of Christ prove stronger still.

I agree with Shaunti Feldhahn. Let’s spread the good news far and wide.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: christians

1 posted on 08/18/2014 4:25:18 AM PDT by Kaslin
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To: Kaslin

Good news. Another “fact” that has been fed as propaganda. I am finding more of them.


2 posted on 08/18/2014 4:31:49 AM PDT by marktwain (The old media must die for the Republic to live. Long live the new media!)
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To: Kaslin

Why are they showing Right hands when the wedding rings go on the LEFT hand.


3 posted on 08/18/2014 4:36:45 AM PDT by Ann Archy (Abortion......the Human Sacrifice to the god of Convenience.)
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To: Kaslin

I remember dating an Argentinian girl who, once we’d been out a few times shared why she got divorced having 3 kids. I figured it was a painful experience for her. Turned out it was because “she was bored.” I’m thinking she didn’t really want to discuss it in detail but she was so convincing, I really was shaken by it. I never saw much of her after that, I just didn’t want to be around that type of thought.


4 posted on 08/18/2014 4:38:29 AM PDT by Caipirabob (Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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To: Kaslin

I would bet that homosexual “marriage” has a 90% divorce rate. The state run media will never disclose this though.


5 posted on 08/18/2014 4:38:29 AM PDT by Flavious_Maximus
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To: Kaslin

One of the more interesting statements in this article: ““[T]he 50 percent figure came from projections of what researchers thought...”

In other words, a wild guess that turned out to be false. I suspect that this guess work is also prevalent in demographic studies.


6 posted on 08/18/2014 4:40:33 AM PDT by sergeantdave
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To: Ann Archy

Yeah - the OCD in me kicked in the moment I saw that: somebody flipped the photo?


7 posted on 08/18/2014 4:42:57 AM PDT by alancarp
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To: marktwain
I found out several years ago, that the 'food pyramid' that had been touted since my childhood, was not, as I supposed, brought about by MD's and nutritionists, but by farmers and grocers.

I was shattered...

8 posted on 08/18/2014 4:43:21 AM PDT by Wingy
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To: Kaslin

Looks like a German couple (rings on the right hand...)


9 posted on 08/18/2014 4:46:36 AM PDT by Quality_Not_Quantity (Liars use facts when the truth doesn't suit their purposes.)
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To: Ann Archy

Maybe they are Europeans’ hands.


10 posted on 08/18/2014 4:58:14 AM PDT by Tax-chick (No power in the 'verse can stop me.)
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To: Ann Archy

It’s probably a picture from some European couple. For example in Germany the wedding ring is worn on the right hand. During the engagement period the ring is worn on the left hand and is then switched over to the right hand during the wedding ceremony.


11 posted on 08/18/2014 5:02:08 AM PDT by Kaslin (He needed the ignorant to reelect him, and he got them. Now we all have to pay the consequenses)
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To: Kaslin
Hmmm...now why would that be?

He is now to be among you at the calling of your hearts

Rest assured this troubador is acting on His part.

The union of your spirits, here, has caused Him to remain

For whenever two or more of you are gathered in His name

There is love, there is love.

Seems a tad stronger of a foundation for a flourishing healthy relationship than...


12 posted on 08/18/2014 5:06:59 AM PDT by Caipirabob (Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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To: Kaslin

I had NO idea of that.....I’ll have to pay more attention.


13 posted on 08/18/2014 5:11:02 AM PDT by Ann Archy (Abortion......the Human Sacrifice to the god of Convenience.)
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To: Ann Archy

Because the author couldn’t find any ACTUALLY married people to take a photo for this article?! /s


14 posted on 08/18/2014 5:15:03 AM PDT by ExTxMarine (PRAYER: It's the only HOPE for real CHANGE in America!)
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To: Ann Archy
Why are they showing Right hands when the wedding rings go on the LEFT hand.

LOL good catch!

15 posted on 08/18/2014 5:15:09 AM PDT by Alex Murphy ("the defacto Leader of the FR Calvinist Protestant Brigades")
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To: Kaslin

it’s sort of difficult to quantify this as an individual. because when we do learn of people who have been in church for years getting divorced, it is very surprising and painful. so it takes on more prominence than it ought. but even then, it is nowhere near 50%.

in my own church experience, I am very familiar with a lot of second marriages as well.

at the end of the day, the 25% figure sounds about right I guess....just doing my own “statistics”.


16 posted on 08/18/2014 5:16:20 AM PDT by ConservativeDude
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To: Quality_Not_Quantity
See my post# 11

You noticed the bride wears a wedding band and a diamond ring. I was born and raised in Germany and when I grew up the bride wore the same band that she got from the groom when they got engaged.

So maybe it's something new. I haven't been back to Germany since 1979 when my husband was transferred back to the States and he retired from the Army after 21 years, 11 month and 7 days of service. Plus two tours in Vietnam for which he both volunteered. BTW we married in Germany

17 posted on 08/18/2014 5:17:27 AM PDT by Kaslin (He needed the ignorant to reelect him, and he got them. Now we all have to pay the consequenses)
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To: Kaslin

19 years tomorrow, been together for 21.


18 posted on 08/18/2014 5:17:29 AM PDT by manc (Marriage =1 man + 1 woman,when they say marriage equality then they should support polygamy)
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To: Kaslin

Bump


19 posted on 08/18/2014 5:22:07 AM PDT by Incorrigible (If I lead, follow me; If I pause, push me; If I retreat, kill me.)
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To: sergeantdave
a wild guess that turned out to be false

Hmmm ... sort of like the whole anthropomorphic global warming scam without the $ motivations to keep it going.

20 posted on 08/18/2014 5:29:21 AM PDT by katana (Just my opinions)
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To: Kaslin

The author hints at the root of these lies when he mentions “post-modernism.” That school believes there are no absolutes, and that anything can be defined by its immediate social and cultural context. It goes hand in glove with the marxist notion that truth is a negotiable commodity.

Similar lies are being told every day about global warming, homosexuality, sexual behavior in general, fiscal policy, islam, the nation’s history, and our national security. It is really very simple: they’re lies. Nothing more than outright lies.

“People will always believe the ‘Big Lie’ because humans have a limited capacity to fathom deception on the grand scale.” — Josef Goebbels.


21 posted on 08/18/2014 5:35:58 AM PDT by IronJack
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To: Kaslin

bump for later


22 posted on 08/18/2014 6:02:02 AM PDT by Albion Wilde ("LEX REX." ("The law is the king.") -- Samuel Rutherford)
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To: IronJack

Post of the 21st century. Taught in liberal universities outright and as hidden agenda in public school. I had one psych prof who taught “truth” logically in research design, warning of post-modern thought.


23 posted on 08/18/2014 6:05:26 AM PDT by huldah1776
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To: Kaslin

I’ve always thought this was a ridiculous assertion.It’s disturbing to see how many pastors and teachers are so eager to paint a bleak picture of Christians.

I don’t know why they don’t just title their sermons “Jesus Doesn’t Make a Difference,” or “The Ineffectiveness of Faith in Christ.” I cringe every time I hear this kind of trash-talk from the pulpit, and there is a LOT of it going on.


24 posted on 08/18/2014 6:39:12 AM PDT by cookcounty (IRS = Internal Revenge Service.)
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To: Ann Archy
"Why are they showing Right hands when the wedding rings go on the LEFT hand."

In your culture but not in every culture.

25 posted on 08/18/2014 6:42:25 AM PDT by cookcounty (IRS = Internal Revenge Service.)
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To: Kaslin

Good, now we’ve got an answer to gays who sneer, “You Christians need to get your own act together before telling us gays we can’t marry.”


26 posted on 08/18/2014 7:18:03 AM PDT by Nea Wood (When people get used to preferential treatment, equal treatment seems like discrimination.-Sowell)
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To: Flavious_Maximus

And would-be adultery burns as the Sun.


27 posted on 08/18/2014 7:30:58 AM PDT by onedoug
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To: Ann Archy

Maybe the couple are Orthodox Christians. We uniformly place the wedding ring on the right hand at the wedding, and the photo is implicitly a wedding photo. In America Orthodox Christians will often switch it to the left hand later, but not always, esp. among Orthodox from Slavic traditions who will keep the ring on the right hand.


28 posted on 08/18/2014 8:03:10 AM PDT by The_Reader_David (And when they behead your own people in the wars which are to come, then you will know...)
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To: Kaslin

There’s a “Christian” pollster , Barnea, who has been been the expert cited for decades.


29 posted on 08/18/2014 5:09:36 PM PDT by gusopol3
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To: Kaslin

There’s a “Christian” pollster , Barnea, who has been been the expert cited for decades.


30 posted on 08/18/2014 5:09:44 PM PDT by gusopol3
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