Skip to comments.Rethinking monogamy today
Posted on 04/13/2017 8:11:02 AM PDT by walford
"Most people enter their first relationships with the traditional idea of sexual exclusivity. It's just the way we're socialized in our culture."
For some couples, non-exclusivity might take the form of attending "play parties" together and swapping partners, watching other couples have sex, dating other people or even entering into polyamorous relationships with multiple partners. Determine what's OK and what's not.
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Actually, it has something to do with the Laws of Nature -- which are to be discovered, not made, by man. If we fail to learn and obey the rules, there will be consequences that cannot be escaped by anyone -- even if they're "open" and "progressive."
There is no animal that gets away with promiscuity -- certainly not any complex one. Other animals use either monogamy or a harem system. Either way, the females are only having contact with one male. That is a closed reproductive system.
[And yes, it is theoretically possible to have a closed system with 3 or more intimate partners. However, anything beyond two people is going to be inherently unstable, because it is unnatural. What is the longest anyone has seen an intact polyamorous group remain together -- and faithful?]
An open system in which males and females are having intimate contact with multiple partners [defining promiscuity] is unsustainable. It creates an environment that will be exploitable by pathogens.
Our technology can alleviate symptoms and kill off some of the weaker agents, but this only results in genetically engineering pathogens to become more virulent and intractable. Consider the transmission, mutation and incubation periods of HIV.
If not for promiscuity, HIV would have killed off its local host population and become extinct. If there is a cure found for HIV and the promiscuity of the '70s resumes, a new and even more virulent agent will develop and spread.
So it does matter to the community at large whether individuals are discriminating about with whom they are intimate. And the circumstances under which children are reared affects society as a whole also.
Children need a stable home in which the biological parents who made them also raise them to adulthood. Anything less than that is less than optimal, increasing the odds of truancy, mental illness, underaged pregnancy, premature death, criminal victimization, incarceration, suicide, etc.
Certainly parents can, through no fault of their own, find themselves being forced to raise kids in a less-than-optimal situation. But to deliberately bring children in the world with a strike going against them from the start is beyond irresponsible.
If those charged with the responsibility of raising children choose to indulge themselves at their kids' expense, that threatens to bring lasting negative effects to those around them.
Aldous Huxley called it correctly: “Orgy-porgy”
Increasingly I am amazed that I’m not driving past pillars of salt on my way to work.
Talk about a VECTOR.
Ford and Fun!
Another reason why I avoid CNN like the plague.
42 years monogamous. Thank God!
In other words, have no standards. The fact that human beings often resent and react violently to non-monogamous actions doesn’t seem to factor into their thinking. Even people who initially agree to a threesome or open relationship, often react badly when confronted with one in reality.
It briefs well, but more often than not, it won’t actually work in the real world.
For the record, I don’t have any first hand knowledge about topic. My wife is one of those people who would be very and violently unhappy if I tried it.
Chimpanzee females have sex with more than one male. The males in a troop are usually related.
Some pair-bonded birds cheat, both sexes.
What they are really saying:
Sharia Law supports polygamy
Monogamy doesn’t make sense anymore.
/// For some couples, non-exclusivity might take the form of attending “play parties” together and swapping partners, watching other couples have sex, dating other people or even entering into polyamorous relationships with multiple partners. ///
Is monogamy for everyone? A better question to ask — is marriage for everyone?
My answer is no. Some people are too unstable or amoral.
Monogamy means never getting caught.
Holy Matrimony with one spouse for life is the surest way to give your children a legacy that will be remembered.
“The fact that human beings often resent and react violently to non-monogamous actions doesnt seem to factor into their thinking.”
Going back before written history, it is likely that early humans noticed that those who slept around tended to come down with nasty, contagious illnesses. As culture developed, certain taboos that incorporated correct observations of Natural consequences developed as well.
Our ‘primitive’ forebears may not have understood the intricacies of microbiology, but they did learn Cause-and-Effect. If they had not, we would not be here.
So the size of our civilization may spread the effects so they are not felt as much, but the fact remains that those who indulge in promiscuity are a threat to the community — and therefore should at the very least be shamed and shunned.
Doctrine of demons.
CNN represents Democrapic thoughts on Marriage. SURPRISE, Surprise, surprise.
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