Posted on 04/03/2024 10:25:29 AM PDT by Drew68
Yep. When I get a little spare time it's hiking or kayaking with the grandkids or fishing with a buddy, and occasionally target shooting.
you forgot their mental illness, broken hearts, numerous venereal diseases, guilt from multiple abortions, and a nagging sense that they may have listened to the wrong people and now it is too late.
Hmmm, could it be that your profligate spending might just have something to do with it. I’ve been let go twice in reorganizations. Both times I was off work for six months. I am the sole breadwinner and we didn’t have the option to move in with family. I had the responsibility to do whatever I could to earn money. The first time, I busted my tail taking all sorts of odd jobs and doing light handyman work.
The second time, I had a better severance package, but we (six) lived beyond frugally. We had to move 700 miles for a new job and were separated for 8 months while we tried to sell the house.
My sympathy meter is pegged at zero. Maybe she should have some marketable skills.
As far as her whining about vacations, If you’re dual income, you make half of what your husband makes. Your cost for a fancy vacation is also exactly half of what it costs your husband. Let’s say 5/8 because you can’t split hotel and car rental costs. Again, when you’re broke, you don’t take a Caribbean cruise.
Exactly. Their expectations are out of sight and they are unable to roll with the punches that life delivers.
I also like to point out to the young singles that complain that Social Security etc. will not be there for them, that they had better get busy then and produce some little taxpayers.
Even if you do not have a second income just having someone to handle all the little jobs is wealth building.
You have a lunch packed for you, that saves money, you have coffee made, that saves money. You have someone who shops the sales, that saves money.
One of you makes the income, the other makes the home.
Looks like the Waahmbulance is full here.
Sounds like the new, trendy word for what I still call
“shacking up.”
You plus God is a majority.
He will never leave you or forsake you.
He’ll leave the 99 to go search JUST for you.
Because He loves you.
Never forget =o)
That's not necessarily true. I regularly rode or drove a different motorcycle or car or truck to this particular watering hole. Sometimes with a jet ski or boat in tow.
One day the barmaid remarked about all the toys I had and said to me: "You must be single."
I replied: "Yes, but how did you know?"
Barmaid: "You're ugly."
All prayers appreciated
Thank you and God bless you
I quickly learned at 18...
If you can’t afford the rent, you can’t afford a beer
Quit her b!+¢hun, get to work, get smart about your choices
...especially that stupid situationship garbage
Tough times make tough men
...not snowflakes
My wife retired in Dec 2023. She now has a pension and social security. We need to chat with a tax advisor to see how much of her pension should be set aside for taxes. I'm still doing the Single/0 W4. I don't want an unpleasant surprise for taxes next year.
My wife realized that if she had to bear the same level of taxation on her income that I pay on mine, it wouldn't make much sense to continue working.
That may be true for some….
But us divorced dudes definitely don’t see it that way.
Especially if you were married to a person who thought money grew on trees and spent it like a drunken sailer that just arrived at port.
My financial success stems from cutting off the bad debt and wife and working my tail off scoring deals.
For a lot of men, marriage is a financial calamity.
A few years ago my husband was laid off. It was the day before Thanksgiving when they told him. Great timing!
However, we knew God had our back and that if we didn’t give up, we would make it through things ok. God was there in the midst of our storm.
We discovered during this time that it’s not what you know, but who you know. My husband worked his Rolodex like I’ve never seen before. He took odd jobs as a consultant for one former coworker at a different company who needed a little extra help putting together a business proposal at the time.
One little job led to another little job and then another. On their own, each wasn’t much, but together the dollars added up. We scaled back on our expenditures like we did when we were raising our kids. Rarely ate out, watched our water and electricity consumption, things like that. Little by little we managed with the small jobs earnings.
Then one day, one of the companies he wrote up a proposal for asked if he would be interested in full time work. Of course, the answer was yes!
After all was said and done, we have thanked God that he was laid off from that one company. He is in a much, much better situation now.
What line of work are you in? Perhaps someone here at FR knows someone who might need your expertise. Just a thought.
My prayers are with you and your family.
I neglected to add that another fundamental key to sucess is STAYING married.
I looked it up. To see what the average cost of a divorce is. Was surprised to find such a low number.
How Much Does A Divorce Cost In 2024?
Forbes
https://www.forbes.com › advisor › legal › how-much-...
Jul 29, 2022 — The average cost of a divorce in the U.S. is between $15000 and $20000, but this is not a one-size-fits-all price tag.
If there are children, the non custodial is out hundreds more. Each month.
I’m sure you know all this.
I spent my entire career in banking dealing with formerly wealthy clients who lost it all in a divorce. I’m hoping you are one of the few lucky ones who managed to stay afloat.
Married twice. First marriage she betrayed me..embezzled money for two years as she padded her nest with the man she was having the extramarital affair with..Second marriage was great for five years and she died. Took another ten years to become financially stable and overcome the double hit. Tried to find another female but one can’t throw a rock without hitting a “bunny boiler” that is compatible and my age.
Being smart in a divorce is key.
I came out over $270k higher on mine than my ex with regards to the asset split.
She’s teetering on not having anything currently because of the disease that many women have when it comes to spending money to fill their internal void and wants/desires.
I also have a much more positive outlook on life than she does. Positive attitude reinforces realistic and good expectations and endings.
Finances are a religion and I advise all men to heavily scrutinize their potential partner prior to marriage.
From the article: “Gaia*, 27, is single and works as an au pair. She pays $3,100 for rent and utilities in Philadelphia every month.”
My jaw is dropping! That is what a person would gross, not net, at $20/hour. How much is this “au pair” making?????
Also, one woman was paying $2900 to live with housemates? I plan to spend 1/2 that to live alone! And if I couldn’t afford that, I would have 1 or more housemates and halve *that* amount [in a bigger place].
And it is true that young people expect to live the way their parents lived when they were older. I noticed this back in the 1980s. I am the oldest in my family, so I remember the earlier days of their marriage.
Situationship…. for what we used to call boyfriend/girlfriend.
All the intercourse and cohabitation, Only with much less actual commitment.
She needs to find a guy that gives good wallet.
WSWYDT,…….
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