Posted on 10/22/2002 11:24:51 AM PDT by shrinkermd
For a long time, Communists tried to do away with the free market and private property, with the view that these capitalistic institutions created oppression for the common people. But when it was tried, they discovered that getting rid of private property eliminated the incentive structure that made prosperity and civilization possible.
The feminists have worked hard to eliminate "the patriarchy" and male privilege, and give women all the advantages. We are starting to see that the changes have damaged the incentive structure which made marriage and children attractive to men, with the result that men are less inclined to be attracted to the idea of getting married and starting a family
The implications of this are troubling for the future of American society
Well, speaking personally, it is not that I am not inclined to get married, it is simply that I prefer to wait and make a good choice. Or at least a more informed one, based upon experience, rather than accept the first offer that comes along -or 'settle' for someone who is conveniently available.
Well said.
Will you be in "The Two Towers"?
Good point. "Single mothers" often complain that men don't want the baggage of a kid that isn't biologically theirs. Often that is true, but it's only half the story.
The other half is that if you get attached to your already-has-a-kid girlfriend's child, upon breakup, it can be a really sad scenario.
He was heartbroken, and rightfully so.
That's part of what I'm talking about. In the past, once marriage occurred, the wife had a strong incentive to make sure the husband stayed happy with the marriage -- if he walked away, things would get very hard for her. Therefore, her incentive was to get the best (good provider, easy to please) guy she could find within the fairly narrow time-window she had to get married in.
It's up to you to tame one!
If you think that the primary objective of men is meaningless dalliances, you completely misunderstand the nature of manhood. What you say applies to the sleazy minority, not to the noble majority.
I'm thinking of re-writing the script so I get those pesky hobbits in the end
---how Tolkien meant to end the trilogy
Reminds me of an old Mexican saying, "Do not dance on the table from which you must eat."
That is THE key to ending this mess....and that is exactly why it will never change. Perhaps "never" is too strong of a word. Let's just say that the industry (yes, folks, it's a business. Think about it) will go to extroardinary measures to preserve the status quo.
If you all think things are bad now, just wait a few more years. The industry will eventually get so draconian that a lot more men, perhaps as early as 18 years of age, will start getting vasectomies to keep from falling into the same trap that they saw their fathers fall prey to. When these marxists running the system can't use men's own children to as a means of control and extorsion, then they will go after men who just date women that already have kids from another man. I don't mean the paternaty fraud that has become so fasionable in recent years. I mean if you are fool enough to date a women with kids for an extended period, or co-habitate, you will get stuck for child support just like the father did. Don't even try to think that it can't happen.
Every weight has a counterweight.
Nature of the universe, and societies.
I recognize the size, scope, and power of the patronage network that needs to be overthrown.
And yes, one of the key ideologies feminazis are pushing is the idea that a "father" is any man a woman with kids wants money from---and nothing more.
Excuse me, but I AM NOT over 50! You might have seen them first run a lot of us didn't Ever hear of re-runs?
1. They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past
Evidently the guys in this survey don't know any of the women in my life!
2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying
Nope. I don't like 'living together' arrangements and would never do it. Also, I wouldn't court a young lady who had been in such an arrangement, or arrangements. Part of my overall policy (see below).
3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks
Nope. In an odd way, the best things in my life have started when I was set back to square one. If a woman took me to the cleaners, I'd at least be rid of here, be uncluttered, and I'd have the rest of my life to get it back, and more, as well as replace her with a fiesty young loyal woman. Hubba hubba!!!!
4. They want to wait until they are older to have children
Yea, I like that idea. Ideally I'd be older and more established, and my bride would be a vivacious young woman ready to build and manage a family - I ideally would like 4 children or so, maybe even adopting some.
5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises
Nah - change is life. I don't sweat that. These guys are just selfish, immature, and self-centered. Lots of men and women are like that and use that line to cover it up. Think about it - it says "I don't want to consider another person's feelings/wishes in my decisionmaking!" Pretty selfish!
6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasnt yet appeared
Nope, I don't like 'soul mate' talk and think its one of the most unromantic and arrogant concepts out there. The idea that there is 'one' person out there predestined to make me happy takes both parties and their free will out of the equasion. I find the idea of genuine romantic admiration - the deliberate choice of one person above all others, as far more romantic. Keeps 'destiny' out of it. Also, I have spoken with enough floozies to know that 'soul mate' talk is a cop-out: they can't make decisions and long for one to be made for them. It allows people of both sexes to stall and not make decisons.
7. They face few social pressures to marry
True! I'm 34, have my own biz, just moved to vegas, and having fun! Many of my friends have been married 7-10 years already, and I tell you, my male friends do look at my lifestyle with some envy, if I say so myself (it's more the Saab than the women, though! Oh well, it's both!)
8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children
Yes! No previously married women, and no women with kids. Sorry. Not interested. I like never-married women, ages 22-27 or so, without much baggage - emotional or otherwise.
9. They want to own a house before they get a wife
Just the opposite - I live in a nice 2br apartment, just the right size for me to work on my business, have a nice life, and not live in a place that's 'too big' for me. I have an idea of the kind of home I want, of course, but I am deliberatly waiting AFTER I get married - make sure the bride will like the place and meets her expectations. I'm an old fashioned Sicilian man - it's my wife's home, I'll just live there! :-)
10. They want to enjoy single life as long as they can
Yes, true. But I do very much want a bride and several children someday - that time is coming soon. But no rush at all!
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