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Humans 'Attracted To Partners That Look Like Their Parents'
Ananova ^ | 1-8-2003

Posted on 01/08/2003 9:22:17 AM PST by blam

Humans 'attracted to partners that look like their parents'

Researchers have concluded opposites do not necessarily actually attract.

A team of experts from St Andrews University found women are attracted to men who remind them of their fathers and men to women who look like their mothers.

They found that people are far more likely to marry those who look like their opposite sex parent, particularly when it comes to hair and eye colour.

Anthony Little, 25, who led the research, said: "We found that people really did pick partners who resembled their opposite sex parent.

"It is something a lot of people have never looked at or thought about, that their partner shares the same hair and eye colour of their mother or father. But there was clear evidence of this."

Dr Little, whose findings are published in this week's Evolution and Human Behaviour journal, says it is well-known that if a person or animal is constantly exposed to an image, they become more attracted to and comforted by it.

"There are obviously a number of other factors such as personality, etc, that people look for in their partner but it seems looks are important, whether a person knows it or not."

He added: "So the old saying that opposites attract really does seem to have been disproven. Rather, birds of a feather flock together, it seems."

The researchers say many animals, mainly birds and monkeys, also tended to choose partners which resembled their parents.

An earlier study by the St Andrews team found people with older parents are usually attracted to older-looking partners and youngsters in mixed-race marriages tend to be attracted to a person of the same colour as their opposite sex parent.

Story filed: 13:19 Wednesday 8th January 2003


TOPICS: News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: attracted; hogwash; humans; parents; partners

1 posted on 01/08/2003 9:22:17 AM PST by blam
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To: blam
I wonder what Sigmund Freud would say about this.
2 posted on 01/08/2003 9:25:20 AM PST by #1CTYankee
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To: Howlin; Ed_NYC; MonroeDNA; widgysoft; Springman; FreedomPoster; Timesink; AntiGuv; ...
"Hold muh beer 'n watch this!" PING....

If you want on or off this list, please let me know!

3 posted on 01/08/2003 9:26:07 AM PST by mhking (How about plaid or paisley?)
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To: blam
HA! This couldn't be further from the truth in my case and my wife's if it came out of Tom Daschle's mouth.
4 posted on 01/08/2003 9:28:09 AM PST by pgkdan
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To: pgkdan
Hehe, me too.
5 posted on 01/08/2003 9:29:35 AM PST by the gillman@blacklagoon.com
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To: blam
Nothing new here. So we choose partners who remind us of our parents...for better or worse. Every little girl wants to marry their daddy and every little boy wants a wife to be his mommy.
6 posted on 01/08/2003 9:30:00 AM PST by paltz
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To: paltz
Yeah, but nobody wants to marry anybody who looks like Mama or Daddy! (Blecch!)
7 posted on 01/08/2003 9:31:17 AM PST by wimpycat (Nothin' could be finer than to be in Caroliner....)
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To: blam
That explains why my wife is a woman...
8 posted on 01/08/2003 9:32:34 AM PST by trebb
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To: blam
*LOL*!!!

Nuff said.
9 posted on 01/08/2003 9:33:34 AM PST by k2blader
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To: mhking
My daddy has brown hair, blue eyes, and has had a "comb over" ever since I can remember.

My husband has a full head of thick brown hair and brown eyes.

My mother in law has dark skin, gray hair and brown eyes.

I have the whitest-white skin imaginable, auburn hair and hazel eyes.
10 posted on 01/08/2003 9:34:11 AM PST by wimpycat (Nothin' could be finer than to be in Caroliner....)
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To: wimpycat
Well I hardly think simply eye color and hair color will constitute an exact likeness of one's parents. I think the article is referring to familiarity being something we take into consideration when choosing our partners.
11 posted on 01/08/2003 9:35:46 AM PST by paltz
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To: pgkdan
Same here. My Mom is of Northern European ancestory.
I choose a beautiful Asian as a wife both times.
But my three sons all are drawn to blonds.
100% opposite of what we were supposed to do.
12 posted on 01/08/2003 9:36:11 AM PST by ASA Vet
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To: blam
Were they careful about ethnic groupings? I mean, many African-Americans marry someone whose coloring might match their opposite-sex parent -- but that's pretty meaningless, right? How about Jews marrying Jews? Or Norwegian-Americans marrying someone from their hometown (which has a high percentage of Norwegian-Americans). Do the Irish marry a lot of redheads? Because the opposite sex parent was a redhead? Or because there are a lot of redheads in Ireland?

This report could be noteworthy, but I wonder if they missed the obvious.

13 posted on 01/08/2003 9:36:20 AM PST by ClearCase_guy
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To: paltz
They found that people are far more likely to marry those who look like their opposite sex parent, particularly when it comes to hair and eye colour.

This is what the article says.

I do think, however, that we end up with partners who have similar personality traits to our parents, but I don't think looks have a thing to do with it.

14 posted on 01/08/2003 9:37:30 AM PST by wimpycat (Nothin' could be finer than to be in Caroliner....)
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To: blam
Well in my case and my relatives, this is pure hog wash.

My mother was/is a brunette of about 5'. My wife is a blond of 5'8". Our son's wife is a Mediteranean Beauty with dark brown hair. My sister is married to a blond guy who is 6'4, and our Dad had black hair before it became white and was 5' 10".

I can't think of a single relative on my side or my wife's side who married someone with even a slight resembalance to their parents or even their grandparents.
15 posted on 01/08/2003 9:39:08 AM PST by Grampa Dave (Bush/Cheney 2004 with 60 Republican Senators in 2005!)
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To: blam
My mom: short, with dark hair, hazel eyes.

My dad: short, with brown hair, green eyes.

My wife: tall, blue-eyed blonde.

QED
16 posted on 01/08/2003 9:39:50 AM PST by B-Chan (My prediction: the war on Iraq will begin at 0330 Baghdad time, January 31, 2003.)
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To: #1CTYankee
"Paging Mr. Oedipus; Mr. Oedipus please pick up the white phone...
17 posted on 01/08/2003 9:41:10 AM PST by pabianice
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To: blam
I have been married twice and neither of my wives looked anythng like my Mother. This also goes for my sisters who married men who looked nothing like my Father. So I guess my family is the statisical abberation. But wait, I have just been thinking of sisters-in-law, neices , nephews, cousins and friends, and none of them married people who looked anything like either of their parents, even when there were multiple marriages. Hummmmmmm?
18 posted on 01/08/2003 9:41:48 AM PST by redangus
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To: ClearCase_guy; wimpycat
"Because the opposite sex parent was a redhead? Or because there are a lot of redheads in Ireland?"

Redheads 'Are Neanderthals'

19 posted on 01/08/2003 9:42:42 AM PST by blam
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To: blam
Hmmmmm. My wife's father (rest his soul) was a 125 lb Filipino. I am 180, caucasian and, as far as I can tell, bear no resemblance to my late father-in-law.

My mother is half-swedish and looks it. My wife is a lovely Filipina who looks American Indian.

Sometimes I guess there are exceptions to every rule.

20 posted on 01/08/2003 9:42:50 AM PST by ModelBreaker
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To: blam

This definitely isn't true in my case.  However, you could make that arguement for my father and brother... what?  Lots of people have fathers who are also their brothers.

Owl_Eagle

" WAR IS PEACE
FREEDOM IS SLAVERY
DIVERSITY IS STRENGTH"


21 posted on 01/08/2003 9:46:47 AM PST by South Hawthorne
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To: blam
It has been said for years that a woman marries a man who reminds her of her father (both physically and psychologically).
22 posted on 01/08/2003 9:49:40 AM PST by Blood of Tyrants
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To: blam
My Mom- Dutch Hausfrau
My Wife- Lebanese Profressional

My Father-in-law- Fat-a$$ Drunk
Me- Don't Drink
23 posted on 01/08/2003 9:57:49 AM PST by socal_parrot (Did Julio Iglesias' Mom look like Anna Kournikova?)
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To: blam
This is total horses**t. My wife looks absolutely nothing like my mother. My sister's husband looks absolutely nothing like my father.
24 posted on 01/08/2003 10:02:11 AM PST by Intimidator
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To: blam
Well duhhh...
25 posted on 01/08/2003 10:07:29 AM PST by That Subliminal Kid
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To: blam
Two of my sons did marry women who reminded me of me but another went for someone entirely different (slim, dark hair and skin) both times. Hmm, wonder what THAT means? (No, I really don't want to know.)
26 posted on 01/08/2003 10:09:07 AM PST by Marysecretary
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To: trebb
Very astute, trebb!
27 posted on 01/08/2003 10:09:58 AM PST by Marysecretary
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To: blam
My wife: buxom brunette. My mother: skinny blonde. This study: shite.
28 posted on 01/08/2003 10:11:26 AM PST by Hemingway's Ghost
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To: blam; mhking
A team of experts from St Andrews University found women are attracted to men who remind them of their fathers and men to women who look like their mothers.

This is such bull excrement.

29 posted on 01/08/2003 10:15:14 AM PST by farmfriend ( Isaiah 55:10,11)
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To: redangus
........ I have been married twice and neither of my wives looked anythng like my Mother..........none of them married people who looked anything like either of their parents, even when there were multiple marriages. Hummmmmmm? ........
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This study suggests that your families marriage failures could have something to do with choosing spouses that do not have the traits of the opposite sex parent. Hmmmmmm?

30 posted on 01/08/2003 10:27:39 AM PST by JMP
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To: blam
I WANT A GIRL (Just Like The Girl That Married Dear Old Dad)

1911

Words by William Dillon

Music by Harry Von Tilzer (Info)

Verse 1

WHEN I WAS A BOY MY MOTH-ER OFT-EN SAID TO ME,

GET MAR-RIED BOY AND SEE, HOW HAP-PY YOU WILL BE,

I HAVE LOOKED ALL O-VER, BUT NO GIRL-IE CAN I FIND,

WHO SEEMS TO BE JUST LIKE THE LIT-TLE GIRL I HAVE IN MIND.

I WILL HAVE TO LOOK A-ROUND UN-TIL THE RIGHT ONE I HAVE FOUND.

Verse 2

BY THE OLD MILL STREAM THERE SITS A COUP-LE OLD AND GRAY,

THOUGH YEARS HAVE ROLLED A-WAY, THEIR HEARTS ARE YOUNG AND GAY,

MOTH-ER DEAR LOOKS UP AT DAD WITH LOVE-LIGHT IN HER EYE,

HE STEALS A KISS, A FOND EM-BRACE, WHILE EV-'NING BREEZ-ES SIGH;

Chorus

I WANT A GIRL JUST LIKE THE GIRL THAT MAR-RIED DEAR OLD DAD,

SHE WAS A PEARL AND THE ON-LY GIRL THAT DAD-DY E-VER HAD.

A GOOD OLD FASH-IONED GIRL WITH HEART SO TRUE,

ONE WHO LOVES NO-BOD-Y ELSE BUT YOU

I WANT A GIRL JUST LIKE THE GIRL THAT MAR-RIED DEAR OLD DAD.

31 posted on 01/08/2003 10:32:41 AM PST by moyden
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To: wimpycat
we end up with partners who have similar personality traits to our parents, but I don't think looks have a thing to do with it.

I felt my first marriage failed in divorce because the ex was not strong-willed and was intimidated by the women in my family. I remarried, my wife is comfortable with my family and very strong-willed. I think the physical beauty of a confident,capable woman is more attractive. (yes dear) But the first thing I noticed about her was the Mona Lisa smile....

32 posted on 01/08/2003 11:48:23 AM PST by no-s
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To: Grampa Dave
You know there is a pattern in that behavior too. Families have such interesting dynamics
33 posted on 01/08/2003 12:10:43 PM PST by mlmr
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To: MadIvan
I assure you love, I bear NO similarity to either of your parents! :-)
34 posted on 01/08/2003 12:26:18 PM PST by Happygal (Trying to think happy thoughts)
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