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RELIGION: In God's name?
Central Chronicle ^ | Saturday March 25, 2006 | John Ross Schroeder

Posted on 03/30/2006 10:45:47 AM PST by klossg

RELIGION: In God's name? The misuse of sex is one of the great curses of our age. The abuse of women is like a byword for our modern times. But it has absolutely no place in the church or the world. God has no part with it.

There is never any excuse for violence toward one's mate- certainly not in the name of God. `Husbands, loves your wives; dwell with them according to knowledge' (Ephesians 5:25 and 1 Peter 3:7, Paraphrased). This advice is the way married people ought to relate to each other. With deep love and understanding.

How did Jesus Christ treat women when he walked the earth in human flesh? The New Testament reveals he was a glowing example of behaviour. He transcended male prejudices. He treated women as full-fledged members of the human race. All of them! There was never an exception.

Jesus Christ engaged in meaningful conversation with women. He discussed the most profound topics with the most seemingly unlikely women, brushing aside objections from his disciples. He was streets ahead of them in his attitude and approach toward women.

Women were never sex objects. Nor were they confined to the kitchen. There is the account of Jesus gently rebuking Martha for putting her domestic activities on a par with his deeply spiritual conversation with her sister Mary and others.

Jesus was a marvelous communicator with men or women, young and old. And his example is the one that counts.

A brutish man beating his wife is not only greatly harming her, but is also destroying himself- denying his creation in the image of God- denigrating his very purpose in being.

It is tragic that wife abuse is a product of the way society has come to treat women in general. It is patently one of the worst manifestations of commonplace maltreatment and misunderstanding.

John Ross Schroeder

MEDITATION: If your mind wanders and you become distracted, always come back to the breath. With each breath, allow yourself to become lighter and lighter and more expanded. Experience the pause between the breaths expanding into infinity. Calm your emotions Observe your feelings, as if you're watching a movie -- the melodrama of your own life. Become a detached observer, just noticing what's going on, without reacting. If you're experiencing fear or anger or negative emotions, you can transform them by seeing your feelings as a ball of energy in your solar plexus chakra (at your navel). Visualize moving this energy upward to your heart, in order to transform these feelings into positive, loving energy. You can actually see it as a ball of energy, or you can just hold the intention of moving the energy up to your heart.
Another technique for calming your emotions is to visualize a calm, clear lake, reflecting the sun on a beautiful day; the water symbolizes your emotions; the sun symbolizes your soul or higher self. You visualize the lake being very still so it can reflect the sun clearly.

Still your mind: You do not forget the mind in meditation; you learn to still it. It becomes poised and alert. There is a difference here, because in meditation you are quieting the lower, rational mind and working with the higher, abstract mind. You are learning to focus the mind like a searchlight into the higher realms, in order to receive impressions and new ideas that can help humanity. The mind is held steady in the light, perceiving a still greater light, the light of the soul which infuses it.

A good technique for calming the mind is to become a detached observer, noticing your thoughts without trying to stop or change them, and without judging them. Simply label thoughts that arise as "thinking"; label emotions as "feelings"; label physical experiences or discomforts as "sensations". In the East, this is called Insight or Vipassana meditation. You disidentify from your thoughts and feelings, saying to yourself, "I have thoughts, but I am not my thoughts; I have feelings, but I am not my feelings."

Focus your attention in the present, letting go of worries about the past or future: be here now. Don't worry about the past or the future; be fully present.

Another technique for stilling the mind is to listen inwardly to the sound inside your head and keep your attention focused on it.

TOPICS: Activism; General Discusssion; Ministry/Outreach; Moral Issues; Prayer; Religion & Culture; Theology
KEYWORDS: abuse; healing; love; spousalabuse; theologyofthebody; wifebeating

1 posted on 03/30/2006 10:45:48 AM PST by klossg
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2 posted on 03/30/2006 10:59:09 AM PST by klossg (GK - God is good!)
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__It is tragic that wife abuse is a product of the way society has come to treat women in general.___

Not in our country. Not now. There are plenty of places where this is true. There are individual cases where this is true. But it isn't an American or European cultural norm. Why not talk about places where this is the norm?

Why this essay?

3 posted on 03/30/2006 11:13:24 AM PST by Knitting A Conundrum (Act Justly, Love Mercy, and Walk Humbly With God Micah 6:8)
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To: Knitting A Conundrum
Why this essay?

It is about abuse in "marriage." Abuse in love does not reflect the Trinity. And though the article happened to focus on the abuse of women, we also know that men are abused as well. And much of it is physical. Yet, women are much more likely to be abused.

Here is an article from USA Today that quotes stats from Family Violence Prevention Fund:

Studies shatter myth about abuse.

By Karen S. Peterson, USA TODAY

WASHINGTON — It is not just men who hit women. Women hit men, too. And the latest research shows that ignoring the role women play in domestic violence does both women and men a disservice.

There is little doubt that women get hurt more than men. She may slap him. But then he may hit her harder or more often.


A Brutal Picture

Most researchers agree more women than men are seriously hurt in partner violence. Some estimates of violence to women:

On average, three women a day are murdered in the USA by husbands or boyfriends.

31% of U.S. women report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend.

30% of Americans know a woman who was physically abused by her husband or boyfriend in the past year.

Source: Family Violence Prevention Fund ******

By not understanding the mutual role they often play, women are at great risk for injury, new studies show.

Still, the newest findings challenge the feminist belief that "it is men only who cause violence," says psychologist Deborah Capaldi of the Oregon Social Learning Center. "That is a myth."

The number of women who hit first or hit back is "much greater than has been generally assumed," Capaldi says. She says she is surprised by the frequency of aggressive acts by women and by the number of men who are afraid of partners who assault them.

Capaldi and two other female researchers call for a re-evaluation of treatment programs nationwide. Such programs focus on men and ignore women. Men are court-ordered into some type of rehabilitation, and their women are told in support groups or shelters that they had nothing to do with the violence, Capaldi says.

"Prevention and treatment should focus on managing conflict and aggression for both young men and women," Capaldi says. Each needs to understand the role both play while still putting a "special responsibility" on the man, who can inflict greater injury.

The three women did different studies but presented them as a team recently to a conference sponsored by the Society for Prevention Research. The National Institutes of Health sponsored much of the work.

The researchers emphasize they are not blaming women. "We are not saying anybody is at fault," says psychologist Miriam Ehrensaft of Columbia University. "But new data is emerging that says women are also involved in aggression. If we do not tell women that, we put them at risk."

Rita Smith of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence is not convinced that men are afraid of abusive women. "That fear is a critical factor in any domestic violence situation. And the abuse is part of an ongoing pattern to control someone else's behavior."

Murray Straus, co-director of the Family Research Lab at the University of New Hampshire, has found both men and women are involved in physical aggression, but he emphasizes injury rates are not the same. "The likelihood of an injury to a woman requiring medical attention is much greater. Men cause more damage."

The little-talked-about involvement of women in mutual aggression with men is "the third rail of the domestic violence field," says Richard Gelles, dean of the University of Pennsylvania School of Social Work. "Touch it and you get electrocuted." Both he and Straus have done studies that caused fiery controversies.

Gelles says the lifetime risk of a woman being struck by a male intimate partner is about 28%. And "depending upon who is doing the survey and how you measure it, you could get numbers of up to 50%." But he says a man's lifetime risk of being struck by a woman is also about 28%.

Many researchers' findings in earlier, government-financed studies emphasize the man's role.

Patricia Tjaden's study for the non-profit Center for Policy Research, sponsored by two government agencies, questioned 8,000 men and 8,000 women. She found women three times as likely to be assaulted in some way over a lifetime by a male partner than the reverse, and seven to 14 times as likely to be attacked, including beaten, choked or threatened with a gun.

Different research tools and methods pick up on different kinds of intimate partner violence, Tjaden says. But still, she says, she has "always had trouble with the mutual-abuse argument. Where are all the male victims?" It is women, she says, who are subjected to "systematic terrorism."

The young are particularly prone to aggression. Erika Lawrence of the University of Iowa told the prevention conference that one-third of newlywed women and one-quarter of newlywed men engage in physical aggression.

The subject of partner violence is a minefield. Even defining it is controversial. Some call verbal abuse a form of battering. And all sorts of studies are done in all sorts of ways. Those based on crime statistics and reports from women's shelters tend to show dramatic aggression by men against women. (Gelles cautions that some men may not realize or admit they have been assaulted by a woman and may not report it as a crime or seek treatment.)

"Family conflict" studies may reflect a broader population, Straus says, and take into account lesser types of aggression that don't lead to arrests or broken limbs. These studies show about the same rates of aggression by men and women.

It is clear that women suffer physically more at the hands of men than the reverse, says Faye Wattleton of the Center for the Advancement of Women. But still she says it is good to bring new research to public attention. "I applaud the women who had the courage to present these findings. We don't make progress by suppressing the evidence."
4 posted on 03/30/2006 11:35:51 AM PST by klossg (GK - God is good!)
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To: klossg

And there are people who want to paint all men as bad.

And they punish our sons in school and out, and strip fathers of rights, assume if a woman kills her spouse he was at fault.

Now talking arguments as abuse?

No wonder men are shying from marriage.

I have known people who were truly abused. It happens. But our culture doesn't endorse it, bless it, condone it, (unlike a number of other places in the world) which is what the article implied in its opening.

This is why I asked.

5 posted on 03/30/2006 11:58:35 AM PST by Knitting A Conundrum (Act Justly, Love Mercy, and Walk Humbly With God Micah 6:8)
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To: klossg

I find it rather strange that you have started off quoting the bible and what Jesus did, then this is presented in your remedy:

"seeing your feelings as a ball of energy in your solar plexus chakra"

This is eastern shamanism that has no place in the Christian life. You may say it's ok but the word tells us that a little leaven goes a long way.

6 posted on 03/30/2006 12:03:45 PM PST by John 6.66=Mark of the Beast?
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To: John 6.66=Mark of the Beast?
This is eastern shamanism that has no place in the Christian life.

I agree with you. Good catch. I put it out there because it has to do with the difference between men and women. The Theology of the Body glorifies the difference between the sexes.

The solar plexus chakra is voodoo associated with the writer. I was hoping to use the article topic as a starting point and a way to show that the body in its male and female forms is a gift. It needs to be appreciated, not abused.
7 posted on 03/30/2006 12:11:16 PM PST by klossg (GK - God is good!)
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