Skip to comments.The Serpent of Porn
Posted on 04/20/2006 5:26:26 PM PDT by wagglebee
(AgapePress) - Solomon intimately understood how powerful sexual temptation can be for a young man. It was with him in mind that he wrote the fifth chapter of Proverbs. "My son, give attention to my wisdom, incline your ear to my understanding .... For the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech" (Proverbs 5:1-3).
Those two sentences perfectly describe both the power of sexual temptation and its antidote. The wise king understood that, if a young man is to successfully withstand the charms of the temptress, he must be prepared ahead of time. Time spent in the Word every day builds up a man's immune system against the poison of pornography. The scriptures are simply the thinking and perspectives of the Lord. As a man continually immerses himself in the Bible, he will gradually take on God's mindset toward life, people and, yes, even sexuality. a man who devotes daily time to the Word is given spiritual insight into the power of temptation and how it works.
Notice again what Solomon says about sexual sin. He personifies it as an adulteress whose lips of honey represent promised fulfillment. The temptation seems irresistible because it is laced with deception -- namely, that the act of sin will bring about tremendous pleasure and satisfaction. The tantalizing thought is presented and all thoughts of resistance are forgotten. the act of sexual sin looks absolutely intoxicating and therefore irresistible. The smooth oil represents the craftiness of the enemy .... Fully camouflaged and extremely calculating, he presents the perfect illusion, timing each consecutive attack "to steal, and kill, and destroy God's property."
The wise man, whose heart has been fortified with the Word of God, sees the devil behind that intoxicating temptation. In the Garden, Satan exposed himself as the "crafty" serpent he is. I imagine him being very much like a cobra. Known for the hideous hood it extends when preparing to attack, it actually spits into the eyes of its victim before striking. With its target blinded and helpless, the serpent could easily squirm away into the brush. But this viper is not content with escape; it enjoys killing. With bared fangs, it lunges, injecting its deadly poison into its victim's body.
Injected ... Infected ... and Helpless
This is a fitting picture of the man lured into viewing pornography. The temptation usually begins when he comes across a glimpse of flesh and/or a sexually suggestive hyper-link. It is just enough venom to temporarily blind him to the impending danger. The initial presentation is stimulating, creating a sensual atmosphere which spiritually incapacitates him.
Now the serpent moves in for the kill. That one glimpse of porn unleashes a poison that rockets into the man's soul and instantly spreads throughout his being. Just like a snakebite victim, he enters a catatonic state of mind: a sexual trance where all reason seems to abandon him. Lust rushes through his body; his face flushes with excitement; his palms get sweaty. Solomon described this spiritual stupor this way: "With her many persuasions she entices him. With her flattering lips she seduces him. Suddenly he follows her as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as one in fetters to the discipline of a fool, until an arrow pierces through his liver; as a bird hastens to the snare, so he does not know that it will cost him his life" (Proverbs 7:21-23).
Conversely, the man who "receives with meekness the engrafted word" discerns the source of temptation that comes his way. He understands that, behind the beautiful illusion of pleasure, there is a snake -- coiled and ready to strike. He has been bitten by it before and has learned the hard way the price that is paid for every indulgence. He has the heart-knowledge (much different from head-knowledge) to "be a doer of the Word" and turn away from the temptation.
Continuing in Proverbs 5, Solomon went on to speak of the "aharit" -- the end -- of sexual sin: "But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps take hold of hell." This Hebraic term describes the inevitable consequences of all sin. He would later write, "There is a way which seems right to a man, but its 'aharit' is the way of death" (14:12).
Once a snake bites, its victim then becomes vulnerable to other predators. Some time ago, I watched a National Geographic special that showed a lioness who had been bitten by a cobra. For days, she suffered under the effects of its venom. Weakened to the point of collapse, she faced great danger from a roving pack of ravenous hyenas. She was helpless to defend herself from their savage attacks.
This is certainly true of the man who views pornography. Its poison, rather than dissipating after he has completed his act of lust, continues to contaminate his heart over the coming days. Its toxin remains in his system, altering his perspectives, polluting his mind, and spreading darkness over his soul. The lust it initially appealed to is now inflamed into burning desire. Rather than satisfying the man's sexual passion, it only serves to further ignite it.
Not only must the infected man deal with the after-effects of the bite, but now he is even more weakened spiritually against the enemies of his soul. He attempts to go about his daily routines, but lascivious memories continue to haunt him. These images are like Third World beggars crowding around him, clamoring for another handout. No matter how much you give them, they're never satisfied. Indeed, every gift only emboldens them to demand more.
No wonder Solomon warned: "Keep your way far from her and do not go near the door of her house, or you will give your vigor to others and your years to the cruel one" (5:8-9). The house of the adulteress -- much like an X-rated website -- is nothing more than a den of writhing vipers. It would be wise to avoid such a place!
God's Word is the Antitode
The poisoned victim's only hope for freedom is to go "cold turkey." Just as a heroin addict must lock himself up until the drug gradually works its way out of his body, so too it takes time for the venom of pornography to lose its power. Every tick of the clock could be harboring a voluptuous temptress, ready to lure him back into sin. And yet, every minute that passes without failure, delivers the man that much further out of her reach. When it comes to porn addiction, the longer he stays away, the better his chances of escaping her evil clutches for good.
Just as the Word of God prepares a man to face temptation, it is also the only antidote for the man once he has been bitten by the serpent of lust. Regular doses of Scripture are the very thing he needs to be built up spiritually and thus counteract the effects of the poison of pornography. "Precept upon precept; line upon line; here a little, and there a little ..." (Isaiah 28:10). Every word, verse and chapter he meditates upon serves to strengthen him.
Christian men must do everything within their power to avoid the "house" of the adulteress. Two practical measures a man should take would be to use an Internet filter on his computer and controlling his television viewing. However, the fact remains that we live in a snake-infested world. In our day and age, it is almost inevitable that men will face this temptation at some point. The wise believer will prepare himself for that day with the Word of God. It is only "the sword of the Spirit" that can sever the head of the serpent of porn.
"The Serpent of Porn"
There is no doubt in my mind that the libertarians will probably show up on this thread to explain how they watch pornography all the time and how wonderful it is.
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There was no doubt that someone would be out there judging others.
Solomon didn't need porn, with all those wives he had.
Who's judging who?
Thanks for telling everyone what to do or what not to do, I can tell you where you can stick this article.
You forgot to post this classic from Pure Life Ministries.
> Q: How does masturbation affect a marriage? How can I know if my husband is still involved?
> A: Masturbation is very damaging to a marriage because it is self-centered in nature. Marriage, in all aspects, is a joint venture. When one partner goes in a direction that excludes his/her spouse, (especially with regard to sexual things) it causes a deep rift that ripples through all areas of the relationship. Masturbation is corrupting. Sex was never intended to be solo. I wrote the following in my book:
Men in sexual sin can be extremely smooth and very cunning. Most have perfected the art of deception and have led a double life for many years. Only the Lord knows the complete truth about what a man is really doing in private. Therefore, the wife must really turn to Him for help, but sometimes it's hard to know the truth about what's going on
Does he give vague answers, or does he seem sincere? Has he been angry, defensive or combative like he may have been in the past? How does he treat you and the kids?
What about his walk with God? Does he seem hungry for the Lord? Does he look forward to going to church, or does he look for ways to get out of going? Does he spend time with the Lord each day? Is he reading his Bible? Does he spend hours sitting in front of the television?...
"If he is truly walking in the light, there should be some signs of real growth. A man in sexual sin, regardless of his personality type, always acts different than one who has a genuine heart after God
I encourage you to use the questions listed above as tools to help you honestly evaluate your suspicions. If, after answering these questions, you still have nothing concrete to go on except a nagging sense that something is not right, get down on your knees before God. Deliberately put your husband in His hands. Then, ask Him to expose any secret sin that your husband might be involved in. Finally, pray that He sets you free from any life-dominating fear. Trust Him to answer your prayers.
The 3rd tablet that was dropped by Moses had "Thou Shalt Not Watch Porn", don't remember the other 4 but I'm sure we will see them under this post shortly.
Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done
and what I had toiled to achieve,
everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind;
nothing was gained under the sun.
Is anyone here going to say that pornography is a good thing, a positive development of the past 40 years? Apparrently it causes a lot of damage to people. It's one thing to say you have a "right" to it, but another thing if it takes over your life and ruins your life or marriage.
Nah. Citing Ecclesiastes is tricky; it's not an argument for permissiveness but rather an assertion that everything is meaningless outside the context of God. That book in particular has got to be taken as a whole, not piecemeal.
Stick around and you'll see.
Welcome to FR.
But, the dude done did it.
Wisest man ever...
intrusive and judgmental scold PING
Find a child molestor who does not have a stack of kiddie porn, driving his fantasies to do evil. The only difference between adult and kiddie porn is the legality.
I've did a lot of things in my time that I would gladly have passed on if given the chance to do it again. Much of Scripture (especially the OT) is about the lessons we can learn from the mistakes of others.
Hence, the NT!
Paste this up on your computer screen and all thoughts of porn will instantly vanish.
Wow...that sounds like some seriously good porn. I sure haven't ever seen the like. Where can I get some?
Something about that title...
"Wow...that sounds like some seriously good porn. I sure haven't ever seen the like. Where can I get some?"
No doubt Jenna is in that one... : )
Another wonderful quote. Jesus to the prostitute who avoided stoning, IIRC.
We should all abide by such advice.
LOL! Helen makes a good scarecrow ;o)
My wife and I have all our porn. It can be banned anytime.
It's not porn when you're married.
Turn the camera off, please.
Without prejudice to the overall message of the article, Solomon is the exemplar of, "Do as I say, not as I do."
All is forgiven but sometimes scars are left.
"All is forgiven but sometimes scars are left."
But God can heal the scars if we let him. Jesus Christ makes all things new, and will do so to us if we follow Him. I know this.
sweet. i got to remember that one when i need an excuse
Thanks for your service.
"Who's judging who?"
did you read post 2?
"Is anyone here going to say that pornography is a good thing, a positive development of the past 40 years? Apparrently it causes a lot of damage to people. It's one thing to say you have a "right" to it, but another thing if it takes over your life and ruins your life or marriage."
Only the people that make a lot of money from it. It not only damages relationships on those that watch it. It destroys the lives of the actors and actresses.
"Solomon didn't need porn, with all those wives he had."
Gore hadn't invented the internet yet.
The solution to his loneliness and unhappiness is God. But, with sex literally HARD-WIRED into both genders, especially in young men, it's a hard road to follow. Contentment and peace usually come with time, but meanwhile, pornography temporarily, though inadequately, fills a gap.
The worst danger of pornography is that satiation occurs rather quickly, so worse and worse pornography is viewed and becomes mundane. Therein lies the trap. Where and when does it ever stop?
The men and women who step in front of the camera are basically narcissistic exhibitionists, with rather large holes in their souls...no self respect. If one can't respect oneself, then one cannot love oneself. When one can't love self, then one can't love anyone else in the world.
Therein lies a lifetime of loneliness and unhappiness.
Looks like excellent advice to me, no kidding at all. Masturbation is profoundly immature sexuality -- the epitome of childish selfishness. Grown-up men ought to have mastery over themselves and be able to resist that temptation. A healthy marriage makes it much easier to resist, also.
You missed the memo, again! Because chastity is difficult and requires self-denial, we're supposed to ridicule anyone who suggests that we even attempt it.
Feeling a little guilty???
You can tell that the ship is taking on water when virtue is viewed as slavery, not as the necessary prerequisite to authentic freedom.
Has anyone ever been able to?