“Firstly, I couldnt imagine how naive and vulnerable young women are their first year away from mom and dad (and thats if both her biological parents are still living as a family; its worse when shes from a broken home). Oh, and its far easier to ‘pluck’ a young man when in the company of incorrigible ‘friends’. Those unscrupulous young men who learned the knack of taking off a young girls knickers off said that it was easier than taking candy away from a baby...and that the girls thought that easy sex was suppose to be the norm.”
One hopes that by 18, one has done enough of a job of parenting that one’s son or daughter has some moral fiber. As well, in particular, the University of Maryland has a thriving Newman Society for the support of young Catholics on campus. As far as I know, the university creates no impediments to participation therein. Thus, one’s son or daughter may choose the company of friends he keeps, and that company of friends need not necessarily be incorrigible.
“Perhaps Maryland would do more favor for freshmen if the anti-God state didnt play surrogate parent. Yes, Maryland is a socialist state, pro-abortion/homosexuality/sin etc. The type of ‘authority’ not to be allowed to have ANY power over your children, and the type of local government not deserving of your money. Why would anyone trust such a government whod say that the Teachings of Christ are considered ‘hate crimes’?”
Having lived in Maryland since 1966, I’m not altogether enamored of the state government, nor its politics. However, your statements here are exaggerations. The fact is that, as I’ve said, the College Park campus has a thriving, orthodox Newman Society chapter, faithful to the teachings of the Church, and has not been banned for “hate crimes.”
“Secondly, I dont doubt that todays college kids are ‘technically’ more adept than those who graduated 3 decades ago, but many of the young adult I know dont know spit about why state sponsored Atheism is so horrible.”
My sons know. And I expect that any sons and daughters of devout Catholics would know, as well, in that it is the obligation of Catholic parents to see to the proper education of their children. Certainly, one doesn’t send one’s children into the world with no armor.
“It’s really not much of a statistic when the only real chance of dropping out is when your heart ceases to beat.”
Actually, going back a way, Maryland routinely flunked out 20% of its freshman class every year, and saw another large chunk leave of its own accord. That’s after one year.
Part of that was due to the fact that the university once had much lower entrance standards than it had graduation standards. By raising its entrance standards, it’s helped reduce the drop-out rate. The university also believes that by more closely supervising incoming freshmen, it has helped reduce the drop-out rate. Your statement that one’s only chance of dropping out at Maryland is if one’s heart should stop beating is just plain old false.
“What does a (fill in the blank) graduate say at his/her first job?’ Answer: ‘Do you want fries to go with your burger?’
This is a false generalization. For folks who graduate with degrees in medieval literature who don’t go on to graduate school, this may be true. But Maryland’s strengths are primarily technical programs. I know folks who graduate with engineering degrees who are keenly sought after at graduation. Even when I was graduating from college, when Maryland’s programs were not nearly as prestigious, I knew fellows who, upon graduation, took very nice, very good junior engineering jobs in some very prestigious places. These weren’t top-of-the-class sorts, either - just competent, reasonably well-trained engineers.
“Another point of ‘safety’ on campus: Virginia Tech. I dont think Colleges are all that safe unless youre talking about the FBI Academy.”
You seem to be veering off into a condemnation of colleges generally. Is the suggestion that one avoid college altogether? After all, all those Virginia Tech kids were slaughtered while they were in class, whether they lived on or off campus.
Your last paragraphs seem to address elementary and secondary education, as opposed to post-secondary education. As I haven’t sent my children to the public schools, I view that part as not relevant to the discussion.
The bottom line is that Jesus told us that we are in the world but not of it. We are to be the salt, the light of the world. We can’t do that if we’re not in the world.
I will do my best to prepare my sons to be in the world but not of it. In preparing them, I’ve shielded them from as many of the corrosive elements of the world while they’re young. We homeschool our guys; our older son will be off to a Catholic high school on a part-time basis this coming year. They watch little television, have no video games, we’re careful about the literature that they read, and how they make use of the Internet. Their curricula includes the things they need to become men of God. They receive spiritual guidance to that end, as well.
But at some point, they will actually have to go into the world. Not without support, not without assistance. Nonetheless, as painful as it can be to anticipate, they will have to face the world.
I know that this isn’t your fault or your family’s fault, and perhaps not your immediate communities fault either; because, it’s not my fault that my state is in love with death too.
I wouldn’t live in your state. Taxes are too high, and the supposed “Catholic” politicians make voters feel too warm and fuzzy about wedding homosexuals, murdering unborn children, and playing Frankenstein scientists. My state is far worse...but then I don’t get enslaved financially to these monsters either. Likewise, I’ve avoided the pitfalls of college politics. The need of academic stability does not outweigh the responsibility of the Natural Family.
Your state might climb out of the death trap faster than mine. It’s probably because of the blood and persecution of Maryland’s Catholic Martyrs and the Blessed work of the Baltimore Catechism. Also, the sin-loving party is loosing arguments to keep voters from voting for family friendly issues. My state would rather get high on drugs and wait for the sky to fall on their heads (and I mean that literally).
I don’t look at Maryland with the vision of seeing it through my state’s experience. I see Maryland as having worked in and around the area and attending the Catholic Churches there. I see the heavy brochures and (gasp) speeches from the pulpit of “war=bad and worse than abortion and homosexual ‘love’; so vote democrat because Bush is the devil...seamless garment...Frankenstein science on harvesting human zygotes for the ‘common good’ stem cell research”. So, perhaps the urban churches are a far cry from the countryside (and the countryside Churches were far more obedient to the Word than the inner city).
So, I don’t have hope in human politics and its laws to force freshmen to leave the shelter of home even if your kids are going to an excellent school. I’m sure it’s getting better. But, if you still hold these offspring as “tax deductibles”, then shouldn’t you have decision making power in where they live during their college years if they, themselves also want to live at home? But to have a state “authority” usurp that decision from you...now that seems more than just a tad tyrannical by way of morals. The cops in the big city have more to worry about than playing truancy officer to college kids that should be studying. Yes, I’ve been to Baltimore (drove down the wrong streets even...thank you God in Heaven for protecting me). Cops were not looking for college kids and asking them if they studied for that upcoming test.
But, if you don’t claim the young tax deductible on your IRS account, then perhaps the youth can live entirely as an adult of their own free will and a budget independent of the family from which they sprung. Then there’s no worry about where the adult lives on their own...with or without mom and dad. But why should a college or state care? Does a university and oligarchy of politicians really know better than you, the tax deductible’s parent and rightful authority and first friend in this world?
State and education institutions have overstepped the bounds of Natural Family. I don’t think that a State U is previlged enough to claim the sort of responsibility that a military academy has. If your kid was going to the USN Annapolis, then I would think that your argument for college kid protectionism as sponsored by the college itself might have a wee bit of clout. But since this is merely a secular college, I think that you have far more authority in deciding the security needs of your offspring, in spite of the legal “adult” age of the youth, then ALL state sponsored universities and colleges (and private ones, too) put together.
The world didn’t copulate your child into existence. That was God as Author and you and your spouse co-joined in worship that brought such creation. It was wrong for the secular state to impose itself into your family’s existence. Families should be telling the state where to go. Maybe your kids feel safe enough to live away from home. What about the freshman who doesn’t want to live in a dorm? What if she feels uncomfortable with students who are hostile to the “freaks” who call themselves Christian? Does she really have to live on campus? Will she get to carry a weapon for protection against those who stalk her the way the Virgina Tech killer had stalked classmates?
No. I think the child going to college should not be barred from going home to her parents ESPECIALLY during the freshman year. Laws should not be made that rip the Natural Family apart. Using academic stability as an argument is a lie. The many massacres, stalkings, date rapes, and naked political/religious hostility on multiple college campuses expose that lie. Laws like these are meant silence the lion within the sheep. Parents teach kids how to roar—not college professors nor students. Professors merely pass on knowledge of the world. Students are merely friends to pass time and releive stress. Parents are the true extension of Authority. The godless state can go to hell.