And the 'man' is to be to the woman as Christ is to the Church.... Christ willingly DIED for the Church... Toooo many men stop reading about their supposed 'authority' and never quite get around to what is their responsibility.
It's interesting to me that in his other letters, Paul separates his personal opinions from God's mandates, usually by saying something like "It is not I, but God, who commands this" or "Not God, but I, Paul." Here, he uses the same sort of language (I do not allow) but stops short of saying that it's God's command.
Just something to think about.