URGENT Anonymous Prayer Req for FREEPER Wife's Desperate Alcohol Problem

FREEPMAIL | 13 MAY 2008 | Quix

[Quix]

DEAR ONES,

IF any of you have suffered at all at the hands of Alcoholism in any form via any connection, then you may well know something of the traumas involved between and behind the hubby's words below.

I believe that only The Grace of God AND great persistent dogged efforts on the part of all concerned can bring victory in such matters.

PLEASE pray with me in behalf of this whole family . . .

--that the wife will decide deeply and comprehensively to be done with such an addiction, affliction, oppression . . .

--that her family members will be led of Holy Spirit in how to relate to her in redemptive ways vis a vis thick love yet insisting on her share of responsibility being born by her . . .

--that God become first and foremost in each individual's life in this family and for the family as a whole . . .

--that forgiveness flow easily and freely but not in a cheap grace sort of way . . .

--that Love in it's best forms rise to the top in each individual and in each relationship in this family . . .

--that each individual have the Grace of God; the resilience; the endurance, the doggedness, the patience; the firmness; the overcoming-ness; the courage; the pluck; . . . whatever it takes . . . to win out entirely for each individual in this family . . .

--that God would bring around each member of this family all the local support; prayer support; understanding; encouragements needed;

--that the professionals at the rehab center be anointed in their work . . .

--that the fragments of this family will be recombined in a stronger than ever whole . . .

--whatever else Holy Spirit would lead to pray

HERE'S HUBBY'S WORDS:

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. . . to post a prayer request for my Wife. She has just gotten through the DT’s due to alcohol. It was a very, very bad episode this time with text book hallucinations, erratic behavior.

I had to have her removed from my house and secured in a psych ward last Wednesday evening (very late evening). She is a very good, loving woman who is battling alcoholism.

Tonight, she agreed to re-try rehab after I told her I could not support her decisions any further. She is still fighting and I still have faith in her (had to do the tough love thing, I’m a wreck inside as of the moment).

Would you mind posting a thread for her for prayer requests?

If you could do so, I offer my thanks. I love my wife and have made some very bad decisions when it has come to her recovery. I hope that prayer can help both she and I heal and fight this disease.

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[Quix]

PLEASE, DEAR SAINTS . . . consider this as part of your family.

And, if any of you have overcome in such areas, please offer your knowledgeable encouragement and support.

Please insure that your posts are encouraging and compassionate.

Bless each of you who pray heart-felt prayers for this situation.

[lastchance]

Quix, I pray our loving and merciful Savior, Jesus Christ will heal this woman. I am not sure if you are speaking of your wife or another’s. You and I know that God can restore us to completeness. I pray that she is given the awakening she needs to forego this path of destruction. Alcoholism is a thief and a liar only God can break its bonds upon a person. Your prayers to the Lord will not go unheard.

[Saundra Duffy]

Prayers for help in the Name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

[onedoug]

Prayers....

[MS.BEHAVIN]

Prayers lifted, Quix!
Grammy and trussell, would you please PING your prayer warriors?
Thank you!

[MarineBrat]

My most heart felt best wishes and prayers for a full recovery. And a word of wisdom from my own experience... Forgive me if it seems harsh, but it’s born of my own school of hard knocks.

“Quitting” and “trying to quit” are two entirely different things. Quitting is pretty easy once you make up your mind. “Trying to quit” is a horrible way to live.

Heavenly Father, please hear my prayers for your daughter in need. May your Son Jesus hold her and her family near to his heart in this, their time of need! May He show her the path to peace with herself. I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen!

[tiki]

Prayers.

Hubby, you absolutely need to go to Al-anon, been there, done that, there can be a happy ending.

[Quix]

Thanks All;

For your prayers.

lastchance, I haven’t been married for more than 25 years.

This is regarding another frequent poster in the Rel Forum who needs to remain anonymous for obvious reasons.

Thanks tons for all your prayers each and every one of you.

Blessings and protection to all who pray and care.

Yours,

[Quix]

Good points.

Be assured that the hubby is reading this thread

and Greatly appreciates the prayers of everyone.

Note to DarthVader;

Thanks for the call. Will try and check in when I return.

[Coldwater Creek]

My heart and prayers go out to you and your wife, and family.

Here is a verse for you to claim for your wife. Psm. 119:49
“He giveth power to the faint”.

Maria

[I_like_good_things_too]

Alcoholism in many forms plagues my family and the freeper has all my prayers of hope for his wife’s recovery.

[Gamecock]

Done.

[Quix]

Yes, tiki,

I greatly agree about Al-anon . . . and MarineBrat, you make very good points.

thank you both.

[Quix]

Yes, he does.

All, please help BTTT this thread.

It’s problematic for me to BTTT at this time so I’d appreciate all the help with that

that anyone can offer.

Blessings,

[Brad's Gramma]

You bet we’ll all be praying for this dear family....alcoholism is a tough one to live with. Hubby did the RIGHT THING.....with love and prayer...they’ll all make it!

[MS.BEHAVIN]

BTT!

[ZinGirl]

BTTT....prayers for deliverance and understanding.

[philly-d-kidder]

Lord Let the Holy Spirit intercede and lead her from this darkest Hour Fill her with the Light of your Heavenly Grace...

[JustAmy]

Prayers for this family.

FAther, please help this wife overcome her alcohol addition and comfort and guide her family as she faces the demons. In Jesus Name. Amen.

[MS.BEHAVIN]

*HUG*
Thank you, Grammie!
Thanks to all your paryer warriors too!

[philly-d-kidder]

Today is the Feast Day of St Mathias he also happens to be the Saint for Alcoholics... St Mathias Help this woman! Ask Christ to guide her to full recovery and avoid relapsing!

http://saints.sqpn.com/saintm17.htm

[Quix]

THANKS TONS FOR THE PRAYERS

AND FOR

THE

BTTTs

LUB!

[ChurtleDawg]

We beg thee, O Lord, to be our helper and protector.
Save the afflicted among us; have mercy on the lowly;
raise up the fallen; appear to the needy; heal the ungodly;
restore the wanderers of thy people;
feed the hungry; ransom our prisoners;
raise up the sick; comfort the faint-hearted.

I ask this in the name of Christ Jesus

Thy Will Be Done. Amen

All glory be to The Father, and to The Son, and to the Holy Spirit. +

[KoRn]

May be of interest.

[Fawnn]

Prayers lifted.

[Quix]

THANKS TREMENDOUSLY FOR YOUR PRAYERS, AMY

and ALL

PLEASE REMEMBER JIMROB AS WELL . . .

Highly likely he’ll lose a leg in the next 48 hours short of God undertaking in a big way.

May all concerned be totally led of Holy Spirit in all JimRob’s care.

Bless, Lord, Please bless all who pray for JimRob and this alcohol plagued family . . . say “Family A”

May all who pray be abundantly provisioned, protected and blessed.

May the concerns of our prayers be overcomers in every sense and especially spiritually.

In Jesus’ Name.

Thanks for all the

BTTT’s

[ChurtleDawg]

To the husband:

part of Psalm 23

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures; He leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul; He guideth me in straight paths for His name’s sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for Thou art with me; Thy rod and Thy staff, they comfort me.

[LibertyRocks]

Just posting to say I will be praying for this whole family.

I don’t have any advice other than to say that God is a very important part of the healing process for all involved - this according to my BIL who is(was) an alcoholic.

May God bless this family and give them the strength and courage they need to overcome this!

[eyedigress]

This road is hard. I pray hard.

[Kathy in Alaska]

Prayers on the way for the wife to see what needs to be done and starts on that path, and for the husband, as he supports her.

[Ruy Dias de Bivar]

Prayers for you and his family.

My father died an alcoholic’s death. He would not get help and had a heart attack in an Oklahoma bar.

Ruy

[MarineBrat]

>>and MarineBrat, you make very good points.

Thanks. I quit drinking in 1989 and then quit smoking one year later. It turns out that quitting is easy and trying to quit is hard. Understanding the difference between the two is part of the key.

Trying to quit is chock full of anxiety. Asking yourself if you’ll make it... if it’s all worth the pain... What if I don’t make it? All this pain will be in vain. Should I tell my family and friends? What will they think if I don’t make it? Arg! It’s a horrible way to live.

I actually never “tried” to quit. When you’re trying to quit drinking, that really just means that you’re holding back and you’re still going to drink again. You’ve got to know that you’re done. I drank and smoked right up until the day I quit for good, and I had a great time while it lasted. Then it was over and I let go.

At first I was going to one or two AA meetings per day. Just taking things one day at a time. I’d have gone to ten per day if that’s what it took, because I was done with it and ready to do anything to make it work. After a few months I was having so much fun sober that there was no going back.

It’s a deeply personal decision though, and it was perhaps easier for me because I was alone at the time. I don’t know if it can be done for someone else’s sake. I had a nice apartment and a decent job and lots of “toys” and hobbies to keep me occupied. And family to be with when I needed to be with family. But it took lots of time alone with my thoughts to really understand who I was and who I wanted to become in the future.

Best of luck to your friend!

[dayglored]

I offer my prayers, and know that the Grace of God is present for those who will accept it.

Also I offer the advice that AA works, and Al-Anon works. I saw AA work at close range (my own family) and cannot recommend it highly enough. There, but for the Grace of God, go I. Yet, AA is not for everyone, so whatever this family needs, I pray they find it.

God grant them strength and peace of mind in what will be a tough road with a good reward.

[Allegra]

Oh, dear. I will most certainly pray for her and her loved ones.

I lost a good friend to alcholism ten years ago. She was only 33.

I pray for a much better outcome for this woman and that the Lord stay with her and give her and her loved ones the strength to defeat this.

[upsdriver]

Praying for healing in this couples life, all the way around. In Jesus Nane. Amen

[PGalt]

Health/life BUMP!

[JDoutrider]

I’m certainly no Saint... I will however submit a humble Prayer for this family.

[Spunky]

My prayers have gone up on her behalf.

[Gandalf_The_Gray]

I was a two pack a day smoker until I decided to quit. I was also a liter a day drunk for some 30 years until I decided to quit. I was morbidly obese until I decided to drop 100 pounds.

It took about five days to quit smoking. That is I stopped smoking on day one and quit thinking about smoking on day five.

I was in rehab for three days to dry out and had twelve hours of counseling spread out over several months. The counseling was mandated by the court and was interesting but not needed as I had stopped thinking about drinking after the initial rehab.

I decided to loose weight because I am subject to several chronic conditions that are directly related to weight. I picked a diet plan and exercise regimen suitable for my age and condition. Starting out at 315# 01 FEB 2008 I am down 40# and am on track for my goal of 215#.

In all three instances I used the same strategy. I visualize myself two weeks from now, completely free of the need to smoke or drink or indulge whatever vice. I fix that picture firmly in my mind and keep that projection in focus as I go about my daily activities. So far it has always worked for me. I haven't touched a cigarette in fifteen years, alcohol in nearly five years, and my diet is progressing at a nice steady loss of about 1/2 pound a day and I'm nearly half way to my goal. Best of all I feel better as my health is improving.

More importantly, I do not even think about "relapsing". When I was a child I did the things a child does, mainly satisfying immediate desires with no regard as to how those acts might harm others. I have put away the actions of a child and have discovered my life is much more harmonious.

Twelve step programs work because people believe they work. Rational Recovery works also because it asks that you take responsibility for your life. Their are lots of different ways to get to the goal of sobriety. In the final analysis the love and support of your family is probably more important then which path you choose to follow since they all lead to the same place.

Although I've got a particular dislike for the AA program since I feel it's counterproductive to go to meetings every week and sit around talking about "not drinking" with a bunch of more or less ex-drunks. Inevitably the subject turns to a relapse and everyone shows "nonjudgmental" support. Since think about "not drinking" is painfully close to thinking about drinking you can expect to feel that a little relapse might not be the worst thing that could happen. I find it's much easier to avoid the issue by not hanging around with drunks, ex or otherwise. Focusing the mind on things other then alcohol, and never ever think that relapses are part of the program. Project a goal, focus on the goal, achieve the goal. Yes, it really is that simple.

Regards,
GtG

[eyedigress]

I got in trouble with myself at one point and what worked wonders was removing myself from my environment. It took about 4 weeks but the will to stop won. I passed my limitation and recognized it. It saved my life.

[roamer_1]

Quix,

Thank you for bringing this matter to our attention.

Anonymous FReeper,

I read your words with great concern, as I know the road you are on far too well. I know the darkness and despair, the guilt you have for your act of seeming betrayal, the if/then scenarios you keep second-guessing yourself with. I know your entire family is being torn to pieces right before your eyes.

Be consoled by the inevitability of your actions- No person, no family can live with alcoholism. It always reaches a tipping point, and you must be content, in your own mind, that you had the will to do what had to be done when that tipping point came. No matter how the cards fall from this point forward, know that you actions were necessary, and you did as best as you could.

Know also that it is from within utter darkness that the Lord's light is easiest to see- He IS with you in this thing, for it is not His will that you should live in pain and confusion. I will pray that he keeps you in His peace, and that His healing comes to you, your wife, and your family.

Lastly, I would encourage you, as I stand as a witness that there is life beyond the road you are on. It was my own betrayal of my father that caused him to see, and to be healed, and to be restored to righteousness. He lived to thank me for that day, and died last year, many years later, the honored patriarch of our house.

Therein lies my hope for you- That many years from now, when this time is but a faded memory, you will know the peace that I know now.

[eyedigress]

I didn’t want to exclude anyone but after your post I must say that God was there and guiding my every step. I know this because there is no way I was guiding anything.

[VeniVidiVici]

Prayers for all involved.

Quitting is actually very easy, once the person finally realizes they have had enough. The hard part is identifying when that point comes.

[roamer_1]

I must say that God was there and guiding my every step. I know this because there is no way I was guiding anything.

Praise His Name.

It is such an awful thing to endure, but in the midst of it, look for Him, and He will light your way.

[Tammy8]

Prayers for this couple, that they have the strength they will need to fight this battle.

[eyedigress]

:^} I do. Prayer and is powerful. It takes a humble receiver that can accept the 24/7 transmitter! :^)

[amom]

Quix thanks for posting this thread so we can help.

We are joining in with prayers for this family. And for strength for this good husband.

[Pegita]

Heavenly Father, may these words be directed to the hearts of this afflicted family ... be thou their Guide, to the Glory and Honor of Your Name. Amen ...

TURN YOUR EYES UPON JESUS

O soul, are you weary and troubled?
No light in the darkness you see?
There’s a light for a look at the Savior,
And life more abundant and free!

Refrain

Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
Look full in His wonderful face,
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
In the light of His glory and grace.

Through death into life everlasting
He passed, and we follow Him there;
Over us sin no more hath dominion—
For more than conquerors we are!

Refrain

His Word shall not fail you—He promised;
Believe Him, and all will be well:
Then go to a world that is dying,
His perfect salvation to tell!

Refrain

[E.G.C.]

BTTT

[Freedom'sWorthIt]

Praying for this situation ....many good posts here.