I'm sorry, my FRiend, but that's not correct. God Himself says in Exodus 33:19: "And he said,"And I will be gracious to whom I will be gracious, and will show mercy on whom I will show mercy." God grants His mercy and grace to those whom He chose before the beginning of time:
"God, who saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was given to us in Christ Jesus before time began." (2 Tim 1:8)
"According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love." (Eph 1:4)
We don't choose God, He chooses us:
"...because God has chosen you from the beginning for salvation..." (II THESSALONIANS 2:13).
48And when the Gentiles heard this, they began rejoicing and glorifying the word of the Lord, and as many as were appointed to eternal life believed.(Acts 13:48)
There’s no contradiction there. “Those who ask for [mercy] in humility” and “those appointed unto eternal life” are the same people.