I must respectfully disagree with you, my FRiend. I do not believe that our asking for God's grace is required for God to grant us His grace. To say so would be to limit God's free will, and I obviously cannot do that.
God Himself says He is merciful on those to whom He chooses to be merciful - our request for His mercy isn't required.
Do you throw out the whole book of James? Do you throw out the great judgment parable in Matthew 25:31-46??? Why did Jesus tell us to love our neighbor so often in the Gospels if our destiny is already decided? One finds very frequently from the mouth of Jesus the need to do the Fathers will, to love God and neighbor, ...
How do you interpret the Book of Judges and the free will of the Israelites who went through the cycle of abandoning God 7 times just in the Book of Judges?
After the death of Joshua, for the first time Israel was without a leader. In the beginning of the book of Judges we read that there arose another generation after them, who did not know the Lord or the work which he had done for Israel. And the people of Israel did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and served the Baals... (Judg 2:10-11). How many of the present generation in the USA and other parts of the world do not even know how to say the Our Father? The parents never taught their children about the work which he [the Lord] had done for them. How many in our modern affluent society do not even realize that they do not know the Lord or that they do what is evil in the sight of the Lord? How many of us do not even care that in the USA well-paid killers, called obstetricians, stick a scissors into the back of the neck and into the brains of poor, innocent, defenseless human beings, and then suck out or pull out the rest of the body parts, over a million times a year! We worship the Baal of the dollar, of hedonism, of egoism and of self-sufficiency without a superfluous or annoying God. Seven times in the book of Judges the people of Israel went through the cycle of sin, suffering, supplication to God, salvation from God, and then silence about God, and then they began all over again to sin again. The world is about to enter into the second part of perhaps the greatest such cycle in the history of the world, suffering which will help many to call out to God. It is interesting that when the Israelites were tired of deciding and doing things on their own and experienced how much better it is to follow Gods chosen ones, they finally pleaded with Gideon to rule over us, you and your son and your grandson also... (Judg 8:22). How many Christians have also become tired of being the Pope and have made this same wise choice to follow Gods chosen one, the living Pope to whom Jesus promised that the gates of hell would not prevail (Mt 16:18).
I never said it was, and in fact, would insist that we cannot "ask for God's grace" at all, without first having the grace from him to do the asking.