I survived 5 children in their teens at the same time...big deal...I don't ever remember telling anyone about my and my husbands bedroom sessions or weather we used BC or not. It never came up even with friends...who do you hang around with for goodness sake..
Do you think artificial birth control is acceptable under certain situations?
You must be from another era. I was married in 2001. Today they have Viagra, Prep H, and the pill advertised everywhere. They have explicit sex acts on TV for children to see. Public figures publish daily "their bedroom habits". Nobodies volunteer "their bedroom habits" on Facebook, pictures and all. Today, people telling you that they use contraceptives is no longer considered "volunteering their bedroom habits".
Say hello to 2010, welcome to the chaos!
I don't either. It never comes up in any of the discussions I've ever had with people.
People who are infertile admit to that and people who use birth control don't announce it because of people like verdugo.
And you know what, verdugo, it's between them and God. It's nobody else's business. Not mine. Not goat granny's. And certainly not yours.
Who put you in place of God anyway? Instead of judging them, why don't you pray for them? They need that more by your judgment.
As the father of 7 I can attest that alnmost every time I meet somebody new while with my children (or if discussion of chilkdren comes up as small talk) that person makes an overt remark about how many children I have. Most often the remarks are due to their surprise - and delight or disappointment that anyone would or could have such a large family. So I do understand - its a bit like seeing someone in a wheelchair in that people are simply not used to that reality and don’t know how to react.
The remarks fall into 2 attitudes:
1. Why do you have so many kids - why don’t you use birth control?
2. Wow that is wonderful, I have __ kids. Follwed by “Wish I could have had more” or “if I had it to do again I would have had more” or something similar.
So, yes, I know for certain many people who are childless due to birth control.
Also, it is pretty obvious that taking strong hormones for 10 years or more (often starting around age 17 or 18) to shut down a perfectly healthy reproductive system is bound to have some impact on the long term health of that same system once you decide you would like it to perform as designed.
You must live in a very polite part of the world. My wife and I had a child 3 years ago, 14 years after our previous child. We had so many people say rude comments to us and ask if it was a mistake. People assume everyone is using BC. They had no idea of how hard we had prayed for that child.