My sister has epilepsy. She takes anti-epileptic medications and has done so since the age of eight. She can NEVER have a child because she can NEVER stop taking these medications. These medications are known to cause severe birth defects. Because of this, since the age of eight years old, she has known that getting pregnant is an impossibility for her. If she stops taking these medications, she will most likely die.
When you say that people who use birth control do not have God’s grace, you are ignorant as to why some women MUST use birth control. And to top it off, you are judging someone’s soul based on this? I pity you.
I write for Catholics. Artificial birth control has ALWAYS been forbidden by the Church and thus by God. It is God's way, not my “thoughts”.
“The tree does not understand the pruning, nor the ground the tilling, but the husbandman does”. The tree sees itself being hacked, and the ground sees itself being chopped up, they can't understand the reason.
The first thing a Catholic would do is accept the teaching as the truth, as it comes from God. then, they must work from there. In the case you described, there are various options that I can quickly see:
- the person might decide to never marry
- if the person married, the person might live a celibate marriage.
- and finally, the person could marry, and live a semi-celibate” life by using NFP.
The person talking to you has a wife that has been told by her doctor that she can die if she has another child to full term. I am not a “theorists”, giving advice that I would not enforce on myself.
Read the book I recommended above about the midwife, it has many real life stories like your sister and my wife live.
We will pray for your sister.