I refuse to go to my in-laws Catholic events (Confirmation, etc.) because of the horribly sloppy, wrong-headed Masses that are offered up. Men and women handing in shorts handing out the Host, little girls pretending to be altar boys - sickening! I just sit home with my husband and mail in the check, lol.
“Men and women handing in shorts handing out the Host, “
Handing in shorts? That would be a problem.
When I got married, in a traditional mass at an SSPX chapel, everything about the church looked like you were back in 1930. It was a small humble church. My uncles walked in and immediately froze! They genuflected and sat down without a word. You could hear a pin drop. THEY INSTANTLY RECOGNIZED that they were in a Holy place, and nothing had started yet. When the priest, the male altar servers, and the bride and groom, and others walked in for the wedding. they all were dressed like Catholics dressed at church in 1930's, my uncles were even more impressed. My wife was 25, that was 10 years ago.
THAT"S WHAT ATTRACTS MEN!
My uncles never forgot that wedding, and I'm certain that it was because of that ONE TIME that they saw/heard a real Catholic mass (the first since like 1958), that we were able to convert them before they died.(one died 3 seconds after receiving the REAL sacrament of Extreme Unction! Not that new fangled "healing of the sick")
you’re in luck — with Pope Benedict’s impulse, the Traditionalist mass and much of tradition is coming back. Though to be honest, I don’t see the problem with altar girls..
I hear you. Why attend when the disgust and aversion you feel could lead to a weakening of your own faith? In fact, we are prohibited from knowingly placing our faith in jeopardy. I used to stand in the vestibule as sort of a compromise but no more. The angst from even standing 100 yards away got to be too much. And I wasn't far enough away to avoid the assaults of the more aggressive 'peace be with you' operatives.