Skip to comments.“Dad’s Not Catholic. So Why Should I Be?” [Catholic Caucus]
Posted on 04/28/2011 7:55:21 AM PDT by Mary Kochan
I surprised our son one day. He was preparing for his Confirmation, and I felt it was important to have a heart-to-heart talk. I explained that while he will still need instruction in the Faith, that, in fact, it would become his responsibility to open his heart to the catechism and take it seriously. It was no longer just something Mom wanted. Confirmation should be something he wanted. I needed to know: Does he want to say Yes?
His first thought came out right away and I knew it had been looming for a few years: Hey, Dads not Catholic and you love him so why should I be? Dad hasnt said Yes, so why should I?
Hmm. This was the question I had been dreading since my children were baptized as little babies. What would I tell them when they pointed out the obvious theological differences between their own parents?...
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An excellent piece. Thank you for posting it.
Question Mary — I heard that now, while the Church allows a Catholic marriage ceremony between a Catholic and non-Catholic (as it always has), it now does not allow a Catholic mass. Is that true? Do you know the reasons for this?
Great response...now darn it, why are my eyes all blurry?
I had not heard that.
I married a Catholic, I’m not Catholic. I don’t know for sure if they would have allowed a mass but I didn’t want one since it wasn’t going to be a symbol of unity but division. I’d say if there’s an outright ban that would be why.
Goes to show that is why the parents are the first teachers in faith.
Just the oposite. They only started having Mass for marriage between C and non-C in the '60s.
As far as I know this has always been the case. I married my bride in 1980 and it was the case then.
thank you! So, no mass, just the ceremony? My sister in law is marrying a non-Christian and her Bishop needs to give a dispensation, but we didn’t know if they would allow a mass.
For interfaith marriages no Mass is usually the option because of the issue of communion. Non-Catholics cannot take communion in the Catholic church.
Filing for later reference, and to show my non-Catholic husband who sounds very similar to the author’s.
Thanks for posting.
Does this also applies to ecumenical marriages or marriages between a Catholic and non-Catholic Christians as well? Thank-you for your response.
In other words, those that have a priesthood line or deacon, priest, bishop line, not just a minister?
For example, the Orthodox,Anglican, and some Lutheran churches, as given examples.
**Dads Not Catholic. So Why Should I Be? [Catholic Caucus]**
Because when Dad and Mom got married he promised to bring you up in the Catholic Church. It’s part of the wedding vows.
Simple answer, but not always obeyed (or even remembered) as a vow.
Yes, any of those would be valid sacramental marriages because all of them baptize in the name of the Holy Trinity. A Catholic marriage to a Mormom would not be considered sacramental because Mormon’s are not a trinitarian church.
Incidentally, the Church recognizes the marriage of two Protestants as sacramental for the same reason.
The last statement, because of the nature of how the two Protestants are baptized, which is trinitraian. Even at a few Bible conferences that I had attended years ago for a few summers, baptizing new believers is done the trinitarian way.So that is why baptism is very much key, it is the gateway sacrament.
Also the if memory is correct, the Mormons do baptizing of the dead, which again if my memory is correct, the Catholic Church was NOT very happy about and is not scriptural in any way a couple of years back.
That’s not the case.
Thank you! I did not know where to get this information as our local parish priest was not really sure (I moved here to Poland a year ago and they don’t really know how to deal with marriages of Catholics to non-Christians!)
I have first hand experience with this. My husband didn’t swim the Tiber until the Easter after our marriage, but we still chose a Mass, because we wanted the grace and a mass.
My limited experience, with friends and such, if one of the parties is in RCIA, they often go with a mass.