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Christians Ignore Female Pornography Addicts, Until Now
ABC News ^ | May 10, 2011 | SUSAN DONALDSON JAMES

Posted on 05/12/2011 8:17:19 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby

Crystal Renaud's eight-year addiction to pornography began at the age of 10, when she inadvertently found a titillating magazine in her brother's bathroom. Later, masturbation, phone sex and cyber sex insidiously escalated out of the loneliness in her life and continued a cycle of social isolation and shame.

"Pornography became my closest friend. My only friend. Consistent, reliable," she said.

Renaud, now 26, had heard sermons at her Kansas City megachurch condemning pornography, but none had ever mentioned women. It wasn't until she met another Christian woman with the same addiction that she realized she was not alone and began a ministry to help others.

Now, Renaud has written about her journey in a new book, "Dirty Girls Come Clean," which she hopes will help others find the compassion and resources she didn't get until she was nearly 19.

When she arranged a dangerous encounter in a hotel room with a man, Renaud knew she had hit rock bottom. At the last minute, she backed out of the liaison and turned to God for inspiration.

In 2009, she launched a website, DirtyGirlMinistries, choosing the name to capture the attention of women searching for pornography online. In less than a week, she received more than 300 responses to her surveys and countless emails from women.

"When you have the church and their nearly silent stance on pornography even as it affects men, paired with women in the congregation being the ones who are addicted, you have a hot soup of silence, isolation and shame," said Renaud. "Who are they going to turn to when the world says it's okay, and the church is silent?"

She said the church eventually did address the issue in 2000 and today, Renaud counsels other women at the Westside Family Church in Lenexa, Kan.

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TOPICS: Current Events; General Discusssion; Moral Issues; Religion & Culture
KEYWORDS: addiction; addicts; porn; pornography; sex; sexuality; women

1 posted on 05/12/2011 8:17:24 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

where were these women 20 yrs ago?


2 posted on 05/12/2011 8:25:39 PM PDT by Razwan (Yeah, yeah, I know...Razwan, member since 30 June 2000)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Wait! Didn’t N.O.W. say that only men used pornography?


3 posted on 05/12/2011 8:28:22 PM PDT by oyez (The difference in genius and stupidity is that genius has limits.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby
so....it's the church's fault she sins?
4 posted on 05/12/2011 8:29:38 PM PDT by txroadkill ( "The system worked" - J. Napolitano / "We're sooooooo screwed!" -TxRoadkill)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby; Lazamataz

Nah. Too easy.

5 posted on 05/12/2011 8:40:03 PM PDT by martin_fierro (Which is kinda the point.)
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To: txroadkill

If that’s the way you choose to read it.


6 posted on 05/12/2011 8:47:55 PM PDT by cydcharisse (`)
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To: oyez

I was suprised to find this out, too. Though romance novels have always been popular with women.


7 posted on 05/12/2011 8:54:49 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

So, wait. She heard sermons condemning the use of pornography, but because they only mentioned men, she didn’t listen? The number of women who get heavily involved in looking at porn is probably much lower than the number of men, so it would make sense to hit the bigger target first. She couldn’t “translate” the lesson to her own situation?

“Gosh, porn is so destructive. I should think about stopping. Oh, wait, the pastor only mentioned men; I’m still ok. Phew”


8 posted on 05/12/2011 9:23:12 PM PDT by Little Pig (Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici.)
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To: Razwan

I’m sadly embarrassed to say I was thinking the same thing.


9 posted on 05/12/2011 9:23:22 PM PDT by BBell
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Good grief, I have known a few women who had a ton of these books. They’re soft core porn in words.


10 posted on 05/12/2011 9:35:39 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I'd like to tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Huh? Why pick on Christians I wonder? It’s not just Christians... but pretty much ~everybody~ has ignored the rising popularity of porn among women. Nobody suspects women being into porn.

Everybody but their I.T. guy, anyway.

Having plumbed the nether regions of thousands of corporate computers over the last 20+ years, I can safely say that porn is not only not just a male problem... but the gals are catching up in spades— and they’re often into far weirder stuff.


11 posted on 05/12/2011 9:48:02 PM PDT by Ramius (Personally, I give us... one chance in three. More tea?)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

It’s a CRISIS!!!!!!!! We’re all too free!!!!!! What about the CHILDREN??????


12 posted on 05/12/2011 9:48:20 PM PDT by Forgotten Amendments (I'd rather be Plaxico Burress than Sean Taylor)
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To: Secret Agent Man
I had a girlfriend in college who had well-worn copies of "My Secret Garden" and "Women On Top."

She was...fun.

13 posted on 05/12/2011 9:49:55 PM PDT by buccaneer81 (ECOMCON)
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To: Secret Agent Man

Men are visual, women are audio.


14 posted on 05/12/2011 9:52:37 PM PDT by allmendream (Tea Party did not send the GOP to D.C. to negotiate the terms of our surrender to socialism.)
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To: allmendream

Yep..sonci eyes for men...sonic ears for woman.


15 posted on 05/12/2011 9:55:43 PM PDT by caww
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Unless it’s male gay porn, there are always women involved, sometimes more than one..... Or so I’ve heard.


16 posted on 05/12/2011 10:06:21 PM PDT by MacMattico
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To: allmendream

Men target, women get pleasure out of being targeted. Hence porn usualy does not do it for them. However, lately, feminism has “empowered” women to seek and molest men the way “men do it”. This has resulted in strange sexual behavioral changes such as lesbian, bisexual and pedophilia amongst women.

Once that drug is in the system of folkes, it’s like any other happy pill while doing a horrible act, in the heart at least.

Do not ask Obama, he is so relative, a cop killer in the whitehouse doing murder poetry inuendos is ok by his crew.


17 posted on 05/12/2011 10:14:43 PM PDT by JudgemAll (Democrates Fed. job-security Whorocracy & hate:hypocrites must be gay like us or be tested/crucified)
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To: Forgotten Amendments

Think I’m gonna like you.


18 posted on 05/12/2011 10:51:59 PM PDT by EvasiveManuever (Shakespeare got it wrong. Not the lawyers... journalists.)
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To: JudgemAll

I hate it when I’m molested by Women.

Just makes me feel so cheap.

And used.

And... oh... I’ll be back later.


19 posted on 05/12/2011 10:54:52 PM PDT by EvasiveManuever (Shakespeare got it wrong. Not the lawyers... journalists.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby
"When you have the church and their nearly silent stance on pornography even as it affects men, paired with women in the congregation being the ones who are addicted, you have a hot soup of silence, isolation and shame," said Renaud. "Who are they going to turn to when the world says it's okay, and the church is silent?"

What is she talking about? The Church has consistently warned about this and preached against it, as well as contraception, abortion, divorce and other evils that are spiraling out of control

20 posted on 05/13/2011 12:06:40 AM PDT by Cronos (Libspeak: "Yes there is proof. And no, for the sake of privacy I am not posting it here.")
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To: Secret Agent Man
They’re soft core porn in words.

Some of them are completely hard core. Really really dirty.

21 posted on 05/13/2011 1:16:47 AM PDT by ccmay (Too much Law; not enough Order.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Those books with Fabio on the cover?


22 posted on 05/13/2011 8:04:24 AM PDT by oyez (The difference in genius and stupidity is that genius has limits.)
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To: Secret Agent Man

“They’re soft core porn in words”

Used to crack me up when I was in college. The girls who railed against porn were big fans of those type books.


23 posted on 05/13/2011 8:34:04 AM PDT by webstersII
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

My wife made me buy her porn 36 years ago.


24 posted on 05/13/2011 9:30:45 AM PDT by onedoug (If)
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To: Cronos

The abstinence programs I had in middle and high school only minimally discussed pornography, and didn’t mention masturbation or fantasy at all. It might be different in Catholic schools.


25 posted on 05/13/2011 10:30:31 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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