Skip to comments.Turning to a Support Group to Deal With Celibacy
Posted on 10/15/2011 8:14:29 AM PDT by Cardhu
Publicly, he is a religious brother with a Roman Catholic order. Privately, although he took vows of poverty, chastity and obedience, he said, at 23 he was a sex addict, anonymously cruising bars, parks and Cook County Forest Preserves for quick hookups.
Six years ago, his superiors found out and encouraged him to seek help. He agreed readily and spent the next six months in intense therapy at a residential treatment clinic north of Toronto for male and female church ministers with psychological and addiction problems.
Brother Patrick has been chaste ever since (his real name is being withheld because he requested anonymity). Now 49, a California native with a singsong lilt to his voice and John Lennon-style wire rim glasses, he is a founding member of one of the countrys few celibacy support groups for priests and religious.
Allan Schnarr, a clinical psychologist who teaches at Loyola University of Chicago and former priest who spent 10 years in the Resurrectionist religious order, started the group in 2009 at the request of a client, a priest.
Monday mornings twice a month ever since, Brother Patrick and the three other brothers and priests in the support group meet in Hyde Park at the Claret Center, which offers psychotherapeutic services and spiritual direction. Seated in a circle in the centers homey conference room, they discuss the spiritual and emotional struggles and joys of being true to their vows.
Unfortunately, the church has embraced the notion that once you've chosen this profession your sexuality goes away, Brother Patrick said. But it doesn't. God would never expect something so absurd as that.
Instead, he added, you have to nurture it in different ways. If you cant and youre afraid to talk about it, and your sexuality becomes a big, dirty secret,
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If they want priests to remain celibate, they should let ‘em get married! ;)
Perhaps you are right it is always more exciting thinking about it. :)
Well, marriage is often a cure to the desire for marriage. :-)
I’m celibate and not a priest, and I don’t need a support group.
>>Im celibate and not a priest, and I dont need a support group.<<
I am pretty sure being a priest is voluntary...
It is, but celibacy is 50% the person’s own decision. The other 50% is, well... no opportunity.
No love, no lovin’.
That was my point... it was a joke
In this case, he was looking for sex in forest preserves - one of the seven warning signs of a sodomite. He should have been thrown out immediately. This is how the RC church is being destroyed form within.
I often take things for full face value.
Except when it comes to Democrats. Then I take it with a shipload full of salt.
Tell that to Fr. Hayes of St. Stanislaus parish circa 1968...he got his ass kicked badly right in the Church yard by two dads.
Seems he had a taste for Altar Boys. Tried to talk a couple of 11 year old boys into undressing to their underwear so "he could ensure all the robes fit just right" after plying them with expensive Sauterne. The boys got scared and ran...told their dads.
My dad's right hand was bandaged up for two weeks after that:)
God bless him!
Giving ones life to Christ is far superior. And how about all these Protestant ministers? Why don't we hear about them???????
ALL Protestant denominations - 838 Ministers
147 Baptist Ministers
251 "Bible" Church Ministers (fundamentalist/evangelical)
140 Anglican/Episcopalian Ministers
38 Lutheran Ministers
46 Methodist Ministers
19 Presbyterian Ministers
197 various Church Ministers
Not true. You have the wonderful love of God!
The most probable pedophiles in order are:
Priests are way down on the list.
So if a father is a teacher of mid-high history, coaches the girls basketball team and is a youth minister at his church on weekends/Sundays watch out! He would be much more prone to pedophilia that any priest.
>>Giving ones life to Christ is far superior. <<
It was a riff on the old joke about how marriage ends your sex life... *shrug*
Why is a Mormon so interested in Christian beliefs?