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To: RegulatorCountry
I’d have some pointed questions for the victim, since he continued past the age of consent and into adulthood. Victims of repeated abuse often believe they invited it somehow, or that they’re equally at fault. It could be that this boy allowed it out of fear of losing a roof over his head and food to eat, since he was surrendered by his mother, who could not support him. Or, it could be a vendetta, give me this or I’ll turn you in. These things aren’t known.

So an 8 year old boy is capable or likely to have had a vendetta and coerced an adult male who is not a pedophile to grant the 8 year old sexual favors in return for not “turning him in”? I guess it could happen, might happen, but I don’t think that’s all that likely for an 8 year old.

And I’m not sure what you mean by the “age of consent”. That term means different things in different States and under different circumstances. There is no “magic” birthday, no one date on the calendar on which a person, male or female suddenly becomes a consenting adult or reaches the “age of reason”.

A kid who is raised in a normal, stable loving home and taught right and wrong from an early age, taught what “bad touching” is, taught that they don’t have to submit and unconditionally trust any adult just because they are in a position of authority, taught to trust their parents and to be safe to tell them anything as long as it’s the truth, might be in a much better position and at a much earlier age to fend off the advances of a pedophile. On the other hand a venerable kid from a broken home, with no support or guidance, given over to the care of someone supposedly there to protect and care for them? Probably not so much. Therefore there is no easy one answer fits all to determining when the age of consent or age of reason has passed or not.

And a kid who has been sexually abused by a supposedly trusted and caring adult, is probably going to be emotionally delayed and very confused, often well into their own adulthood.

What is known and what does not relieve this so-called youth pastor of his sin and his crime, is that he was in a position of trust and was his de facto guardian if not legally so. He stands accused of having committed a crime in having sexual contact with a minor, and he compounded that by continuing for years.

I will agree that whenever an accusation is made, especially many years after the fact, the accused has a right to the legal presumption of innocence in the court of law and the accuser must be able to give truthful testimony, hopefully with substantiation of the facts presented. Not all accusations in these sorts of cases are true, some are made years after the fact for reasons of personal vendetta or the hope of collecting a large monetary settlement.

However, in those cases where a kid has been abused, it doesn’t matter if it started when the kid was 5 or 8 or 12 or continued through their late teens. It’s not as if a kid or young adult suddenly wakes up one day and says “this is wrong”. They’ve often been slowly conditioned and groomed to accept it by the pedophile. Sometimes it is likewise a slow awakening and acceptance that it was wrong and not their fault before they can admit what happened to them or trust any adult to believe them.

17 posted on 02/04/2012 8:28:04 AM PST by MD Expat in PA
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To: MD Expat in PA

You misunderstood. Speculation about a “vendetta” would be more toward the 18 year old adult and a motivation for finally reporting this, not the 8 year old he was when the reported abuse is supposed to have begun.


18 posted on 02/04/2012 8:44:47 AM PST by RegulatorCountry (+)
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