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Catholic school suspends student for distributing letter supporting modesty
http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/catholic-student-suspended-for-distributing-letter-supporting-modesty ^ | 3/5/2012 | Peter Baklinski

Posted on 03/05/2012 2:17:02 PM PST by Morgana

AJAX, Ontario, March 5, 2012 (LifeSiteNews.com) – A grade 12 student at a Catholic high school in Ontario was suspended in February after handing out a letter containing his thoughts on the need for greater modesty in his school.

“[R]eal attractiveness doesn’t come from wearing the latest fashion, and it doesn’t come from being scantily clad in public, or putting on make-up, or having a pretty face, or a nice body,” wrote Paul Gomille, 17, in his Valentine’s Day letter addressed to all women, which he handed out at Archbishop Denis O’Connor high school in Ajax, Ontario during lunch hour.

“[R]eal attractiveness comes from having a certain dignity,” he continued. “It comes from having class. It comes from being true to yourself, being yourself, and being comfortable in your own skin. This message is for all young women within the sound of my voice and beyond. You’re all beautiful. You all have inner beauty AND outer beauty.”

When Gomille first showed his letter to the principal, Mrs. Donna Modeste, he said that she was “pretty thrilled about it” and planned to have him read it at an upcoming assembly. School officials who vetted Gomille’s letter, however, told the young man that he would have to make some changes before delivering his message.

School officials reportedly objected to a passage in the letter where Gomille indicated who the letter was directed to.

“The people this message concerns are the young women of this school, and of the world. In particular, it concerns the silent ones, the intelligent ones, the ones that don’t talk about people behind their backs, the ones that guys don’t flock to in droves, the ones that don’t dress in revealing clothing, the ones who would love to be in love, and the ones that are continually disappointed in their appearance because the only thing they have to compare themselves to are the women that have been put on pedestals by our society. This message also concerns those of you who may consider yourselves the so called ‘opposite’ to the demographic I just described. The ones who do dress in revealing clothing, and the ones who try to fit in with the crowd.”

“They saw it as judgmental,” Gomille told CityTV.

Gomille refused to alter his letter, arguing that a revision would dilute his message. As a consequence, the young man was forbidden to read the speech.

But Gomille, not to be deterred, photocopied his speech in its original form, and he and his friends distributed 136 copies to classmates in the Cafeteria during lunch hour.

Within hours, Gomille was brought to the principal’s office and suspended for two days for “opposition to authority.” He served the suspension February 15th and 16th.

Attempts to reach Principal Modeste and Gomille for comment were unsuccessful.

The incident has sparked a national discussion. In a scathing editorial in The Toronto Star yesterday Heather Mallick called Gomille a “controlling man” for his message of “nonsense.” “Keep your advice to yourself, preacher. Trust me, girls like that in a boy,” she wrote.

But Matt Gurney wondered last Friday in the National Post what exactly was offensive about Gomille’s message to his female peers.

“Mr. Gomille has his opinions, but they aren’t insulting, racist, sexist, bigoted, homophobic or even indelicately expressed. No specific students are named, no one is harassed or bullied. Even in our Zero Tolerance era, what did Mr. Gomille write that was intolerant? Indeed, his message, slightly tweaked, could be slotted directly into a Go Girls! self-esteem brochure without seeming out of place.”

Even Lesbian Kathleen Wynne, the Ontario Minister of Municipal Affairs, chimed in on Twitter on Friday that she thought that “17-year-old Paul Gomille was trying to start an important conversation at his high school.”

News of Gomille’s suspension incited fellow students to launch a protest on Tmblr, Twitter and Facebook. A “Free Paul” petition was signed by over 230 people.

“It was a great letter, pointing out to girls that they don’t need to dress like sluts to get the attention of guys. […] Just because someone wanted to be a gentleman, he got suspended,” wrote one student on Tmblr.

A source in Ajax told LifeSiteNews that students were receiving detentions from school authorities for speaking about Gomille’s suspension to media.

Gomille’s parents reportedly intend to appeal the suspension, arguing that their son did not deserve such a severe punishment for handing out a positive message.

“I wrote it just because I had the inspiration to and I felt it was a message that had to be said,” said Gomille to the News Advertiser.

A Letter to Young Women, by Paul Gomille February 14, 2012

Could I please have your attention for a few moments? I guarantee you won’t regret listening to what I have to say. You definitely won’t regret hearing this in your life time, especially from a man of dignity. It’s an idea that I have held close to my heart even before the kilt controversy arose in the media. This message is not meant to address the kilt controversy directly by any means, but rather, this message is a general and all-encompassing statement. It is a message about the qualities that really matter in a woman, and what really makes a woman attractive. Although this speech has some relevance to the way women dress and present themselves nowadays, the message in this speech goes far beyond one’s preferences, or feelings of pressure, as it relates to the way they dress, and it goes far beyond any concept of modernity. It strikes at the very core of humanity itself, in an attempt to make a revelation of truth apparent to all of you, with awe inspiring certainty. If you read this, and receive anything less than a feeling of absolution from it, then I have committed a grave sin, a sin against myself and a sin against all of you.

The people this message concerns are the young women of this school, and of the world. In particular, it concerns the silent ones, the intelligent ones, the ones that don’t talk about people behind their backs, the ones that guys don’t flock to in droves, the ones that don’t dress in revealing clothing, the ones who would love to be in love, and the ones that are continually disappointed in their appearance because the only thing they have to compare themselves to are the women that have been put on pedestals by our society. This message also concerns those of you who may consider yourselves the so called “opposite” to the demographic I just described. The ones who do dress in revealing clothing, and the ones who try to fit in with the crowd.

You don’t need to dress or act a certain way to fit in, to feel attractive, or to BE attractive. You’re all far more attractive than you realize. All of you. But that’s not to say that you should all dress in revealing clothing. No, not at all. Sure, a girl who dresses that way might turn a few heads, and get some compliments. But real attractiveness doesn’t come from wearing the latest fashion, and it doesn’t come from being scantily clad in public, or putting on make-up, or having a pretty face, or a nice body. No. Real attractiveness comes from having a certain dignity. It comes from having class. It comes from being true to yourself, being yourself, and being comfortable in your own skin. This message is for all young women within the sound of my voice and beyond. You’re all beautiful. You all have inner beauty AND outer beauty.

Contacts:

Durham Catholic District School Board Representing Ajax: Janice Oldman Ph: (905) 683-9169 E-mail: Janice.Oldman@durhamrc.edu.on.ca

Archdiocese of Toronto Neil MacCarthy, Director of Public Relations and Communications Ph: (416) 934-0606 E-mail: communications@archtoronto.org


TOPICS: Catholic; Religion & Culture
KEYWORDS: canada; catholic; marylike; modesty; moralabsolutes; sourcetitlenoturl

1 posted on 03/05/2012 2:17:11 PM PST by Morgana
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To: Morgana

Canada’s a Brave New World.

What do you expect?


2 posted on 03/05/2012 2:25:09 PM PST by PGR88
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To: PGR88
Canada’s a Brave New World.

Coming to America if BHO gets re-elected.

3 posted on 03/05/2012 2:26:33 PM PST by Servant of the Cross (the Truth will set you free)
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To: Morgana
"Lesbian Kathleen Wynne"

What a cruel thing to name a girl.

4 posted on 03/05/2012 2:54:14 PM PST by fieldmarshaldj
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To: Morgana
They'd ban Scripture too if they ever bothered to read it,

"Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are fornication, uncleanness, immodesty, luxury, Idolatry, witchcrafts, enmities, contentions, emulations, wraths, quarrels, dissensions, sects, Envies, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like. Of the which I foretell you, as I have foretold to you, that they who do such things shall not obtain the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is, charity, joy, peace, patience, benignity, goodness, longanimity, Mildness, faith, modesty, continency, chastity. Against such there is no law." Galatians 5:19-23

5 posted on 03/05/2012 2:55:32 PM PST by A.A. Cunningham (Barry Soetoro is a Kenyan communist)
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To: Siobhan; Canticle_of_Deborah; NYer; Salvation; american colleen; Desdemona; StAthanasiustheGreat; ..

Catholic ping!


6 posted on 03/05/2012 2:56:56 PM PST by Pyro7480 (Viva Cristo Rey!)
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To: A.A. Cunningham

One of my favorite passages from the New Testament.


7 posted on 03/05/2012 2:58:35 PM PST by Pyro7480 (Viva Cristo Rey!)
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To: Morgana
In a scathing editorial in The Toronto Star yesterday Heather Mallick called Gomille a “controlling man” for his message of “nonsense.” “Keep your advice to yourself, preacher. Trust me, girls like that in a boy,” she wrote.

Funny, the Toronto Star editorialist didn't keep her own advice to herself. But then, she has a right to voice her opinion - unlike young Mr. Gomille.

8 posted on 03/05/2012 3:01:54 PM PST by Always A Marine
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To: A.A. Cunningham

-——School officials reportedly objected to a passage in the letter where Gomille indicated who the letter was directed to.
“The people this message concerns are the young women of this school, and of the world. In particular, it concerns the silent ones, the intelligent ones, the ones that don’t talk about people behind their backs, the ones that guys don’t flock to in droves, the ones that don’t dress in revealing clothing, the ones who would love to be in love, and the ones that are continually disappointed in their appearance because the only thing they have to compare themselves to are the women that have been put on pedestals by our society. This message also concerns those of you who may consider yourselves the so called ‘opposite’ to the demographic I just described. The ones who do dress in revealing clothing, and the ones who try to fit in with the crowd.”

“They saw it as judgmental,” Gomille told CityTV.———

They did have a point.

Originally, they supported the idea.


9 posted on 03/05/2012 3:04:19 PM PST by St_Thomas_Aquinas (Viva Christo Rey!)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

LOL... Srsly!


10 posted on 03/05/2012 3:07:50 PM PST by Mad Dawg (Jesus, I trust in you.)
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To: St_Thomas_Aquinas

I guess they judged his message judgmental.


11 posted on 03/05/2012 3:19:48 PM PST by taxcontrol
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To: Morgana

A Canadian teen’s school letter can be vetted but a US POTUS can’t be.

I guess Rush was passing judgement on slutty behavior rather than it being a statement of the obvious on Fluke’s lack of personal responsibility.

Here’s to the kid for not changing anything. Good for him.


12 posted on 03/05/2012 3:20:00 PM PST by bgill (Romney & Obama are both ineligible. A non-NBC GOP prez shuts down all ?s on Obama's admin)
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To: Servant of the Cross

That Catholic school sounds about as Catholic as Georgetown Law


13 posted on 03/05/2012 3:47:07 PM PST by heye2monn
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To: Morgana

Interesting last name on that principal, “Modeste”, given the content of the story.


14 posted on 03/05/2012 3:48:12 PM PST by unseelie
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To: Morgana
“They saw it as judgmental,” Gomille told CityTV.
Because thou sayest, I am rich and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked: I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, and thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see. As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent. (Revelation 3:17-19)

How judgemental (and loving).

15 posted on 03/05/2012 4:12:30 PM PST by nonsporting
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To: Morgana

Sounds like a fine young man. There are far too many young women who need to learn the meaning of modesty.


16 posted on 03/05/2012 5:33:55 PM PST by Bigg Red (Pray for our republic.)
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To: St_Thomas_Aquinas
Scripture requires us to judge behavior and separate ourselves from the disorderly.
17 posted on 03/05/2012 5:43:38 PM PST by A.A. Cunningham (Barry Soetoro is a Kenyan communist)
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To: Morgana
Modesty is a virtue.

Catholic Word of the Day: CAPITAL VIRTUES, 01-19-12

The Significance of Humility in the Christian Life
Following The Truth: Letting Your Conscience Be Your Guide(What Jiminy Cricket Didn’t Tell You) [Catholic or Open]
The Virtues [Ecumenical]
Moral Conscience [Ecumenical]
Teaching the Virtues (includes The Lessons of 9/11)
WHAT ARE THE MARYLIKE STANDARDS? (Modesty)
Morality of the Passions [Ecumenical]
Sources of Morality [Ecumenical]
When attending Mass becomes an occasion of sin [Lack of modesty]
Vatican Cardinal Burke: In today’s society ‘morality has ceased to exist’

This Fourth of July, "Confirm thy soul in self-control" and other virtues
[Ecumenical] Lent through Eastertide - Divine Mercy Diary Exerpts: Purity
Heaven and the love of neighbour [Catholic/Orthodox Caucus]
What Does the Bible Say About Honesty? [Ecumenical]
The Beatitudes: Blessed are the Meek
Virtue of Prudence [Michael Voris video]
Tenacity: A Thanksgiving Lesson
Lists Every Catholic Should be Familiar With: The 7 Capital Sins and their Contrary Virtues
Back-to-School Virtues: Three qualities that help your child succeed in class and in life
How to Make All Our Conversations Virtuous [Ecumenical]
Advent -- A Season of Hope

Modesty En Vogue [Another one of the virtues]"
Prudence: Mother of All Virtues
The Virtue of Confidence
Is Courage a Masculine Virtue?
Cardinal Virtues: Obama and the Real American Infrastructure – Part One
Cardinal Virtues: Obama and the Real American Infrastructure — Part Two
Morality is Habit-Forming: The Cardinal Virtues
Life Lessons from the Patron Saint of Scholars [St. Thomas Aquinas]
The Cross Exemplifies Every Virtue [St. Thomas Aquinas]
The Virtue-Driven
Living the Virtue of Humility

18 posted on 03/05/2012 5:49:07 PM PST by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: a fool in paradise
Who wouldn't love Modesty?


19 posted on 03/05/2012 5:56:47 PM PST by Revolting cat! (Let us prey!)
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To: Morgana

This is a good letter at this particular time and helpful to the debate.

If the liberals want to debate who has more respect for women, we should welcome it.

The ‘slut’ thing is a distraction from the real issue, but if that’s the meme the media won’t let go of, then I think we have plenty of ammunition to use back.


20 posted on 03/05/2012 10:02:28 PM PST by D-fendr (Deus non alligatur sacramentis sed nos alligamur.)
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To: Always A Marine
Funny, the Toronto Star editorialist didn't keep her own advice to herself. But then, she has a right to voice her opinion - unlike young Mr. Gomille.

What on earth makes you think that the double standard applies to Heather Mallick? It's a one-way street for her. That's the way it is with hypocrites.

21 posted on 03/06/2012 5:27:52 AM PST by cloudmountain
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To: Morgana; wagglebee; little jeremiah

Un-stinking-believable.

This young man ought to be given a medal.

Thank God there are men like him (and he IS a man even at 17, more of a man than most of those carrying a Y chromosome) out there who see past women being sex objects and recognize them as people with inherent dignity and the beauty that comes from within than without.

Some girl is going to be very fortunate when he finally decides to settle down.


22 posted on 03/06/2012 8:41:10 AM PST by metmom (For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore & do not submit again to a yoke of slavery)
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To: metmom
Well you see metmom one must look at it from the girls point of view. I thought long and hard about this yesterday and this is the conclusion I have come to. These girls have been feed liberal lies all their life to the point that they believe that this “man” is trying to tell them what to do with their own bodies. What is worse how dare this “man” and a Bible thumping conservative at that tell them how they should dress? Why to dress modestly would be "oppressive" and "degrading" to say the least. That "man" is just trying to keep them under his thumb as the women of the Victorian area were. Or so they think. Nope they all want to dress like little Madonna or Brittney sluts and get their free Sandra Fluke birth control. That to them is a liberated woman. No man is telling them what to do, no sir re Bob.
23 posted on 03/06/2012 9:29:18 AM PST by Morgana (I only come here to see what happens next. It normally does.)
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To: Morgana

All the lies of the enemy.

The irony of the feminist movement is that it has turned women into the very thing they rail against, that is being sex objects for men.

They’ve handed to men on a silver platter the very thing they condemn men for and do not see the hypocrisy. They’ve *freed* themselves from all sexual restraint so that they are sexually *free* and give men just what they complain men only want from women, sex without charge or commitment.

And then ironically condemn men for seeing them only as the sex objects that they present themselves as.


24 posted on 03/06/2012 10:07:35 AM PST by metmom (For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore & do not submit again to a yoke of slavery)
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Excellent comments on the thread as well. Girls need to step up and join this young man. Modesty is not only "nice" it is a basic virtue, and the opposite - flaunting what should remain private - leads invariably to the demeaning of both womanhood and manhood. Women who dress with self-respect and modesty will be treated with respect more so that women who dress as though their bodies are for rent. This is an unpopular position but the truth is the truth.

25 posted on 03/06/2012 1:01:28 PM PST by little jeremiah (We will have to go through hell to get out of hell. Signed, a fanatic)
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To: fieldmarshaldj
I hear she's the cousin of The Virgin Connie Swail!


26 posted on 03/06/2012 1:14:25 PM PST by massmike (Ma. Voters: A vote tomorrow for Santorum is the "no to gay marriage" vote you were denied in 2007!)
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To: Morgana

My girls, youngest to oldest, all learned this most basic lesson early: keep your damned knees together.


27 posted on 03/06/2012 1:26:48 PM PST by ronnyquest (I spent 20 years in the Army fighting the enemies of freedom only to see fascism elected at home.)
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