Skip to comments.Seeking the Perfect Man
Posted on 03/09/2012 7:30:26 AM PST by hawkins
A great number of women wonder if the perfect man exists. They have scanned the horizon and often come back thinking they must train a man to make him perfect. That leads them to the question, Can a man learn to be perfect? Certainly, a great number of women attempt to find out! In the long run, the realization of perfection depends upon the standard used and whether or not a man adheres to it. Many women believe their man reaches near perfection when they can get him to stop leaving his underwear on the floor and he begins putting the dishes in the dishwasher. Seeking the perfect man is no joke! A higher standard of perfection exists. A perfect man can be had!
In the pages of the Bible, Jesus stands as a sinless model of perfection. However, the Bible lists two other men as being perfect. Genesis 6:9 notes, Noah was a just man and perfect in his generations and Noah walked with God. Job 1:1, 1:8, and 2:3 declare Job perfect and upright, one that feareth God, and turned away from evil. The characteristics that went with perfection: being just, walking with God, being upright, fearing God, and turning away from evil. Truthfully, these can be reduced to two: Fearing God and keeping His commandments. Fearing God means to be reverent toward Him. Not surprisingly, the concept of these two characteristics of perfection can be found elsewhere in scripture. God declared these characteristics ought to represent the Israelites whom He delivered from Egypt (Deuteronomy 5:29, 6:2, 8:6, 13:4. The judge Samuel also voiced it to Israel: Only fear the LORD, and serve him in truth with all your heart: for consider how great things he hath done for you (I Samuel 12:24). King Solomon given great wisdom from God declared: Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man (Ecclesiastes 12:13). King Hezekiah declared as much when he said: I have walked before thee in truth and with a perfect heart (Isaiah 38:3). Though other Old Testament references exist, consider one last mention of the characteristics that go with perfection spoken from the perfect man Jesus: God is a spirit and those that worship Him must worship Him in Spirit and Truth (John 4:24). If a woman wants to find a perfect man, the true standard involves these characteristics.
Is perfection too much to expect from a man? No! So Ladies, do not give up! Not only Jesus, Noah, and Job meet the standard. David proclaimed God made his way perfect (2 Samuel 22:33). Jesus called upon man to be perfect in Matthew 5:48, Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect. Paul wrote, All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works. (2 Timothy 3:16-17) The words of Paul explain the Word of God directs man to perfection. Again, Paul declares in Ephesians 4:13 it is the knowledge of the Son of God coming from the gospel which will perfect a man. He further writes in Romans 12:2 that man is to transform from his worldly ways proving the Will of God. This is action! This comes from fearing God and keeping Gods commandments as established long ago stretching even to the Garden of Eden (Genesis 2:17).
Understand this, perfection does not mean a man will not sin (I John 1:8). Though perfect men may sin, they realize through the advocate Jesus Christ, their sin will be forgiven (I John 2:1-2). In the garden, Jesus prayed fervently for himself, his disciples, and those that would believe on Him in the world. Part of the words he uttered there are as follows: And for their sakes I sanctify myself, that they also might be sanctified through the truth. Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word; That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me. (John 17:19-23) Jesus expresses that when man unites with Him, He unites with them. By the glory of God in Christ, man becomes perfect. Though Gods grace exists, man does not let sin continue to reign over him, but walks in a life for Christ (Romans 6).
As Christ prayed for the perfection of men, ladies pray for your perfect man. This is a courageous work that God will aid you in. Consider Colossians 4:12: Epaphras, who is one of you, a servant of Christ, saluteth you, always labouring fervently for you in prayers, that ye may stand perfect and complete in all the will of God. Epaphras worked to pray for the perfection of the saints. The author of Hebrews also prayed for the perfection of the saints in Hebrews 13:20-21. James the brother of Jesus wrote: The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (James 5:16) Do not let a day go by that you do not pray for your perfect man. Let God continue to strengthen him through your prayers.
Finally, as iron sharpens iron, ladies if you want a perfect man, perfect yourselves. Psalms 18:32 It is God that girdeth me with strength, and maketh my way perfect. Micah 6:8 He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? God does not just desire that the male demonstrate the characteristics of perfection, but the female as well. The words of the mother of King Lemuel which she taught him (Proverbs 31:30) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Such a woman represents perfection in the eyes of a man and most importantly God. When a woman cleaves to a man she must remember she stands as his helpmeet. She aids him in perfection to such a degree that she need not even say a word when he struggles with perfection knowing that her example of perfection appeals to him (I Peter 3:1-2).
Seeking the perfect man? A perfect standard exists for the perfect man. Seek a man who fears God and keeps His commandments. Seek a man who desires the same perfection in you. Perfect men exist. Through His Word, Jesus sacrificed Himself to perfect those who would abide in Him (John 8:31-32). Man on his own cannot achieve perfection, he will sin. Pray for his perfection. Show him your perfection in the way you live your life for Christ. You can be the perfect woman for the perfect man.
Just given the fact that this Christian website is attempting to equate mortal man to a perfect God is foolish on its face.
And why are we seeking perfection in everything anyway? Sometimes flaws make people beautiful. Sometimes the imperfect is seen as perfection. I’m not a perfect man by any stretch, but I love and fear my God, eschew evil, and I treat my lady as a partner in life. Why we should seek perfection is to ask why we should seek any impossibility.
Most women fail to ask themselves the appropriate follow-up question, which is "If the perfect man did exist, why would he be interested in me?"
And I thought this was going to be the story about the Husband Store:
A new, special kind of store just opened up in a Manhatten shopping center. This store sells husbands, yes that’s right - women can browse men from floors of choices.
Actually, there are 6 floors of men, and with an increase in the floor level bringing an positive attributes... a nifty setup - with a catch. As you open the door to any floor, you may choose a man from that floor but if you go up, you cannot go back down except to exit the building. Interesting, right?
So a young woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men have jobs. The woman reads the sign and says to herself, “Well, that’s better than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what’s further up?” So up she goes.
The second floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love kids. The woman remarks to herself, “That’s great, but I wonder what’s further up?” And up she goes again.
The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good looking. “Hmmm, better” she says. “But I wonder what’s upstairs?”
The fourth floor sign reads: Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking and help with the housework. “Wow!” exclaims the woman, “very tempting. BUT, there must be more further up!” And again she heads up another flight.
The fifth floor sign reads: Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking, help with the housework and have a strong romantic streak. “Oh, mercy me! But just think... what must be awaiting me further on?” So up to the sixth floor she goes.
The sixth floor sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 7,548,652 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor only exists as proof that women are impossible to please.
I’m wondering how long an article titled “Seeking the Perfect Woman” would be allowed to survive.
(That’s assuming it was allowed to be published in the first place.)
LOL too fnny!
“... I love and fear my God, eschew evil, and I treat my lady as a partner in life...”
Perhaps it is one’s definition of perfect... however, you sound as close to a perfect man as one can get! (just my two cents)
Nobody is perfect. I’m not perfect and neither is my husband of 20 years. We are still happy today because we are perfect for each other.
My lovely co-worker lost her beloved husband a few months ago to cancer. It was painful to watch. Who the heck cares if he left his underwear on the floor?
There is an old joke: Women marry hoping to change the man; Men marry hoping the woman won't change - both are disappointed.
The Husband Store
A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:
You may visit this store ONLY ONCE!
There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights.
The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor,
but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs
She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.
‘That’s nice,’ she thinks, ‘but I want more.’
So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.
‘Wow,’ she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.
‘Oh, mercy me!’ she exclaims, ‘I can hardly stand it!’
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
There was only one perfect man. There are good men.
Once upon a time, a perfect man and a perfect woman met.
After a perfect courtship, they had a perfect wedding.
Their life together was, of course, perfect.
One snowy, stormy Christmas Eve, this perfect couple was driving their perfect car along a winding road, when they noticed someone at the side of the road in distress.
Being the perfect couple, they stopped to help.
There stood Santa Claus with a huge bundle of toys. Not wanting to disappoint any children on the eve of Christmas, the perfect couple loaded Santa and his toys into their vehicle.
Soon they were driving along delivering the toys.
Unfortunately, the driving conditions deteriorated and the perfect couple and Santa Claus had an accident.
Only one of them survived the accident.
Question: Who was the survivor?
The perfect woman survived. She’s the only one who really existed in the first place. Everyone knows there is no Santa Claus and there is no such thing as a perfect man.
**** Women stop reading here, that is the end of the joke.
**** Men continue on...
So, if there is no perfect man and no Santa Claus, the woman must have been driving. This explains why there was a car accident.
By the way, if you’re a woman and you’re still reading, this illustrates another point: Women never listen.
That’s a keeper.
We recently had a “Love and Respect” weekend at church. While I don’t feel I heard anything new, it was like a chef eating a meal that was prepared for him. He is familiar with all the ingredients and spices but is thrilled to have it all prepared in that way. Peter said, “Women RESPECT your husband, husband LOVE your wife.” Why the asymmetry? These are COMMANDS. One need not be commanded to do what is in one’s nature. We are both flawed but our flaws are our partner’s strength. Women love naturally, men respect naturally. Together we ARE perfect (or nearly so) and that is the lesson God wants us to learn.
We killed Him because we could not bear to stand in His light.
Hahahaha...this is a great thread. I am sending these to my wife...maybe!
Thank you for posting that. Never heard it put that way...just beautiful.
The problem is, the two qualities that the piece advocates women seek in men are pretty much the exact opposite of what most women seem to be looking for nowadays.
I have been married 32 years and I can tell you marriage is give take relationship. I give and she takes. Their is no perfect man since we are all born sinners.
“Many women believe their man reaches near perfection when they can get him to stop leaving his underwear on the floor and he begins putting the dishes in the dishwasher.”
I can confirm that is does not end there.
This is really, really good. Thank you.
I love to see the long lists of attributes women will come up with for what they want in a man. Because it gives me the opportunity of asking to see the long list of attributes of themselves that they offer TO the man, and ask what they want to GIVE him. The blank looks I get in response are almost as fun as the slow anger that replaces it in a moment or two.
What they don't realize is that if a perfect man existed, he would want a perfect woman - because he would want someone who has put in the effort to perfect themselves just as he has. Most women's utter lack of humility (these days) blocks them from realizing that the LAST person they would want to be with is a perfect man, because they could never keep up.
In fact, many relationships die because the women strike out at men who are more of what they know they should be, but fail at. They PICK the man for his superior attributes, and then ATTACK him because they can't live up to his standard - which they required of him in the first place. Then, because his excellence shames them, they blame him for "making" them feel "unloved" or "unsatisfied" in some way, rather than respecting his model and changing themselves.
That's why so many men are staying away from women - their following of feminist ideology has blocked them from the humility feedback mechanism human beings need to learn and improve themselves. Feminism declares that women can learn NOTHING about character from men, and so attacks any woman who tries to. But without that, they have to blame men for their own failings, and thereby destroy the relationships they actually want, in order to appease the tyranny of their Leftist Feminist Mistresses who run their "Groups" (secret or otherwise).
Throw in the added insanity of antidepressents millions of women take to deal with this self-sabotaging group network and American women are basket cases. And that's exactly what they must be, in order to NEED the women's groups they belong to, and obey their orders (especially who to vote for).
And THIS is how Hillary has destroyed more American women's lives than cancer, heart disease and car accidents - and she's still destroying them (what, you think she's not running? LOL!).
Whether or not a woman judges a man as “perfect” depends on her criteria of what makes a man perfect in the context of the type of relationship she is considering. It is easier to find the perfect man if her criteria are not strict.
If one is honest in one’s own failings and faults, the feeling of aggravation with the other will be replaced with gratitude about the loving of “wenches like me.”
Humility, gratitude, and acceptance is not most recognized let along appreciated in men and women today.