My wife and I didn't do that and I can't understand people who say "we need to try out living with the person" -- what do they mean by "try"? Everyone has got their quirks and habits that the other dislikes.
if co-habitation is a 'trial period' then one can always find SOMETHING to dislike ("oooh, she eats her boiled eggs large side up, I'm leaving...."). Marriage on the other hand is permanent, 'til death do us part. We don't believe that there is an out, hence you work at it and I believe that marriage is something both partners (yes PARTNERS) need to work at, each day.
You are so right.
I am very distressed to see how shacking up has come to be viewed so casually even by many who consider themselves conservatives.
Among my children’s generation, GenX, it is no big deal. They are the same about homosexual “marriage”.
I am just astounded by the rapidity with which both of these concepts have gained acceptance, even among people of my generation. Positively mind boggling.