For Further Study
Books - Annulments and the Catholic Church by Edward Peters, J.D., J.C.D
True. Although in the days since Vatican II I think there have been some abuses of the rules. Teddy Kennedy’s annulment was one example, IMHO.
Much depends on the faithfulness of the diocesan bishop and his staff.
I’m a little hesitant about accepting anything Ed Peters has to say, having seen the stubbornness and lack of logic he displayed recently in the Saint John Neumann lesbian situation.
We need to remember that marriage is both a vocation and a Sacrament. As created by God, its primary purpose and chief beneficiaries are not the wedded couple. The institution must put as its prime objective the needs and well being of the subsequent generations. The Church has and takes a lot of grief over it. As Catholics we must work to make Society and culture embrace this too.
This is what is meant by a higher love. In the context of marriage it is important that we understand love and that a man and a woman must not only fall in love with each other as they do with what St. Thomas Aquinas called a transcendental third. That third thing that a successful married couple must fall in love with is the "us" of the marriage and its mission. Absent that any marriage is based upon an infatuation and a love of self; I love how she makes me feel, or I love how she looks, or I love how others look at me when I am with her. All marriages so founded are doomed from the beginning to fail.