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To: MD Expat in PA

Our children are being destroyed because people divorce with erroneous rationales such as “God wants me to be HAPPY”, God brought this new sexy person into my life who is so much more compatible with me than my spouse” (which will be shown to be false), “I have to do for myself what I need to do for myself” (psychological claptrap and false). Yes, if you are married, stay married, see it through, all this garbage about sexual gratification is false, all this “I married the wrong person” is also false. The fabric of our society is being destroyed by abortion and divorce.


8 posted on 04/29/2012 6:04:34 AM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: yldstrk
Yes, if you are married, stay married, see it through

I was happily married, well at least I thought I was, for nearly twenty years and was totally faithful to my husband. Then one day I discovered my husband was having affairs with multiple women, some who he had met on the internet. When I found out, I confronted him and begged him to commit to me and our marriage, to end his affairs and to go to marriage counseling with me in order to work things out.

I even looked deep within myself and was willing to accept that perhaps in some ways I was to blame for us drifting apart and was willing to make changes on my part. But it was to no avail. I made changes, but he didn’t. After promising to break it off with the woman he was having an online romantic relationship with (who BTW, started stalking me and some of my family members on line – ended up being a real psycho and IMO a potentially dangerous and emotionally unstable one at that) and he was, as I found out even after all that, still planning to meet with her in person, and after refusing to go to marriage counseling or even admit he had done anything wrong, I asked him to leave. I was still willing to work through our problems and did so for the next year after our separation, but he wasn’t. He wanted to stay married; didn’t want a divorce but wasn’t willing to commit to our marriage and end his relationship with this woman. I also found out later that he had ruined our finances by sending money and buying things for this whore.

So, yes I divorced him in 2004. And I don’t regret doing that, not for even a single minute. I was willing to put up with a lot of things but his bringing this psycho stalker into our lives and into the lives of my family and his refusal to end it or accept any responsibility for it, was well beyond what was even remotely acceptable to me. As we were not able to have any children due to infertile issues, there was no question of staying together for the sake of the children; not that I would have considered his actions a reason for divorce even if we had any.

Last year he remarried to another woman (and as I understand it is not exactly happy). I remain single. I have no desire to get remarried or even date at this point in my life, but should the right man come along; I wouldn’t put it out of the question. That wouldn’t be out of selfishness or a desire to find someone “sexier”. I was faithful; my ex made his choices and is living with his choices for better or worse. I am very happy today but should the right and honest and faithful man come into my life, why should I not remarry?

9 posted on 04/29/2012 6:54:03 AM PDT by MD Expat in PA
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