Pornography has been, is and always will be a fact of life, one way or another.
Our trick was, is and will be to turn it into a monogamous marital aid, towards our thity-eighth year together.
Typically, the answer to this dilema, the inability to exercise self-control, is to attempt to exercise more self-control. “Just say no”, is a useless remedy to something so deeply engrained in the heart. It is impossible to stop doing something inordinate if that something is part of your personality. It is only by God superimposing Himself on a broken vessel that will bring about change. It is not within man to heal himself, it is up to God and the power of faith and grace. Seeking those things which are above and not the things upon earth is a good start. Being open to the Spirit and yielding ones members to that Spirit is the only answer. Scriptural lust is not connected solely to sexuality, by the way. It is the entire nature of human flesh, which cannot be subject to God in any matter, to lust in all areas of physical desire, being controlled continually by forces outside the self. Reforming what is beyond redemption, the human heart and body, is a lost cause. Were it possible to do so, the Crucixion was in vain.
Steve Woods, this wonderful apologist, he has a weekly
radio show on EWTN *thursday afternoon*. He use to be a Protestant pastor. It’s called Faith and Family. Search,
same name for his website.
He speak a lot about Porn.
I recall him saying when you are tempted, remember when
Our Lord was tempted by Satan, Our Lord spoke a verse from
Scripture to rebuke Satan. You can too.
Memorize a few verses from the Old Testament or the
It is the loud noise that is always in the room. It distracts you from your work, interrupts your sleep, depresses your mood, creates havoc in your relationship, gives women power to manipulate you. It never gives you any peace. Only old age seems to diminish it.
In my twilight years it is my wife who now initiates but the hardness in my heart after so many years of rejection has taken away its enjoyment and fulfillment for me. It is an obligation and a duty which I perform in compliance with my marital responsibilities.
Jimmy Carter: "I have lust in my heart!"