Skip to comments.Prayer request
Posted on 09/07/2012 6:15:24 PM PDT by svcw
Just a prayer request, why is long to be sure but I need to tell the story.
However, I have great concern for my daughter and grandkids.
She married someone we thought the world of, immediately considered him, son.
They moved from our state to start a church, they were in the church leadership.
Just three days after their ten year anniversary, it turned out he had been having a long time affair, with supposed best fried of my daughter.
They now have been divorced nearly two years.
He has gone from job to job, lives in a low rent district, she on the other hand through all of this kept the same full time job, working on her masters, bought her own home and an investment property, all the while having some health issues which landed her in the hospital twice (she is healthy now).
Anyway, he is now threatening her.
He is threatening her because she has a new man in her life. A wonderful Christin guy who loves the Lord, her and the three kids.
They worked out a parenting plan two years ago, which gives her 2/3 custody. She has never asked for child or spousal support, just that he pay co pays for medical, and 1/3 of day care costs.
Anyway, he has started hitting the kids. leaving bruises. Yes she called CPS, they conducted and they investigated. He agreed to back off.
Now he is threatening to take the kids. I do understand he has no grounds, however it is wearing on her.
The kids are afraid of him, yet according to the law must continue with visitation. My granddaughter the oldest, told me she acts out with Mommy (and she cries because she doesn't want to hurt mommy) because if she is not perfect with daddy, he will yell at her and might hit her. She is has also said she tries and protect the younger boys and sometimes she can't. She is just a kids, this should be a happy time for her, well all of them.
So my prayer for my daughter is strength, courage, and peace.
My prayer for my grandkids is safety, and strength.
My prayer for myself is that I will not hurt him and hurt him badly.
My prayer also is that we can continue to help her financially if needed, like everyone else we are strapped thin.
My prayer also for my strength, because I have not told my husband.
Why, because I do not know what he would do, he is already so angry and after two years that has not abated.
There are many things in this world that are more important for everyone, just needed to tell someone, as this is important for my daughter and grandkids.
You and yours have my prayers FRiend
Your family are in my prayers. I wish you the peace of the Holy Spirit.
Wow, I’ll definitely pray for you, and I shall have a prayer warrior friend of mine get to work for you all as well when I talk to her tomorrow.
Coincidentally, I was reading a book (have only just started it) on prayer, called “Prayers and Praying Men” by E.M. Bounds, free to read in particular formats due to it being written sometime before 1913 (the author died 1913, no idea when it was written).
Perhaps it will serve to give you encouragement. It was recommended to me from a good source.
Thank you Creek.
It’s funny as soon as I posted it, I thought how whiny and self centered this post may seem to be, then I realize people who pray and love the Lord will just pray and that alone will give us all strength, as well as be beneficial to the Body of Christ.
When two or more are gathered together.....
Hugs to you, svcw!
This is a heartbreaking situation. It sounds so like what my husband’s sister went through with her first husband, right down to what’s going on with the kids. With God, my SIL and her daughter made it through, and came out the other side into blessings. I believe the Lord can and will do the same for your daughter and your grandchildren. I’m going to being praying for them, and for you, too.
You hang in there. God bless you, friend.
Thank you RC, you are always an inspiration.
You have my prayers. Asking God to set the angels over all of you. Also, that the ex-husband will come to the end of himself and return to the God of his salvation. I know that this is the will of God, and you can ask with confidence that He will do what is necessary to make it happen. He did it for me, He will do it for your daughter.
Sounds like CPS is not doing their job. Your daughter needs to stay in close contact with them. Ask them to interview the children.
Please have your daughter go to the police and get a restraining order against this guy. It will be a long fight, but she also needs to file for full custody if the former father is hurting the kids.
I will hold her and her situation along with the children in my prayers.
May your daughter receive the peace that surpasses all understanding from Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
The church is full of sinners.
Prayer is the answer.
There’s nothing whiny or self centered about lovin your kids and grankids. You all have my prayers.
I will pass on your good suggestion.
Yes, also please read my post.
This is too much to keep to yourself, you need to share this with your husband and trust him to do the right thing.
In addition, if the ex is threatening your daughter with violence, that needs to be reported asap. Don't wait one day!
Prayers are up - God has his ways too.
I will pass your suggestion on to her.
She is now taking pictures as well as the only contact is in writing, because she is documenting everything.
Her lawyer (which she just got) told her to call the police if he does not abide with the court ordered parenting plan.
Thank you for the prayers.
Thank you, so many times have tried and failed.
prayers up. God be with your family...
You are correct. Thank you
Prayers up for all of you.
That’s a tough situation. You have my prayers. I do think that you should tell your husband. Two heads are better than one and you need to provide a united front for your daughter and the grandchildren. Also, if the abuser knows your husband knows, that might be a deterrent.
You have to do all you can to protect the children. They don’t deserve this and if there is more you could do and didn’t do, you will regret it. Use all the resources at hand to keep the father away from the children. An abusive father is far worse than no father at all.
My two cents, for what it’s worth.
I wish you and your family all the best FRiend.
You have my prayers too.
She may also have to lawyer up unless she can defend herself in family court.
Pray for a good judge.
You have my prayers too.
Prayers up! God bless you all.
SOMETHING more needs to be done here. This will wear on your daughter’s health...and yours, not to mention the destructiveness to the children. Prayers are all well and good, but what happens to children stays with them their entire lives.
Of course you have my prayers, but what is really called for here is one heck of a good attorney.
1. Prayers. Lots of prayers.
2. Do not rely on CPS. At best - they are inefficient and incompetent. At their worst? They could remove the childreen from the MOTHER.
3. Prayers - lots of ‘em.
4. Secure a weapon and have the mother trained in correctly using it. The ex is dangerous. As they say... When seconds count, the police are minutes away.
5. Did I mention prayer? My prayers are with you...
She needs an attorney, a web cam, and possibly a private detective.
Bless you and prayers for your and their safety.
You are a good soul.
jyro make a good point. Tell your husband asap.
Prayers for you and your family.
Praying for your daughter and her kids.
Prayersvupnfor you and your family’s predicament. Just our of curiosity, and it is not my business, but what happened with the other woman who was the supposed friend?
Thank you thank you thank you thank you
I am weeping from the out pouring of prayers and good advice.....
I am blessed by FRiends.
Sincere prayers for you and your family. Blessings.
Prayers up for you and your family.
You need to tell your husband and the police. The police, first, and CPS, second, need to take the kids’ reports. The CPS can’t do anything unless they see actual bruises. Probably the same with the police but you can’t take the chance of doing nothing. With reports, she can take it back to court and maybe get full custody. If nothing else, at least make it where he can only have supervised visitation and not let him take them from school. Is there any way that your daughter and grandkids can move in with you for their safety? Safety in numbers, ya know. Don’t leave the kids alone, ever.
I will pray for you.
Nothing selfish about asking for prayer when it’s obviously so desperately needed. You’ve got it, although some other people here have given some good advice, too....
svcw, no advice as I have never been in this situation and know that sometimes it seems impossible.
Prayers for you and your family.
Well, her husband divorced her.
She wrote a letter to my daughter last month, begging for her forgiveness.
She told her she can never pay enough for what she contributed to.
Informed my daughter she has gain 50 pounds (she was a runner and very cute), started taking drugs and sleeping around ans she lost custody of her kids.
Her self penitence is sever.
My daughter answered the letter and told her not to ruin her life, she was forgiven by her, her church and the friends she hurt.
I don’t know what will happen. I loved the girl and like everyone was deeply hurt.
It is the most difficult thing I have done is praying for her and her repentance.
Thank you for your prayers.
Know that 4 little ones will be praying for you and your family tonight.