Posted on 09/07/2012 6:15:24 PM PDT by svcw
Just a prayer request, why is long to be sure but I need to tell the story.
Prayersvupnfor you and your family’s predicament. Just our of curiosity, and it is not my business, but what happened with the other woman who was the supposed friend?
Thank you thank you thank you thank you
I am weeping from the out pouring of prayers and good advice.....
I am blessed by FRiends.
Sincere prayers for you and your family. Blessings.
Prayers up for you and your family.
Prayers.
You need to tell your husband and the police. The police, first, and CPS, second, need to take the kids’ reports. The CPS can’t do anything unless they see actual bruises. Probably the same with the police but you can’t take the chance of doing nothing. With reports, she can take it back to court and maybe get full custody. If nothing else, at least make it where he can only have supervised visitation and not let him take them from school. Is there any way that your daughter and grandkids can move in with you for their safety? Safety in numbers, ya know. Don’t leave the kids alone, ever.
I will pray for you.
Nothing selfish about asking for prayer when it’s obviously so desperately needed. You’ve got it, although some other people here have given some good advice, too....
svcw, no advice as I have never been in this situation and know that sometimes it seems impossible.
Prayers for you and your family.
Well, her husband divorced her.
She wrote a letter to my daughter last month, begging for her forgiveness.
She told her she can never pay enough for what she contributed to.
Informed my daughter she has gain 50 pounds (she was a runner and very cute), started taking drugs and sleeping around ans she lost custody of her kids.
Her self penitence is sever.
My daughter answered the letter and told her not to ruin her life, she was forgiven by her, her church and the friends she hurt.
I don’t know what will happen. I loved the girl and like everyone was deeply hurt.
It is the most difficult thing I have done is praying for her and her repentance.
Thank you for your prayers.
Know that 4 little ones will be praying for you and your family tonight.
Some words of advice from experience. Don't trust CPS period. In most states including my own it is ran by bleeding heart liberals scared of their own shadow. If an aggressive lawyers says Boo to them they fold like a cheap seat. The one abandoned by them is usually the person trying to do right by the kids.
She needs a lawyer and this advice is coming from a person who has a strong dislike for them. One lawyer got me on the stand as a witness in an abuse and negligence case and I about went to jail for Contempt. DCS in my state let the grandkids down even despite confessions of bad conduct from the accused.
In cases where there is shown hostility or a non custodial parent is deemed to be a threat a judge has several options. One is no visits or contact which isn't likely. The second one is supervised contacts and visits only. The third is visits supervised by a professional third party.
BTW I have also had the experience of dealing with my wife's violent EX after we were married. His interest in the kids went away fast. He learned the more her tried to stir things the harder we came down on him legally. Before that he was a free man not paying nothing.
How old are the kids? In some states at about age 11 or 12 the kids can for themselves decline contact. We had our grandkids for almost two years and lost custody because I verbally let fly on our daughter which is what parents should do when their kids do wrongs like that even if they are in their 30's.
Document everything and turn it over to your/her lawyer to present to the judge. Without a Lawyer basically you don't get a voice as his lawyers will get all the judges attention. You have my prayers and my sympathies. Yea my ex-son in law was as a son to us before he changed. Her second boy friend/husband was one sick puppy and the cause of her kids being taken and us gaining custody.
Thanks, such good advice from everyone.
Ask your daughter to tell your husband,get a restraining order.Prayers,Fatima ((((Hugs)))
Prayers up bigtime!!! As a Mom, I would be having bad thoughts - to take this chum deep sea fishing etc and would have to stay in prayer myself to ward off such evil thinking. Just keep telling yourself evil begets evil, and your duty is prayer and being there in mind and spirit if not able to actually be there - so as to bring the needed grace to this situation. Sending cyber hugs!
Prayers.
Make sure the kids aren’t playing one parent against the other. Then, you need to tell your husband and the police. The police (first) and CPS (second) need to take the kids’ reports. The CPS can’t do anything unless they see actual bruises. Probably the same with the police but you can’t take the chance of doing nothing. With reports, she can take it back to court and maybe get full custody. If nothing else, at least make it where he can only have supervised visitation and not let him take them from school. Is there any way that your daughter and grandkids can move in with you for their safety? Safety in numbers, ya know. Don’t leave the kids alone, ever. She does know how to and the means to protect herself, right?
Prayers up...
I am keeping my own log.
The new fellow in my daughter’s life is just a doll.
About CPS I was shocked that they did nothing more than take a report and interview everyone. They came up with a “plan”, my daughter abided by the plan and the former sonIL did nothing except he said he wouldn’t hit them, yet they have done nothing further.
She does have a lawyer, whom she gave permission to reveal everything to me. So when she sees the lawyer they put me on speaker phone.
I like the woman. She has stated that she will do what is necessary to protect her and the kids.
My daughter and I have talked about having the youngest living with us for a time because he is not in school.
Unfortunately, they live in another state.
We watch the airfares, and when they are decent, I fly out there. The former sonIL backs off when I am there.
The kids are 9, 7 and 4.
Thank you for the advice.
Tough situation, but, remember, God will be with you.
Prayers for you and your family.
I just started reading the thread and noticed others have given the same advice. Glad she has a lawyer. Make sure she documents EVERYTHING. If he calls and someone else is with her, have her put it on speaker so she has a witness. Recording calls may or may not be against the law in her state so check that out.
Is there anyway to get something on him that she can use next time she’s in court? You should be doing your research and find out everything you can about him since the divorce. There might be a reason he’s living in a seedy part of town other than finances. Just hit all the bases and get your ducks in a row.
Her lawyer told her not to talk to him on the phone make him write everything down.
texts - screen shots
email - save
I will do some research. Its really weird he can’t hold a job, he is good for only about four months, then he gets fired. Of course its never his fault, “everyone is out to get him”.
Thanks
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