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Can I Be a Christian and a Divorce Lawyer?
Christian Post ^ | 10/27/2012 | Russell D. Moore

Posted on 10/27/2012 10:53:35 AM PDT by SeekAndFind

Dear Dr. Moore,

I've heard you say before that a pastor's calling is to shape the consciences of God's people toward conformity to Christ through the faithful preaching of the Word, and that this informs their callings in the everyday world. I agree. But here's my problem.

I have a church member, a devoted Christian, who is an attorney specializing in divorce cases. Our church believes that divorce is (in almost every case) sin. If so, isn't he empowering sin? Should I counsel him to follow Christ by walking away from this job and to do something else? If he won't, should we discipline him?

Yours,

Divorce Lawyer's Pastor

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Dear Pastor,

Zacchaeus was a wee little man, you know. If you have a song bubbling up in your head right now, you probably grew up in an evangelical Sunday School somewhere. Even if not, you know the story, and I think it's applicable here.

There is not much commendable about Zacchaeus' occupation. He was a shill for the Roman occupation, in a role that was virtually always corrupt, defrauding oppressed people of money with the implicit threat of Caesar's sword hanging over their heads.

When he came to know Christ, the Bible does not tell us that Jesus required that he abandon his occupation. Rather, the Spirit radically altered the nature of that occupation. He walked away from fraud and abuse, and made restitution to those he had sinned against (Lk. 19:1-11).

There are some jobs, of course, that no Christian can hold. One cannot be a Christian temple prostitute in Corinth or a Christian porn star in Los Angeles. Jesus died for temple prostitutes and porn stars, and invites them into his life, but following him will mean walking away from jobs that are inherently sinful.

That's not necessarily the case here.

In a fallen world, do we need divorce lawyers? I would argue, yes. Our divorce laws, as they currently stand, are often unjust, but think of the lack of justice if we had no divorce laws at all. Men would still leave their wives (and vice-versa), take up with other people, and leave wreckage behind. Just divorce laws seek to minimize harm to the innocent.

Divorce proceedings then decide child custody and financial arrangements. A divorce lawyer working to see that an innocent woman is not left destitute by her abandoning husband is working for justice. A divorce lawyer who is working to prevent a sexually abusive spouse from gaining custody of a child can be working for justice.

I would look at precisely what kind of divorce lawyer this Christian is. If he is an "ABC easy divorce for $125″ advertisement sort of lawyer, who is seeking to entice people into divorcing for his financial gain, then, yes, that's unjust and outside of what it means to follow Christ. But I wouldn't assume that's the case. It could be that this attorney has been given a ministry to wrecked families. In some cases, he can use his influence to try to keep families together, and to work toward some sort of mediation that could lead to reconciliation. In others, he could be a voice that seeks to shield innocent parties from being financially destroyed by predatory spouses and parents. And, after making sure that everything is done in accordance with the law and the principles of justice, he could try to help people see the hope of a new life on the other side.

God hates divorce. Divorce is always the result of someone's sin and rebellion. But often, as the Scripture itself tells us, there are those who experience divorce as victims, not as perpetrators. These people have a divorce foisted upon them, and they need protection. That's love of neighbor.

This takes a strong Christian, with a sensitive conscience. If he starts to see divorce as a commodity through which he can make money, he should walk away. If he uses the law to deprive justice for the weak and vulnerable, he should repent. But if he can see himself as standing for justice in a fallen world, and lives accordingly, there is no reason for him to abandon his sphere of influence to the conscienceless.

And, of course, he is waiting, like Zacchaeus and all of us, for a new creation in which our vocations really take off. There will be no divorce law practices in the New Jerusalem, but, then again, there won't be any need for ethics Q&A columns either.


TOPICS: Evangelical Christian; Moral Issues; Religion & Culture
KEYWORDS: christian; divorce; lawyer
Dr. Russell D. Moore is the Dean of the School of Theology and Senior Vice-President for Academic Administration at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky. He also serves as a preaching pastor at Highview Baptist Church, where he ministers weekly at the congregation's Fegenbush location. Dr. Moore is the author of The Kingdom of Christ and Adopted for Life.
1 posted on 10/27/2012 10:53:39 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind
If he starts to see divorce as a commodity through which he can make money, he should walk away. If he uses the law to deprive justice for the weak and vulnerable, he should repent. But if he can see himself as standing for justice in a fallen world, and lives accordingly, there is no reason for him to abandon his sphere of influence to the conscienceless.
2 posted on 10/27/2012 11:00:28 AM PDT by marron
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To: marron

I made this very decision in my law practice. I prayed about it a lot. The money I was leaving on the table would have helped my bottom line greatly. But I made a commitment to God that I would not facilitate the destruction of marriages. God has blessed me. It isn’t easy to pass on so much money but I can face myself in the mirror every morning. And it is God’s money anyway.


3 posted on 10/27/2012 11:13:56 AM PDT by shankbear (This Tagline space is for rent.)
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To: shankbear

But, sad as it is, divorce is also from God because of the hardness of our hearts of course, but what could be worse than to be trapped in a ghastly ungodly marriage with no hope of relief.


4 posted on 10/27/2012 11:17:53 AM PDT by erkelly (Never underestimate the stupidity of the stupid party!)
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To: SeekAndFind

No


5 posted on 10/27/2012 11:18:25 AM PDT by Cyman
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To: erkelly

I choose not to bring these often nightmare cases home on my weary shoulders. Too many times the spouses are slamming each other, using their children as their best weapon.


6 posted on 10/27/2012 11:26:03 AM PDT by shankbear (This Tagline space is for rent.)
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To: SeekAndFind

Send them to a Marriage Encounter weekend.

If that doesn’t work — then send them to a Retrovaille weekend.

If a divorce does finally happen — then send them to a Beginning Experience weekend to recover from the grief.

All these ministries have websites.


7 posted on 10/27/2012 11:30:40 AM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: erkelly

**divorce is also from God**

granted by God in the Old Testament.

But neither Christ nor St. Paul grant a divorce in the New Testament. The fulfillment of the Old Testament.

You might want to check your New Testament on this!


8 posted on 10/27/2012 11:33:28 AM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: shankbear

God bless you!


9 posted on 10/27/2012 11:34:32 AM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: shankbear

I’ve been a divorce lawyer for over 30 years. I’ve prayed about it a lot. I now consider what I do to be a ministry. This post was helpful but not necessary for me to feel good about what I do. I am there when people are in crisis. I do care deeply about the kids in the cases. I encourage my client to empathize with the other spouse and that often leads to settlement. Less often does it lead to reconciliation. I don’t do many easy cases. I usually do high conflict cases that some other lawyer has totally messed up. I get in and try to get it done in a month or two.


10 posted on 10/27/2012 11:36:15 AM PDT by Mercat ("We're going to get those 'folks' who murdered our ambassador.")
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To: SeekAndFind

I don’t know how you could be a serious Catholic and make much money in that profession.


11 posted on 10/27/2012 11:37:28 AM PDT by StandAndDeliver1
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To: StandAndDeliver1
I don’t know how you could be a serious Catholic and make much money in that profession.

If you are an orthodox Catholic,believing that most people work out their eternal destiny by staying faithful to their first spouse no matter what,I don't know how you could safely spend a career making money helping to destroy unions created before God.

Of course there are extenuating circumstances, but it seems so dangerous for your soul.

12 posted on 10/27/2012 11:49:07 AM PDT by StandAndDeliver1
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To: SeekAndFind

Can a Christian be a criminal defense lawyer?


13 posted on 10/27/2012 11:49:56 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("Decency requires that they be voted out of office as an act of urgent political hygiene." ~Steyn)
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To: SeekAndFind; shankbear; Salvation; Mercat; StandAndDeliver1
I believe you all are missing one thing - divorce is NOT a sin. What is sinful is the subsequent engaging in sexual activity with someone other than your spouse after the divorce which is sinful. As Christians we do not acknowledge a legal divorce proceeding as a true dissolution of a marriage. That can only occur through death or annulment.

So while I agree with you that it is disconcerting to help facilitate a legal divorce, IMHO, the attorney is not facilitating a sinful act.

14 posted on 10/27/2012 12:06:45 PM PDT by GreatOne (You will bow down before me, Son of Jor-el!)
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To: Tax-chick
Easily. The role of the defense attorney is to ensure that their client's constitutional rights are not being violated and to ensure that the State has sufficient evidence to prove its case beyond a reasonable doubt. If the State can run roughshod over someone who is obviously guilty, then they can - and will - do the same to someone who is innocent.

Criminal defense attorneys go askew when they shift their focus to getting their client off at all cost, suborn perjury, unfairly attack the State's evidence/witnesses, etc.

15 posted on 10/27/2012 12:13:18 PM PDT by GreatOne (You will bow down before me, Son of Jor-el!)
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To: GreatOne

I agree but I also know that I walk with Jesus and this is my calling. I’ve made a move or two to get out of the business but I go into the office knowing that someone is going to call and need my skills as a problem solver. I do a lot of pro bono work.


16 posted on 10/27/2012 12:15:25 PM PDT by Mercat ("We're going to get those 'folks' who murdered our ambassador.")
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To: SeekAndFind

Theatrical theology jugglery, when the average American goes through 8 sexual partners in life, and pre-marital sex is the dominant norm.


17 posted on 10/27/2012 12:24:14 PM PDT by James C. Bennett (An Australian.)
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To: marron; shankbear

My son’s wife divorced him during an upcycle in her bipolar illness.
She had deceitfully emptied the house and withdrew over 70% of their savings. She sued for half the inheritance from his grandfather. The estate was distributed just days before she left. My son, in agony, turned to a Christian divorce attorney. Thank God for that man.

The first effort was to save the marriage, which proved impossible. Aside from the monetary matters that were resolved in my son’s favor, the attorney listened to my son’s anguish, prayed with him, and helped him move on as a strengthened, rather than devastated man.


18 posted on 10/27/2012 12:28:56 PM PDT by ntnychik
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To: Mercat

Believe me, I applaud those who can get out of the “family law” business (aside from adoptions). Not fun, very stressful, and getting worse all the time. Good for you.


19 posted on 10/27/2012 12:41:36 PM PDT by GreatOne (You will bow down before me, Son of Jor-el!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Short and sweet: born again Christians ARE NOT UNDER THE LAW BUT UNCER GRACE!!!


20 posted on 10/27/2012 12:52:51 PM PDT by fish hawk
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To: GreatOne
I believe you all are missing one thing - divorce is NOT a sin.

Here's the relevant scripture:

"Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife." 1 Cor 7:10-11

Divorce is sin, as it is contrary to the command of God. Separation is allowed, but not divorce.

21 posted on 10/27/2012 1:31:39 PM PDT by aimhigh
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To: Tax-chick; Mercat
Can a Christian be a criminal defense lawyer?

I think you can, but with all the caveats listed in the lines I quoted in post 2. If you want to keep your soul intact you'd better be praying your way through, and let God guide you. Guilty people need help too; people who have messed up their lives need help. Obviously if God is guiding you through this, if like Mercat you see this as a ministry, you aren't going to approach this work in the same way a shark is going to approach it.

So there are things you won't do for your client. On the other hand, he has an attorney who walks with God. So it balances out.

22 posted on 10/27/2012 1:45:31 PM PDT by marron
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To: marron; Mercat; GreatOne
I think you can, but with all the caveats listed in the lines I quoted in post 2.

That was my implication. I could have said, "Can a Christian be a private investigator?" as well ;-). Obviously there is much harm a person can do in these professions, and many possibilities of sin, but there is also a lot of good a genuinely virtuous professional can accomplish.

23 posted on 10/27/2012 1:53:49 PM PDT by Tax-chick ("Decency requires that they be voted out of office as an act of urgent political hygiene." ~Steyn)
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To: aimhigh
"Divorce is sin, as it is contrary to the command of God. Separation is allowed, but not divorce."

Divorce is a secular procedure, not a sacramental one. Civil divorce does not dissolve the sacramental bonds of marriage.

That said, there are and can be many victims of the civil divorce. If civil divorce remains the only possible way of ensuring certain legal rights, the care of the children, or the protection of assets, it can be tolerated and does not constitute a moral offense. As such, there is a legitimate Christian and Catholic role for a lawyer.

Peace be with you

24 posted on 10/27/2012 2:38:26 PM PDT by Natural Law (Jesus did not leave us a Bible, He left us a Church.)
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To: Natural Law

If I divorce its sin. I’m so grateful that it’s not my job to figure out whether others have sinned. Appearing in front of judges on a regular basis helps me understand what my job is and what it is not.


25 posted on 10/27/2012 3:37:03 PM PDT by Mercat ("We're going to get those 'folks' who murdered our ambassador.")
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To: aimhigh

Thank you for that. I was obviously aware of the command as to a wife, but not for a husband. Was not aware of that. Was focusing on the issue of adultery, not divorce itself.


26 posted on 10/27/2012 4:42:06 PM PDT by GreatOne (You will bow down before me, Son of Jor-el!)
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To: Natural Law; aimhigh
Read Natural Law's comment after yours. I believe that this is the correct interpretationm and consistent with my original statement. A legal divorce (as I referenced it) concerns the license issued by the state. That obviously was not around when Corinthians was written.

Any which you look at it, civil divorce is not a good thing and something that is neither pleasing to God nor in line with the teachings of Jesus.

27 posted on 10/27/2012 4:46:44 PM PDT by GreatOne (You will bow down before me, Son of Jor-el!)
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To: SeekAndFind

there is an echlisiastical law too. (when they do divorces)

the orthodox churches have recognized “for cause” divorce.


28 posted on 10/27/2012 5:12:01 PM PDT by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: aimhigh
Divorce is sin, as it is contrary to the command of God. Separation is allowed, but not divorce.

Failing to push yourself away from the table before you stuff yourself is a sin as well...

Does the Catholic religion excommunicate fat people???

29 posted on 10/27/2012 5:41:00 PM PDT by Iscool (You mess with me, you mess with the WHOLE trailerpark...)
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To: SeekAndFind

Of course you can be both a christian a divorce lawyer.
Its only when one is not thirsty,hungry,clothed and sheltered will one then seek to moralise on one’s (and other’s) life circumstances.
Jesus came forth for SINNERS! End of argument.
Most of our Apostles were sinners! Check them out.
St Matthew was a hated tax collector.
St John and his brother were zealots who would have killed on Jesus’ orders.
St Paul was responsible for the death of St Steven.
St Peter cut off a man’s ear in anger.
The list goes on and on.
What’s important in today’s world is not to “ cast stones “ at our fellow man.


30 posted on 10/27/2012 8:43:34 PM PDT by idaho foxtrot (How beautiful these words are in Matt 11: 28-31.)
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To: idaho foxtrot

“Its only when one is not thirsty,hungry,clothed and sheltered will one then seek to moralise on one’s (and other’s) life circumstances.”

Christian morality is objective and absolute, not subjective and situational.

“Most of our Apostles were sinners!”

ALL of the Apostles were sinners, as are the rest of us.

“What’s important in today’s world is not to “ cast stones “ at our fellow man.”

The reference to casting stones refers to someone literally about to be stoned to death in a rather questionable situation in that she was going to be stoned for SUPPOSEDLY BEING CAUGHT in adultery, but where was the man involved? Jesus Christ did, however, instruct her to “go and sin no more”. Quoting out of context misrepresents Scripture.


31 posted on 10/28/2012 4:06:36 AM PDT by Diapason
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To: SeekAndFind

I assume the lawyer can read, he can see in plain words that Christians should not take one another to law, no doubt he went to college for the purpose of getting the education he needed for financial purposes.

It is him who has to decide if what he is doing is right or wrong, if he happens to be my lawyer in a divorce that i chose i would most likely thank of him as ok, but the one i divorced might think of him as a false Christian.

I would have no right to judge would i?, and would the one i divorced have a right to judge?

That is why we are told not to take each other to law, if we would hold on to what the scriptures tell us we would not be having this conservation.

Maybe the pastor should just preach a sermon on what the scriptures say and give the lawyer something to think about.


32 posted on 10/28/2012 5:45:01 AM PDT by ravenwolf
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To: erkelly
But, sad as it is, divorce is also from God because of the hardness of our hearts of course, but what could be worse than to be trapped in a ghastly ungodly marriage with no hope of relief.

Being an innocent man and getting divorce-raped because some entitled American land whale skank you married wasn't Haaaaaaaapy. And having to live in poverty to support her extravagent life style (with payments ostensibly "for the children") while she whores it up with other men.

And worse than that is to be denied all contact with one's children and then find out that Mommy's latest "lover" has been molesting them.

Nice try, there, troll.

33 posted on 10/28/2012 9:44:10 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: James C. Bennett
Theatrical theology jugglery, when the average American goes through 8 sexual partners in life, and pre-marital sex is the dominant norm.

So work to restore arranged marriages, since they work so well in your country of India.

Cheers!

34 posted on 10/28/2012 9:46:37 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: grey_whiskers

In Australia?

Actually, arranged marriages don’t work, unless the female partner is willing to make phenomenal sacrifices for the sake of the marriage.

That said, it is a special hypocrisy to champion the institution of marriage when the bulk of the proponents have indulged in premarital sex and been through multiple partners (8 is just the average), mostly outside marriage, and divorce rates high enough to make marriage more or less irrelevant.

It was like the other thread about the Brazilian woman who auctioned off her virginity for a sum she said she’d use for charity. A whole bunch of commenters went on about how she was a whore, and then someone put this:

“Well, doing it for 3/4 million is better than doing it for a meal at Red Lobster and a couple hours dancing at the high school prom.”


35 posted on 10/28/2012 10:06:56 AM PDT by James C. Bennett (An Australian.)
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To: Diapason

Thank you for your comment. You are 100% correct.
Maybe I was being a tad suscinct with “casting stones “.
I was using those words as a metaphor for “ condemn “.
There are many tough, undesirable and unwanted jobs in the world today.
Think about it. Would one eat meat if one had to kill one’s own cow?
I would be a vegetarian that’s for sure.
Referencing a man being a divorce lawyer and condemning him for it is equally the same as if we literally stoned him.
We all have to share in a vicarious relationship with eachother in a messy world today.
May God bless all workers.
And may God bless you too.
And God bless the USA and Australia.


36 posted on 10/28/2012 2:22:34 PM PDT by idaho foxtrot (Romney 58%-Obama 42%)
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To: SeekAndFind

I wouldn’t do it.


37 posted on 10/28/2012 10:13:40 PM PDT by onedoug
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To: Mercat
I’ve been a divorce lawyer for over 30 years. I’ve prayed about it a lot. I now consider what I do to be a ministry. This post was helpful but not necessary for me to feel good about what I do. I am there when people are in crisis. I do care deeply about the kids in the cases. I encourage my client to empathize with the other spouse and that often leads to settlement. Less often does it lead to reconciliation. I don’t do many easy cases. I usually do high conflict cases that some other lawyer has totally messed up. I get in and try to get it done in a month or two.

30 Years Ago -MAYBE, at least it was possible when divorces could be contested.

I think you are fooling yourself -maybe it would be a ministry to the golden calf; God has noting to do with it at all since no-fault was imposed nationwide.

Divorce lawyer? The divorce aspect is a preordained conclusion. REALLY all you do is fight over property, finances, and custody. You assist the state in splitting the baby.

Be honest with yourself -there is no justice in no-fault divorce. No-fault divorce promotes injustice and evil.

38 posted on 01/11/2013 1:18:56 PM PST by DBeers (†)
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