Posted on 12/18/2012 2:39:33 PM PST by truthczar2000
AS I have scrolled around the web absorbing information about the school shooting in New Town, CT., I have noticed a glaring absence of understanding of what motivated Adam Lanza to kill his mother and a class full of kindergarteners. There is an answer, but nobody seems to want to express it. I, for one, am unafraid to speak to this issue, as I see it. The real cause of this massacre has nothing to do with the proliferation of guns, nor does it have anything to do with a lack of mental health. The real cause of these kinds of shootings is the abandonment of young men and boys by their fathers. In her post at thebluereview.org/i-am-adam-lanzas-mother/ , Liza Long talks at length about her struggles with her 13 year old son. What she fails to mention is the presence of a dad in the house. Adam Lanza's mother was raising her son alone, basically; again, no father at home. I believe that what is often described as a "mental illness" is the effects of a boy growing up without a father. I know many people will be highly offended by that last statement, but let me explain. I am not discounting mental health issues; I work with disabled people and have seen real mental and developmental disability first-hand. It is true that America has problems dealing with mental disabilities in people. But "mental illness" does not explain the rash of young men committing mass murders. I believe fatherless-ness in the home provides a better explanation. In both of the cases described above, the mothers were doing their best to raise their sons alone. I both cases the sons were displaying extreme anger. I have seen this scenario played out in homes everywhere I have been. A mother tries to raise a son in a home with no father, and the son has anger issues. I believe that all sons have an innate longing for a strong father or father figure. A mother raising a son alone in most cases cannot provide that, no matter how easy divorce is and no matter how much feminists scream otherwise. AS a teenager, I had anger issues of my own ( i think most teenaged boys do). One might even say I had mental issues, based on today's diagnosis. But I had a strong loving father at home who taught me to respect others, especially women. I can honestly say that I am a stable man primarily because of my father. I wonder if Adam Lanza had the same advantage. His father was not living at home and no matter what anybody can say about how good a father can be while not living with the mother,a father separated from his sons cannot be as effective at being a dad as if he were living at home and working with his wife to raise his kids. I know this sounds simplistic, and many people who have been divorced or never married but had kids will get angry. But the Bible says many positive things about marriage and none about divorce or single parenthood. I believe God's plan is still relevant today. The shooting and all the discussion that has followed simply reinforces what I believe.
Having his father at home would cure his mental illness?
There is a person close to the family that is saying that she had begun the process of committing him and that he was very angry about that.
That person believes that is what set him off.
My daughter adopted a kid like that and I can tell you that the fact that her husband was always there, and still is many years later, made zero difference to that kid.
Despite the “wall of text” formatting I agree with your opinion.
I eventually grew to really appreciate and deeply love my mother. But there was a time when that was the opposite of how I felt.
I can appreciate what you have written here.
I was raised by my mother, no father in sight. And I was a liitle shit head at times. But I still have made a great living, married for many years, we have two successful boys, and are enjoying life as much as we can. Lack of a father, or wife, makes it harder as any single parent can tell you. But the kid had issues, sometimes evil is just evil no matter what you do, say, or try. Don’t blame the missing dad for this one, many factors came into play besides that.
Adam Lanza shot and killed the people in Newtown because Adam Lanza was evil. I saw the second half of the twentieth century personally and anyone familiar with the twentieth century, even a quarter of it, knows that evil exists. Lanza was simply evil.
1. It’s Newtown. Not New Town.
2. Paragraphs are your friend.
Please repost. Then I’ll read it. Then I’ll make other snarky comments.
Thanks.
I agree. This kid had major daddy issues. In our increasingly misandristic society, this will become more and more common despite their assault weapon ban.
This guy and his mom both had major mental health issues. I just hope our government does not hide the facts from the grieving families
You raise a very good point. Many have blamed the availability of guns for these mass shootings.Guns have been a part of American culture forever, yet these rampages were almost nonexistent in the days when guns were everywhere and there were no gun laws. Poverty has been blamed as well, yet there were not mass shootings during the Great Depression. There have always been mentally ill people as well. The differences I see between now and then are the rejection of biblical values, moral decay, the breakdown of the family, failure to discipline children, and a devaluation of human life.
Despite the “wall of text” formatting I agree with your opinion. (Legatus)
You ought to take into account that perhaps Mrs. Lanza's preoccupation with the behaviors of her son drove out her husband and her son. Maybe. Write your own scenario on this.
I am a professional scientist whose marital problems, despite my wishes, precluded being able to keep the family together. Your theorizing is kind of loose her. Watch it.
Perfectly explains B. Obama..and his illusionary "Dreams of My Father" and his narcissistic personality. He has play acted and bullied his way through life. The Great Pretender, who hates everyone but himself.
I believe you have correctly described the Lanza home.
“we had 10’s of millions of absent fathers and working moms during a very stressful and restrictive time between 1942-1945”
The change in Culture aside;Studies have shown that children know the difference between a father who CAN;T be there versus a father who(discards any vows he made and) CHOOSES not to be there.
There is no way he or anyone can know that, I have discussed this with my daughter and told her one day he may try and get angry. Will see. For now he has a very loving home and is well liked at school. Likes to do all the man stuff of hunting and fishing, so far so good.
“Many have blamed the availability of guns for these mass shootings.Guns have been a part of American culture forever, yet these rampages were almost nonexistent in the days when guns were everywhere and there were no gun laws. Poverty has been blamed as well, yet there were not mass shootings during the Great Depression. There have always been mentally ill people as well. The differences I see between now and then are the rejection of biblical values, moral decay, the breakdown of the family, failure to discipline children, and a devaluation of human life.”.
BINGO! You nailed it!!!!!
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