I knew a number of gay men in college. One was grad student who rented a big house off campus, from which some friends and I sub-rented rooms.
“Dave” was a bright guy, funny and didn’t really “act gay.” We would occasionally meet his “boyfriends” though. Its where I started to get the idea that homosexuality is inextricably linked with mental disease. These “boyfriends” were almost to a one quite troubled - addictions of all kinds, unstable family backgrounds, flighty, nervous, sometimes suicidal, and even often victims of violence (from other gays).
I felt sorry for most of them, as they all seemed to be fighting some very strong demons.
...most of the ones I’ve known are the most insecure and emotionally immature people I’ve ever met. I can understand the insecurity, it’s more of the emotional maturity that seems to be more of the issue.
So...yes, many demons, I also feel sorry for them. Many never knew much of a normal life and have embraced a lifestyle that will never give them one either :( ...it will only bring them pain. Nobody likes to talk about the negatives of being gay, there’s so many (health, no kids, etc.)...how can that lead to happiness?
I have known quite a few gay & lesbians, and can count on one hand, not a full hand, the “stable” ones. And of those, only one seemed to be pretty downright normal. All of the others make me sad to think about what went wrong in their lives, what terrible burden that they must be carrying, that only faith and forgiveness can heal.