Skip to comments.The Sex Lives of Unmarried Evangelicals (80 percent have had sex)
Posted on 05/03/2013 1:52:23 PM PDT by NYer
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These statistics could be applied to any religious group. The key to understanding this is in the question of how many “read the Bible” versus those who do not. IOW, how may actively practice their faith vs those who do not. This model is applicable across the board.
Culturally its expected and normal for people to be sexually active.
Of course that is biblically wrong but peer pressure is powerful.
With their spouses or other people? ;-)
Well, if they’re reading their Bibles they’re finding that they should not deprive each other and they’re supposed to drink water from their own wells...
I would hope that married people who attend church are loving their spouses in all the right ways. =)
Yep to #2
He is the vine; we are the branches. If we remain in Him we will bear much fruit, but apart from Him we can do nothing.
Remaining in the Word is critical to everything good.
In other news, America has a 20 percent chance of surviving the Obama presidency!
What is about human nature that causes us to obsess about whom other people are having sex with? We just can’t stand it if other people are happy?
We have all failed, one way or the other, in living the idealized lifestyle that God wants us to live.
The key is that we can access the grace that has been promised to us all to make those requisite changes.
When I was young, I’d have settled for a 10% hit ratio.
Do you mean to tell me that Christians are sinners? Say it ain’t so.
We’re fallen and redeemed ... not immune to temptation. We try. We fail. We try again.
Paradox hormones raging , G-d given physical desires. It is tough to be young especially in this day
Not just peer pressure. Genetics. The urges are powerful.
I was so drunk, I honestly don’t remember......
Kind of like planned children, I’ve heard 60-70% of children are unplanned, I suspect it is a lot higher though, kind of like 90% of men will admit they wank off, why 10% of men lie about it.
Actually, it is the effects of Original Sin.
Hmmm... wouldn't they all be "practicing", since they believe they've been "born again" and "saved" and now "have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ"? These aren't mainline protestants or Catholics they're surveying.
Yes the urges come from original sin. My point was sitting back and arguing that religious people are having sex is missing the point. When people immature in their faith (or walk with Christ) hear that topic they perceive it as condemnation of them. It pushes them further away from God because they don’t understand the context.
In todays world abstinence is abnormal and many people of both sexes wouldn’t date someone who didn’t have sex until marriage. At least according to my single friends.
If you spread the word on the hard rocky ground it won’t grow.
That would be even more interesting. It wouldn't be quite such a partisan gotcha post, though.
Single, celibate, and sane here. Watch who you call abnormal. ;)
That’s the fallen human nature.
It’s too bad though, because doing what you’re supposed to is really fun. lol
I'm glad to see it made clear that the party taking the survey defines their own terms and depending on what definitions they use can basically get any result they want.
Marriage at 28 is ahistorical and represents a burden for most. Not to mention the effects on the next generation.
In this case abnormal is good. Sane however might be a stretch there. :)
Tim Tebow was probably desired all the more because he made it clear he is a man of principle and purity. I think a woman wants to know that a man would honor her by giving her what he would give nobody else. Then it means something. And it’s probably the same for a man.
It’s good for spouses to not have to battle memories and comparisons. There are enough tough things to work through without that added burden. The most important sex organ in the body is the brain. Injuring or mis-programming it can be about as damaging as whacking off the other parts. There is forgiveness and new beginnings are possible but it’s a tougher road, I think. A wedding ring doesn’t magically change the tendencies and thought processes of a lifetime.
If the Lord wills (and if you’re interested. lol), you’ll have a heckuva lot to offer the wonderful woman He provides for you. =)
I’m a baptist. For a short time, we attended a Southern Baptist church locally. Our teen daughter went to their high school Bible study. About a month later, the couple teaching the Bible study asked us to pull our daughter for being insensitive.
Seems they were discussing premarital sex (and apparently that was a topic most of the time), and our daughter asked insensitive questions like, “What is so hard about saying no?”, or, “God’s opinion is pretty clear, isn’t it?” She even said “If the boy REALLY loved you, he would want you to wait!”
It seems those ideas were too judgmental, and indicated she didn’t understand how overpowering the sexual urge was.
We decided their brand of morality differed too much from ours, and found a baptist church (also SBC, incidentally) a few miles in a different direction.
But giving a woman that hates me a house because I can't control my emotions/hormones is certainly not sane behavior.
I make better decisions with the head on my shoulders. ;)
Christ said, “I am the truth” not I am the custom.
Follow the Bible, not the modernisn heresy.
Thanks for your preachy response, perhaps you can read and understand the message before judging.
lol. Sounds like you’ve learned to appreciate some aspects of the single life. Contentment is a wonderful place to be.
She could come to my Bible study any time. We’ve talked about why anybody would want to do it, and aside from mere curiosity (for the uninitiated) or knowing it’s fun (for the experienced) the answers are different for guys than for girls. In both cases, though, the reasons are largely selfish and short-sighted and the kids seemed to appreciate very frank and honest discussion about it. I don’t think we’ve got any kids who sleep around, though, so maybe that’s why they didn’t think the honesty was “insensitive”.
I think it’s different if people regularly put themselves in situations where it wouldn’t take much preparation and there’s no accountability. Stuff like a lot of time with nobody but the 2 of you in a dorm room, etc. Or times when the female is emotionally vulnerable.
You are also well versed in the faith. I once had a Baptist co-worker. The young man had recently married in a Baptist Church. Both were quite active in their church's ministry. One day I suggested that he and his bride must be looking forward to settling down and starting a family. He said that neither one of them liked children and did not plan on having any. I asked if they had divulged this to their minister prior to the marriage. He said his minister had no problem with this at all. I was shocked!
Most Baptists don’t view children as a necessary part of marriage.
These statistics could be applied to any religious group. The key to understanding this is in the question of how many read the Bible versus those who do not. IOW, how may actively practice their faith vs those who do not. This model is applicable across the board.
Since the article itself is from a non-Catholic, broad-appeal Christian magazine (Christianity Today), and since NYer has explicitly invited us to apply it to any denomination, I think it's clear that this is nsot a partisan, gotcha post.
My evidence speaks for itself.
Most of us don't much like a religious gotcha post, no matter which way it slices.
I doubt the urge to have sex is from original sin. Sex was God's idea and design for men and women. The urge to have it would be a natural part of it, even before the fall.
Conjugal love that is both unitive and procreative in its intent is a gift from God. Concupiscence, on the other hand, is a consequence of original sin.
Peace be with you