“...OK to say nice things about someone behind their back...”
This may be too purist, yet I get nervous when I think of people talking behind my back saying either good or bad things. I am uneasy when others feel they can judge me - a positive statement about someone else is a judgement in its own way. I try not to discuss other at all, although I fail at this, being human. This is just my perspective.
OK, next time someone says about you, “Isn’t that Stonehouse just the sweetest thing?” I’ll just keep my mouth-I won’t say, as I might, “Yes she is, and she’s talented too.” :-)