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Beautiful Picture: Prayer Before a Wedding
The Deacon's Bench ^ | June 8, 2013 | Deacon Greg Kandra

Posted on 06/08/2013 2:43:02 PM PDT by NYer

Since we’re in the middle of wedding season, now seems a good time to post this picture, which apparently caused a sensation when it first appeared online a few months ago. This blog post, by the bride, explains the story behind it: she and her groom holding hands in prayer moments before their wedding, trying not to catch a glimpse of each other before the ceremony:

Right around the corner sat my soon to be husband, I so was nervous he might see me yet secretly hoping to catch a glimpse of him. In my excited state I was the first to speak,

“Hi sweetie! We’re getting married today!”

“I know baby and I want to pray with you before we do.”

There we sat around the corner hand in hand, and together we bowed our heads. People were rushing about; the wedding coordinator directing people here and there, the photographers snapping photos and the bridal party enjoying each others company. Yet in that moment, in the quietness of our hearts and minds, my husband and I were alone in the presence of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

My husband prayed that God would bless our marriage, that through thick or thin together we would never lose hope in one another. That instead of focusing on each others imperfections we would always rely on Christ’s perfection. That we would wake up every day and chose to love one another not through our own strength but by the power of Christ’s perfect love.

With our hands clenched tightly to one another together we said “Amen”, both with shaky voice and just like that I was whisked away to blot the tears off my face and put on my veil.

Read it all. Share it with anyone you know who is about to get married, thinking of getting married, or even marking a wedding anniversary.

A couple weeks ago, my wife and I celebrated our 27th anniversary. We went to a steakhouse for dinner and the young waitress congratulated us. ”What’s your secret?,” she asked as she handed us our menus. ”Patience,” I replied, smiling. My wife quickly added, “And prayer.”

Yep. That about sums it up. The recipe for a successful marriage: patience and prayer. (And not necessarily in that order.)


TOPICS: Prayer; Religion & Culture
KEYWORDS: marriage; prayer; wedding

1 posted on 06/08/2013 2:43:02 PM PDT by NYer
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To: netmilsmom; thefrankbaum; Tax-chick; GregB; saradippity; Berlin_Freeper; Litany; SumProVita; ...

Beautiful, ping!


2 posted on 06/08/2013 2:43:25 PM PDT by NYer ( "Run from places of sin as from the plague."--St John Climacus)
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To: NYer

Very nice. Daughter 2 marries a young man of God in exactly 2 weeks. I’ll share this with them.


3 posted on 06/08/2013 2:48:35 PM PDT by lurk
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To: NYer

This makes me so sad.

An adult child of mine, after 20 years of marriage, is considering the d word. She is the problem. He is getting counseling, she refuses to go.

He is heartbroken.

It takes two people to make a marriage work. One can’t carry it alone.


4 posted on 06/08/2013 2:53:08 PM PDT by jacquej
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To: NYer

Beautiful is right! Thank you for posting this!


5 posted on 06/08/2013 2:55:02 PM PDT by christianhomeschoolmommaof3
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To: NYer

That’s lovely and inspirational, and that is also a lovely early Empire chest with a bonnet drawer. I judge it to be around 1830-40. It looks like original hardware too.


6 posted on 06/08/2013 2:58:05 PM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: jacquej

And it is work very rewarding work too


7 posted on 06/08/2013 2:59:29 PM PDT by al baby (Hi Mom)
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To: jacquej

I’m sorry about your son’s family. My husband and I went to counseling last year, after 24 years of marriage. It got so ugly our counselor fired us ;-), but it was enough to start us working through issues that had been festering for way too long. We’re still working, but there’s been real change and I feel hopeful for the first time in at least a decade.

You’re right: both have to want to work at it. I’ll pray for your son!


8 posted on 06/08/2013 3:03:14 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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To: NYer

Or, that could be a fold out Butler’s Desk in the center. I’ve seen them both ways.

In case you think I’m OT, consider that if this young couple taks care of their marriage with as much attention as the owners of that chest of drawers did, they should endure for a long time. Just like the chest of drawers, they should take special care to not bruise each other and to feed each others’ spirits with prayer and polish.


9 posted on 06/08/2013 3:04:17 PM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: NYer

Beautiful!

Thank you for posting this.


10 posted on 06/08/2013 3:06:26 PM PDT by thecodont
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To: NYer


"Happy, happy, happy pair!
None but the brave,
None but the brave,
None but the brave deserves the fair!"




"Riamh nár dhruid ó sbairn lann!"

Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!

Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV)

11 posted on 06/08/2013 3:06:47 PM PDT by ConorMacNessa (HM/2 USN, 3/5 Marines RVN 1969 - St. Michael the Archangel defend us in Battle!)
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To: geezmom

PING!


12 posted on 06/08/2013 3:07:36 PM PDT by WXRGina (The Founding Fathers would be shooting by now.)
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To: afraidfortherepublic; NYer

It looks like they’re at a historic site of some sort. I wonder if they got married in the garden. That would be pretty. Many such places around here are wedding venues.

My best friend from high school had her reception at a historic house in Alexandria, VA. It was elegant, but there were many small rooms and it was hard to figure out what was going on. A waiter brought champagne by, so we drank ... but we couldn’t find any food, so we were getting silly. We heard music, but couldn’t figure out where it was coming from.

Then I asked my mother, “Do you want to go outside and have a cigarette?” and about ten people said, “Good idea!” and went to a courtyard. Eventually we had to go home, before Mom got too smashed to drive with no food to be found.

My point is something about going for looks rather than your guests’ comfort ;-).


13 posted on 06/08/2013 3:09:59 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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To: jacquej

I’m sorry.


14 posted on 06/08/2013 3:10:19 PM PDT by combat_boots (The Lion of Judah cometh. Hallelujah. Gloria Patri, Filio et Spiritui Sancto!)
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To: jacquej

Yes, it is sad...we (spouse and I) have been there...

Take heart, focus on and trust the Lord, and keep praying for her, for them. There are so many things we can’t do anything about, but then, we can and need to turn them over to our heavenly Father in the name of Jesus. God does bring good out of bad, and He also promises believers that He causes all things to work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).


15 posted on 06/08/2013 3:11:07 PM PDT by TurkeyLurkey
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To: NYer

My wife and I celebrate our first year of marriage in 29 days. This makes me tear up. I can’t imagine my life without her.


16 posted on 06/08/2013 3:18:10 PM PDT by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: Tax-chick

We attended a wedding at a “mansion” in CT about 10 years ago. The groom was Presbyterian and the bride was 1/2 Jewish and 1/2 Catholic. Don’t ask me what she practicde. So, the wedding was not in a church, but was set for a beautiful garden with flowers and white chairs.

All of a sudden, just before the weddinng march, employees of the venue rushed around and issued umbrellas to every one. The rain came down in buckets, the bride was drenched, and the presider ushered everyone back inside. The trouble was that there was no room inside that was suitable for exchanging vows where everyone could sit.

We perched on chairs, on the stairs, in adjoining rooms, etc. and the couple exchanged vows in an intimate setting. There were appetizers before dinner served in various rooms (we never did find the baron of beef), followed by a sit down dinner and cake and dancing. It was a memorable event.

The good news is that the couple is still married and have 2 beautiful children.


17 posted on 06/08/2013 3:26:27 PM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: NYer

It is beautiful. That marriage will be blessed!


18 posted on 06/08/2013 3:27:36 PM PDT by LibWhacker
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Memorable in its way, if not the fairy-tale scene they might have planned.

My wedding was blessed by a sleet storm and 10-degree temperature ... in San Antonio, Texas. “We’ve never been this cold!” was a common remark.

It’s become a running joke that our anniversary (Feb. 4) is the coldest day of the year, no matter where we live. It was even below zero once, in Middle Tennessee.


19 posted on 06/08/2013 3:29:58 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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To: Tax-chick

LOLOLOL! We were married in northern Illinois on Feb.7. We got snowed in on our honeymoon. If the best man’s wife hadn’t packed our uneaten chicken luncheons in my suitcase, we might have starved to death the first day of our marriage. We couldn’t get out of our Lake Geneva cottage and get the car started until 5 pm the following day! But, we’re still together (despite ups and downs) 54 years later.


20 posted on 06/08/2013 3:36:02 PM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: NYer

Beautiful. I hope that they are soul mates. Sometimes it’s hard to find the other half of your soul, even when he’s right around the corner.


21 posted on 06/08/2013 3:38:16 PM PDT by jespasinthru (Proud member of the Vast Right-Wing Conspiracy.)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Wow, you’ve been married longer than my parents! You have to expect cold and snow in Northern Illinois, but it had been 80 degrees in SA just a couple of days earlier. My father-in-law and my maid-of-honor were iced in on the runway in Dallas. “She’s a substantial blonde, and she’ll be sewing a blue satin dress on the plane,” and sure enough, she was. They were friends by the time they landed!

I spent two nights in the airport waiting on people whose schedules went crazy with the weather. My cousin and his family got stuck in Denver and couldn’t make it. My bridesmaid’s family had an ice-trek by car from Dallas.


22 posted on 06/08/2013 4:05:07 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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To: Tax-chick

I have to laugh about “sewing a blue satin dress on the plane”. My daughter worked in a bridal shoppe when she was in graduate school doing alterations. She had a bridal party that came to Washington State from American Samoa. They had mail ordered their bridesmaid dresses (red satin) and arrived the day before the rehearsal dinner. Luckily the bridal shop owner had had the foresight to order a BOLT of extra red satin. Sure enough, these bridesmaids were hefty, and my daughter had to insert 2 panels down the sides of each dress. She sewed all night, but the wedding party was resplendent in red the following day.


23 posted on 06/08/2013 4:13:21 PM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: NYer
My bride and I have been married for 33 years this Nov.

Rough first several years..but we got some excellent advice one day..based on James 5:16

We physically out loud pray for each other every single day when we wake up...been doing it for over twenty-five years..

James 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

24 posted on 06/08/2013 4:15:44 PM PDT by Popman (Godlessness is always the first step to the concentration camp.)
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To: Popman

We will be 32 years in August. Some rough times, it has sort of smoothed out, though. I miss some things...


25 posted on 06/08/2013 4:28:40 PM PDT by madison10
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Marilyn is one of your last-minute people. Even after stitching all through her plane trip, we still had to safety-pin her cuffs for the wedding, because she hadn’t got all the buttons on.

I had only the two attendants, and I’d sent them each a piece of ribbon and said, “Get something you like in this color.” My teenage cousin had a basic ballerina-style bridesmaid dress, and Marilyn designed and almost finished making her own dress. Everyone was happy.


26 posted on 06/08/2013 4:31:47 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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To: NYer

So beautiful, so moving. There is hope for us yet. Thank you for posting.


27 posted on 06/08/2013 4:43:07 PM PDT by Persevero (Homeschooling for Excellence since 1992)
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To: jacquej
See if she would be willing to consider Retrovaille. It is not professional counseling. It is a peer to peer counseling from couples that have been in the exact same place. http://www.retrouvaille.org/contactus.php

If you would like more information contact me through Freepmail.

28 posted on 06/08/2013 4:48:17 PM PDT by verga (A nation divided by Zero!)
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To: NYer

Keep treating each other as you did in the beginning .... and there will be no end.


29 posted on 06/08/2013 4:55:57 PM PDT by Lizavetta (You get what you tolerate)
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To: Tax-chick

Thank you for your prayers. Please pray for my daughter-in-law, too. My son has tried so hard to please her, and nothing “material” is never enough.

She doesn’t know what she is doing, and so I forgive her, worry about her, and fear for her future.

My son can’t take any more abuse, and he is strong enough to go on. I am not so sure about her, however.

I fear the worst. And there are two young teen-aged boys involved. Mom is working hard to alienate them from Dad.

My job is to stay out of it. I wish I could talk to my daughter-in-law, but know she wouldn’t listen to anything I might say. My heart breaks for all four of them, but it seems to me (I am objective) that she is expecting more than any man can give.

Please pray for us. This hurts.


30 posted on 06/08/2013 4:58:42 PM PDT by jacquej
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To: verga

Thank you, Verga.

I am bookmarking your link, in hopes that she will come to her senses and get some counseling, because I seriously doubt she understands how much my son cares about her.

I do not want to criticize her, but it is hard, because she is causing my son so much pain.


31 posted on 06/08/2013 5:03:24 PM PDT by jacquej
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To: afraidfortherepublic

just down in lake geneva earlier this week on our anniversary day. a little buggy but a great day. we walk a good part of the lake, see lots of ducks and turtles.


32 posted on 06/08/2013 5:28:59 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: Popman

even if it’s “Lord you gave me her, you gotta fix her because i can’t”... :-)


33 posted on 06/08/2013 5:30:31 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: jacquej

she may just be on purpose asking for too much, so that he goes away and she isn’t the bad one.

if it goes the d way, get your son to be the plaintiff and get the papers in first. you want to be the plaintiff, especially if you are the man.


34 posted on 06/08/2013 5:32:30 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: NYer

Awesome. The family that prays together stays together.


35 posted on 06/08/2013 5:36:36 PM PDT by Hoodat (BENGHAZI - 4 KILLED, 2 MIA)
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To: jacquej

Don’t give up! A friend of mine showed up at my door about a year ago in crisis. She thought that her marriage was over. With lots of prayer and by her allowing God into her life she and her husband are now in the process of reconciliation and repairing what they both were ready to throw away last year.

If you had asked me the odds last year of that happening I wouldn’t have give very good ones.....God can - and does- work miracles. I’ll keep your daughter & son-in-law in prayer.


36 posted on 06/08/2013 5:38:47 PM PDT by 2nd amendment mama ( www.2asisters.org | Self defense is a basic human right!)
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To: jacquej

I’m so sorry, especially for children at such a vulnerable age. We have ten children, so the possibility of separating just wasn’t there. “The Cause,” as we put it, is bigger than both of us and any of our personal problems. A zombie marriage, of course, isn’t the best thing, and I hope we’re revivified now and it’s not just an illusion.

They’ll both be in my prayers, and your grandchildren as well. We don’t have this trial, yet ... our oldest child is 22 and single. She’s got a military career, a car, and a dog, and no energy for relationships!


37 posted on 06/08/2013 5:43:39 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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To: NYer

saw this on Facebook, beautiful picture, reminds me of the book of tobit.


38 posted on 06/08/2013 7:40:11 PM PDT by Coleus
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To: Secret Agent Man

She really is asking for too much, but I don’t think she is malicious, just clueless that life isn’t about McMansions, clothes, and expensive vacations.

If he says no to a “vacay” to San Diego over the 4th of July, after taking her and the boys to Italy for a week over Easter, she won’t talk to him for over a week, never mind other marital relations. (What the heck is worth visiting in San Diego in July, anyway?)

I don’t want to hijack this thread. My pain is overwhelming my better judgement at the moment, and I hope this young couple have a life-long marriage adventure ahead of them.

My husband and I did for 45 years, until Parkinson’s Plus claimed his life. I was his solo caregiver for the last ten years, and it was a challenge, but I know he would have done the same for me. I hate Parkinson’s Plus, by the way.

Being close to 70 yrs old, I can’t fathom why people do not get the concept that marriage isn’t what you get from the relationship, but what you give to it.

Will pass your wisdom on to my son, and thank you for your advice.


39 posted on 06/08/2013 7:58:55 PM PDT by jacquej
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To: Tax-chick

Tax-chick, you are truly blessed. My husband and I wished so often that we had had the courage to have a quiver full. Alas, we only had four, and if we could have a “do-over”, we would have had as many as we could.

I miss my good husband so much now that he is no longer here. Appreciate yours every day, no matter how he might irritate you at a moment. When he is gone, you will miss his quirks more than you know.

I hope this young bride and groom know what a life-long challenge they face, once the excitement of the early years of marriage wears off.

The later years of marriage are so much more rewarding, if the couple can make it through/overcome the “middle-storm” of life.

Thank you for your prayers for my son & family. I pray constantly for them too.


40 posted on 06/08/2013 8:15:31 PM PDT by jacquej
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To: jacquej
My husband and I did for 45 years, until Parkinson’s Plus claimed his life. I was his solo caregiver for the last ten years, and it was a challenge, but I know he would have done the same for me. I hate Parkinson’s Plus, by the way.

Being close to 70 yrs old, I can’t fathom why people do not get the concept that marriage isn’t what you get from the relationship, but what you give to it.

God bless you. What a wonderful example of dedication to your husband.

41 posted on 06/08/2013 8:19:53 PM PDT by thecodont
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To: 2nd amendment mama

Thank you for your prayers. Please say a special prayer for my daughter-in-law. Pray that she finds Him, and values the man who loves her, not the “stuff” he provides.


42 posted on 06/08/2013 8:25:43 PM PDT by jacquej
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To: TurkeyLurkey

TL, thank you for your thoughtful post.

I am going to pray constantly for them both. They are both good parents, and it breaks my heart that after so many years, they seem to be so far apart.

It is a new shock to me, just learning about it 10 days ago. My son was afraid to tell me, because of the recent loss of his dad, my husband.

Reminds me of the old Morton’s salt label, but I pray this young couple has 75 years ahead of them, working through the droughts and torrential downpours, joking over hardships, saving up the good times to carry them across the hard times.

I pray and ask in Jesus’ name, that this couple be blessed by God, with faith in Him, then courage, patience, good will, tolerance, and forgiveness for each other’s faults.


43 posted on 06/08/2013 8:50:12 PM PDT by jacquej
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To: afraidfortherepublic

I’m glad I’m not the only one who recognized those details!


44 posted on 06/08/2013 8:57:56 PM PDT by ottbmare (The OTTB Mare--now a Marine Mom)
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To: Tax-chick

Who gets married in January or February? I did in January and you in February. It, merely, shows we CAN ‘weather’ anything and will!


45 posted on 06/09/2013 6:32:06 AM PDT by presently no screen name
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To: presently no screen name
shows we CAN ‘weather’ anything and will

Good interpretation!

46 posted on 06/09/2013 12:18:25 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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To: jacquej

Suggest this book to your son. We've found it very insightful. (The Eldredges are popular Christian authors, and their books are in most libraries.)

My husband and I had almost the opposite issue to your daughter-in-law's: he wants to buy things, and I want him to make an effort at things, such as taking care of his pets instead of taking advantage of the knowledge that I'll do it rather than let them suffer. Buying stuff is easy. Paying attention and participating in my life is (it appears) a lot harder.

I was honestly surprised that he didn't agree to a "services contract" cohabitation, but actually wanted to have a relationship with me. It has to be the Holy Spirit at work!

47 posted on 06/09/2013 12:52:23 PM PDT by Tax-chick (More open defiance is needed.)
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