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Holy Husbands: A Heavenly Gift
Catholic Exchange ^ | June 14, 2013 | FR. ED BROOM

Posted on 06/15/2013 2:18:33 PM PDT by NYer

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“Be holy as your heavenly Father is holy.” These words of Jesus, taught in the context of the Sermon on the Mount, is a universal command! This must be carried out according to one’s specific vocation of life.

What are some specific ways in which men who have chosen the married state can live out this universal call and command to be holy as our heavenly Father is holy?

In this short essay we will focus on the Husband’s relationship to God and his wife. Once married, the hierarchy of importance for the married man must be the following order: God, wife, children, then parents and relatives. When this order is turned topsy-turvy, then confusion and problems inundate the family! Following are five building blocks to construct a solid and holy family.

1. PRAYER FOR SPOUSE. A holy and noble husband should be a man of prayer. He should pray fervently and frequently for the totality of his family; however, first on the list should be for his wife. He should daily pray for her daily conversion, sanctification and eternal salvation.

2. PRAY WITH THE SPOUSE. Not only should he pray for his spouse, but he should have the habit of praying with his wife. Frequently, “Macho-type” men ask their wives to pray for them and at times say that they pray in private but excuse themselves from praying in common with their wives. Wrong! St. Joseph shines as a brilliant example to follow! No doubt, this great saint offered fervent and frequent private prayers, but he also would pray with his wife—the Blessed Virgin Mary.

3. PRIME-TIME TO PRAY. Prayer can be considered both the easiest of all activities, but at the same time the most difficult. Why? We can pray at any time, in any place and in any words we choose—- easy, at least it seems! However it is difficult because the “4”d’s that prevent us from praying: the devil, distractions, and daily-duties. All of these tend to suffocate and crowd prayer from our lives. Therefore, spouses should prioritize “Prime-times” of prayer together: Morning prayers upon waking, Meal times, the most Holy Rosary, and if possible attendance at Holy Mass and Holy Communion together. When husbands take the initiative to pray together this serves as a type of “Super-glue” to unite them in a harmonious and cohesive whole. How true resound the words of the Rosary-priest, Father Patrick Peyton: “The family that prays together stays together.”

4. OFFER MASSES FOR THE WIFE. Wives that take their spiritual lives seriously would rejoice to their heart’s content if on their Birthday as well as on their Wedding Anniversary their husbands would have the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass offered for their intentions. Indeed all prayers are good and pleasing to God if offered with purity of intention and for a noble purpose. However, the greatest prayer underneath the sun is by far the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. One Mass is worth more than all of the private prayers put together. Why? Mass is OPUS DEI— the very work of God Himself. Husbands, the next time your wife’s birthday arrives as well as your wedding anniversary, why not have a pre-planned Mass offered for the treasure of your life, your loving wife!

5. CONSECRATION OF THE FAMILY TO THE IMMACULATE HEART OFMARY AND THE SACRED HEART OF JESUS! Fathers are called to be the “Head” of the family, as well as “The Priest of the family”. What a sublime and supernatural gesture for the Husband to take the initiative to have his wife, and children and the whole family consecrated to the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus and the Immaculate Heart of Mary. This would entail a bit of work: purchase the material (books or pamphlets), obtain the images of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and the Immaculate Heart of Mary, invite the priest to enthrone the images as well as the specific time. How many wives would be exultant with overflowing joy seeing their husbands take the initiative to consecrate their lives and family to the Hearts of Jesus and Mary!

The Husband is called to be the Head and Leader of the family; if you like, he is called to be the “Priest” of the family. This means that he is called to a deep prayer life that he manifests in private prayer, but also in family prayer, still more, in finding a time and place to pray with the treasure of his life his wife! How true: “The family that prays together stays together.”

TOPICS: Catholic; Moral Issues; Prayer; Religion & Culture
KEYWORDS: fathers; husbands

1 posted on 06/15/2013 2:18:34 PM PDT by NYer
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2 posted on 06/15/2013 2:19:06 PM PDT by NYer ( "Run from places of sin as from the plague."--St John Climacus)
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To: NYer


3 posted on 06/15/2013 2:30:21 PM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: NYer

An Honorable Christian husband who stays the course is a rare gift indeed in this day and age....few left that can manage the feat no matter their professions of faith.

4 posted on 06/15/2013 2:35:26 PM PDT by Lady Heron
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To: NYer

Whether we are 5, 25, or 50, Dad plays a vital role in our lives. This Father’s Day, share the following letter from an unknown source to let your dad know how special he is in your life.


My Father

When I was: Four years old: My daddy can do anything.
When I was: Five years old: My daddy knows a whole lot.
When I was: Six years old: My dad is smarter than your dad.
When I was: Eight years old: My dad doesn't know exactly everything.
When I was: 10 years old: In the olden days, when my dad grew up, things were sure different.
When I was: 12 years old: Oh, well, naturally, Dad doesn't know anything about that. He is too old to remember his childhood.
When I was: 14 years old: Don't pay any attention to my dad. He is so old-fashioned.
When I was: 21 years old: Him? My Lord, he's hopelessly out of date.
When I was: 25 years old: Dad knows about it, but then he should, because he has been around so long.
When I was: 30 years old: Maybe we should ask Dad what he thinks. After all, he's had a lot of experience.
When I was: 35 years old: I'm not doing a single thing until I talk to Dad.
When I was: 40 years old: I wonder how Dad would have handled it. He was so wise.
When I was: 50 years old: I'd give anything if Dad were here now so I could talk this over with him. Too bad I didn't appreciate how smart he was. I could have learned a lot from him.



Regardless of the stage of life you are in, we wish a Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful fathers out there!

5 posted on 06/15/2013 2:39:36 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: Salvation
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6 posted on 06/15/2013 2:42:23 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: NYer

7 posted on 06/15/2013 2:53:26 PM PDT by BlueDragon (And who do say that I am?)
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To: Salvation
For the gals, young or old, a little advice from a man who knows things, some of them learned the in painful ways:

Holy husband or no, don't forget the guys are human. And men, too. Different. That's one reason why women marry them. Whatever you do, don't try and turn 'em into women.

Sometimes...a guy 'aint got no time to be instructed, but just has to go fix that hole in the roof. Some possible comment or inclusion of important detail is ok. But be brief if possible, and always be kind if ya' can swing it.

When he get's done, he don't wanna be hearing a bunch of yapping telling him what he should be "like" or do, coming from all direction including the dawg. Leave him be, 'cause you just might not understand. He might need some time for his mind to wander, almost as much as a woman might could use a bit more help with the housework. But don't bug the guy too much. Find another way, if possible.

If he isn't listening, he may already "know" but is struggling to come up to every and all prior expectations, or ate up with guilt for falling short of doing so. He could pull away. Reassurance towards the fella a bit here and there all along the way can go a long ways. Want the man to be holy? Ok fine. Expect that he be so? Get ye to a convent and go marry Jesus. Maybe He will send someone to fix the roof. Stranger things have happened.

8 posted on 06/15/2013 3:37:46 PM PDT by BlueDragon (how do you like me now?)
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To: NYer

Thank you for the ping, know my story, and you know I was blessed with a Holy Husband in my life for much too short of a time. I am grateful for that time, however brief, and look forward to being reunited with him one day. God Bless. xo

9 posted on 06/15/2013 5:37:24 PM PDT by dansangel (Rest in peace, .45MAN)
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10 posted on 06/15/2013 5:57:32 PM PDT by Doomonyou (Let them eat Lead.)
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To: BlueDragon

one thing i wish,’if it would be’something women would learn, besides learning to turn lights off, would be, if we don’t ask for help or advice, we don’t want it, and when we ask for help or advice, that is when we do need it. also that as we do not remind you of tasks and chores you know you have to do every day, or regularly, because you know you have to do them and us reminding you of them really doesn’t help you, the same thing goes for us.

11 posted on 06/15/2013 10:51:06 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: NYer

12 posted on 06/15/2013 11:07:16 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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Yes, I think that's fairly universal. Still, folks have to bear with one another, even when they don't particularly care for what they may be hearing.

I once had a successful couple (raised six children --at one point had serious issues/even split up for a short time but reconciled) tell me they had developed a philosophy that worked for them.

Both were to consider that 90% of themselves belonged to the other. Like giving up their "rights" almost. Non of this we'll split it 50-50 in effort to be "fair". Forget weighing for fair. But reserve 10% of "self". And don't require or expect that last 10% of the other ever, remembering it is impossible to determine just where the line of that 10% could be, too, but don't be afraid to ask, to talk. Respect that 10% at all times. Cherish that other's own perhaps diametrically opposed different-ness, regardless of how it goes (within some limit...oh baby)

The other could be giving so much more than the receiver be noticing...or not enough be given, so if asked, if it any way possible, just go ahead and fork it over. Release it. Give it up. Smile and remember the 10's sacrosanct. Love the sacredness of that in the other. Love their 10%, their own unique being. Don't try and make that change...

That sort of thing, but I'm expanding upon the formula as outlined...which may be why that sort of thing can work between two people of at least moderate intelligence(?). otherwise, if one less than bright, or having difficulties, anything... that would show the other right where to give to the one in need of most any sort, with there being safe place to apply to the other in fullest consideration the 90% which belongs to that other. Reserving one's own 10%

In my FR habit of frequently including music selection, one comes to mind which could be accompaniment, carrying Christian theme as to the issue. Though not exactly a "how to" make a man holy, if One portion remained could help make both man and wife more holy, together. It's kinda' hippy-dippy preachy, but I do have a soft spot for it. Wedding Song

13 posted on 06/16/2013 12:09:26 AM PDT by BlueDragon (hold on sec...just gittin me swimmin trunks...)
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To: NYer

reminds me of the story of two older Irish women who listened to a sermon by a priest on Marriage.

Ah yes, wasn’t that a lovely sermon, says the one.

Yes it was. And I wish I knew as little about marriage as he does.

Sorry, I didn’t marry a “holy” husband: I married a sexy one.

14 posted on 06/16/2013 2:16:23 AM PDT by LadyDoc (liberals only love politically correct poor people)
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To: Salvation

Great post!

15 posted on 06/16/2013 3:05:34 AM PDT by NYer ( "Run from places of sin as from the plague."--St John Climacus)
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A Prayer for Fathers

A Prayer for Fathers

Most gracious Heavenly Father,

We thank you for our earthly fathers, those to whom you have entrusted the responsibility to provide loving protection of their families and guidance of their children. We thank you, also, for our priests and bishops, whose spiritual fatherhood is so vital to the faith of your people.

May our earthly fathers imitate the manly courage of Abraham, Jesse and Joseph, and all the holy fathers of the past in providing wise counsel to the children you have given to their care. And may our spiritual fathers be guided by the examples of Saints Peter and Paul, all the Apostles and their saintly successors. Give them valiant faith in the face of confusion and conflict, hope in time of trouble and sorrow, and steadfast love for you, for their families, and for all your people throughout the world.

Assist all fathers of families, all spiritual fathers, and all Christian men, that through your Grace they may steadily grow in holiness and in knowledge and understanding of your Truth. May they generously impart this knowledge to those who rely on them.

As you, our Heavenly Father, so loved the world, sending your only Son to be our Savior and Redeemer, we ask you to help all men to imitate His fatherly gentleness and mercy toward those who are weak; His humility, perfect obedience to your Will, and fearless witness to your Truth. May their lives be examples to all of heroic faithfulness to you.

We ask your blessing on all those to whom you have entrusted fatherhood. May your Holy Spirit constantly inspire them with justice and mercy, wisdom and strength, fidelity and self-giving love. May they receive your Grace abundantly in this earthly life, and may they look forward to eternal joy in your presence in the life to come.

We ask this through Jesus Christ, your Son and Our Lord, AMEN.

o o +++ o o

Prodigal Son - Pencil drawing by Helen Hull Hitchcock

16 posted on 06/16/2013 7:36:49 AM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: All

"Be a Dad!" by Fr. Larry Richards


"Be a Dad!" | Fr. Larry Richards | Adapted and excerpted from Be a Man! Becoming the Man God Created You to Be | Ignatius Insight 

You are going to die!

It doesn't matter how rich we are, or how popular we are, or how powerful we are: we are all going to "kick the bucket" one day. Isn't that a nice thought?

What we have to do is take some time to sit and meditate about taking our last breath. What do you want your wife to say about you? What do you want your kids to say about you? Once you've decided, "Okay, when I am taking my last breath this is what I want", you can start living your life with your end goal in mind. You will start living in such a way that when the day of your death happens, the people who know you will say what you want them to say.

Death is the ultimate thing that takes control out of our hands. Even if we commit suicide, we cannot control what happens after we die. Not one of us had control over our own birth and not one of us has control of what happens after we die.

I have been to a lot of deathbeds throughout my priesthood, so I know what it is going to be like when you are dying. While you are lying there, the thing that is going to be most important to you is your relationships—the people that you loved and the people that in return loved you.

Then why don't we live every day with that in mind? Make the decision to never let your wife or your kids go to bed or walk out the door without telling them first that you love them—life is just too short! It will change your family. It will change the world.

Continue reading ""Be a Dad!" by Fr. Larry Richards" »

17 posted on 06/16/2013 7:55:44 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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