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To: markomalley

I have been struggling with this recently, and I’ve realized that there’s a further step required. You can forgive someone, no longer be angry, not be intending to get even, all that ... but you might have drawn a conclusion from what occurred that will continue to poison the relationship. “I forgive him ... but I’ve learned that I can’t rely on him. I have to do everything for myself.”

This is difficult to overcome, because it seems perfectly reasonable, and yet, “Whatever does not proceed from faith is sin.” If I believe that the Spirit can work in me to conform me more closely to Christ, I have to believe that He is also working and changing others.


2 posted on 06/20/2013 4:28:48 AM PDT by Tax-chick (Does Bill have a job yet?)
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To: Tax-chick

“I forgive him ... but I’ve learned that I can’t rely on him. I have to do everything for myself.”

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to leave out common sense.

If someone gives you a ride home, but gets into an accident because they are a bad driver - you can easily forgive them, but that doesn’t mean that you have to force yourself to get in their car again.


6 posted on 06/20/2013 6:38:18 AM PDT by kidd
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To: Tax-chick

This was one of the homilies at my ELCA church that they got right, which is that forgiving and forgetting are two different animals.

As to your last observation - that the Spirit can change people. That’s certainly true, however, then the entire subject turns on timetables and cost/benefit analysis. God doesn’t call for us to be pinatas, just forgiving.


30 posted on 06/20/2013 1:49:16 PM PDT by RinaseaofDs
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