Posted on 07/10/2013 2:55:05 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
Gender is a matter of grammar, an in the present rhetorial setting it seems to mean a sense of "style" as masculine or feminine. I think this is irrelevant. A rather mannish woman could join a rather feminine man in the Holy Sacrament of Matrimony and have a perfectly valid and God-pleasing marriage.
She likes to bale hay? He like to make lace? No problem. Her hair is straight and short, he's got a headful of curls? No problem.
As long as they're a man and a woman, and what they do in bed includes the procreative marriage act. That's it.
"Gender" shades, slides and shape-shifts. "Sex" is a physiological fact. Marriage is defined by the two sexes, a permanent reality.
NO kidding....
I sure hope they didn't use a research grant to figure that one out.
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I had the same initial reaction, as I really detest too-”meaningful” language; however, I have to say that when I read the entire article, I was very impressed with the author’s evenhanded treatment of the topic. I think his research brought out some really important, but very deeply buried, insights.
The sermon at my church last sunday involved the interview of an ex-gay christian. It was eye opening.
Nor am I sure that affective gender differences overwhelm individual temperaments. For instance: a particular emotionally spontaneous, expressive man may be more emotive than a particular reserved or stoical woman.
I am uncomfortable with calling that genderqueer or gender-variant or gender-anything. It's a matter of individual temperament and, often, culture.
While generalizations can be made about people, they cannot be put in a box.
If people were more willing to accept others as they are, without excusing sin in their lives, life would be so much easier.
There’s a difference between character qualities and personality and making bad life choices. character differences make the world go round. Bad choices and the (usually) associated consequences I have little time or sympathy for.
I'm sure you'll get over it.
Not sure about the poor goat, though.
bkmk
Agreed. We do such a disservice when we, e.g., label guys who like show tunes as “light in the loafers”. Heck, I sing along with Barry Manilow at the top of my lungs! Emotion and sensitivity don’t make one a homosexual.
that’s one of my most favorite jokes.
Thanks so much for posting this article. I’ll be passing it on to some people.
Placemark for pingout. I just read a little bit (will read tomorrow) but I am so with you on the wrong use of the word “gender”.
I thought this was very interesting. I agree with everyone that using “gender” when “sex” was needed is an error. I got the impression that the experiences of the men quoted by the author, while quite sincere, are also very particular: the experiences of those individual men and the individual women they married.
While certain personality traits were described as distinctly “feminine,” would another observer have seen the same woman as simply a decent human being? Metmom is right on in saying that too much of human variety is ascribed to “gender” or excluded by “gender,” and too little space is given for simply humanity and virtuous character.
.. but I'm with you. These days, paradoxically, the supposedly "don't-stereotype-me" gender activists are actyally erecting and enforcing huge new stereotype templates, so that everybody's got a rigid niche in the alphabet-soup LGBTQQI-BDSM-LSD-STD-AIDS luncy, and every bit of individuality you enjoy is labeled genderqueer.
Now I'm gonna go out and check out my new tool I got from eBay: a combination hatchet-hammer-crowbar-nail-puller. Much better for me than a cosmetics set!!!
Is it a FUBAR?!? I’ve been coveting one of those! Have a great day, Mrs. Don-o.
I'm shining it up! I love it, love it, love it! Now I don't have to pull nails out with my --- er --- nails.
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Never WAS ladylike, durn it!
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