The Catholic church is not a club, or a democracy. It is what it is, and if you don’t like the rules you can always become a Protestant, or if you prefer a heathen.
Or a Christian.
A few years back, my granddaughter thought it was cool to play basketball with the boys when she was 10....then the boys grew.....and my granddaughter said...."You were right grandma....I am not their equal". And she joined the girls team.
Grandma was 10 once, too.