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What if Your Child is Gay?
Moore to The Point ^ | June 6, 2014 | Russell Moore

Posted on 06/07/2014 2:20:39 PM PDT by yongin

My denomination is dealing these days with a pastor in California who reversed his position on homosexuality. The pastor said that his shift coincided with his 15 year-old son’s announcement that he is gay. This is a situation every Christian should think through, now. As I’ve said before, at stake on the issue of a Christian sexual ethic is the gospel of Jesus Christ. But what if, sitting across from you, is your child or grandchild?

You will, without a doubt, have someone close to you in your family come out as gay or lesbian, if not already, then sometime in the future. How should a Christian parent or grandparent respond?

One of the reasons this is such a crushing experience for many is because they assume that their alternatives are affirmation or alienation. I either give up my relationship with my child or I give up the Bible. The gospel never suggests this set of alternatives, and in fact demonstrates just the opposite.

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1 posted on 06/07/2014 2:20:39 PM PDT by yongin
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To: yongin

Tell them it is wrong and you will pray for them


2 posted on 06/07/2014 2:25:11 PM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: yongin

What if your child is a thief? an adulterer? a murderer? etc....do you just throw out Biblical teaching????


3 posted on 06/07/2014 2:25:26 PM PDT by ealgeone (obama, borderof)
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To: yongin

If your kid is gay then he need psychiatric help to make he’s normal again.


4 posted on 06/07/2014 2:25:37 PM PDT by BuffaloJack (Unarmed people cannot defend themselves. America is no longer a Free Country.)
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To: yongin

and tell them they are too young to be having sex, period


5 posted on 06/07/2014 2:25:46 PM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: yongin

If your kid is gay then he need psychiatric help to make him normal again.


6 posted on 06/07/2014 2:26:17 PM PDT by BuffaloJack (Unarmed people cannot defend themselves. America is no longer a Free Country.)
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To: yongin

You’re going to love your own child no matter what wrong he or she has done. That does not mean accepting the wrong. You don’t.


7 posted on 06/07/2014 2:26:54 PM PDT by RegulatorCountry
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To: yongin

What if your child is a shoplifter?


8 posted on 06/07/2014 2:27:25 PM PDT by MrEdd (Heck? Geewhiz Cripes, thats the place where people who don't believe in Gosh think they aint going.)
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To: yongin

“You will, without a doubt, have someone close to you in your family come out as gay or lesbian, if not already, then sometime in the future”

This is delusional. Its 2% of the damn population. You are actually incredibly unlikely to have this happen, the reason it is happening at all is that our culture promotes deviancy and degeneracy as noble virtues.

A British reporter recently went to southern Russia in the wake of the homosexual propaganda law and had an informal discussion with some average Russian middle-aged men who took him hunting. He asked them what they’d do any of their sons told them they were homosexual. The response of one of the men was “that wouldn’t happen”. And he’s right, unless the culture promotes it or their is some internal family dynamic, it doesn’t happen.


9 posted on 06/07/2014 2:27:39 PM PDT by Viennacon
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To: fieldmarshaldj; Impy; BillyBoy; AuH2ORepublican; Viennacon

Here’s an interesting article by Russell Moore, the Director of the Ethics Life Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptists. I am pleasantly surprised by Russell Moore. When Russell Moore became the Director, I thought he was a wishy, washy moderate. Prior to becoming the Director, Russell Moore was a staff worker for Congressman Gene Taylor. Moore even named one of his sons after Taylor. Even he considers himself to be a political moderate, I’m glad he has his head straight on spiritual matters.


10 posted on 06/07/2014 2:28:32 PM PDT by yongin
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To: yongin
Tell the kid to stop listening to the liberal media propaganda about everything homo.

Inform him the odds of him truly being a mentally ill homo are less than 2%.

11 posted on 06/07/2014 2:29:26 PM PDT by doorgunner69
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To: ealgeone

Well, apparently liberal thinking Christians are throwing out Biblical teaching, in the area of homosexuality.

People who presumably not disavow Biblical teachings about thievery or adultery, do disavow in the area of homosexuality.

Why homosexuality is deemed so special as to warrant this distinction, I have no idea.


12 posted on 06/07/2014 2:29:50 PM PDT by Dilbert San Diego (et)
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To: Viennacon

bump


13 posted on 06/07/2014 2:30:34 PM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans)
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To: Viennacon
Its 2% of the damn population

I doubt it's even half that.

14 posted on 06/07/2014 2:31:20 PM PDT by TADSLOS (The Event Horizon has come and gone. Buckle up and hang on.)
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To: yongin
What if Your Child is Gay?

I will find out the root of why they think so and work with them to understand why they are not homosexual.

Then I will find out who abuse them and kill them.

15 posted on 06/07/2014 2:32:21 PM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Proud Infidel, Gun Nut, Religious Fanatic and Freedom Fiend)
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear

Tell him you are proud of him for making such a courageous decision and that you will be there to support him through this trying time.

Three weeks later he will be straight again.


16 posted on 06/07/2014 2:36:31 PM PDT by EQAndyBuzz ("Heck of a reset there, Hillary")
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To: yongin

I would suggest to him that he is probably mistaken. If he persisted in that pathology, I would advise him to seek professional help. If he refused and elected to wallow in his perversion, I would inform him in no uncertain terms that I would continue to love him, but that that part of his life was not welcome under my roof.


17 posted on 06/07/2014 2:36:57 PM PDT by IronJack
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To: yongin

What if you found out your child was ______

1) gay
2) kleptomaniac
3) pedophile
4) liar
5) murder
6) addicted to: (porn, drugs, alcohol, etc)
etc

Sin is sin and should be addressed in the same manner. Tell the person that what they are doing is wrong, why it is wrong and how to get right with God.


18 posted on 06/07/2014 2:40:58 PM PDT by taxcontrol
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To: EQAndyBuzz
LOL!

Depending on age that just might be true.

19 posted on 06/07/2014 2:42:32 PM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Proud Infidel, Gun Nut, Religious Fanatic and Freedom Fiend)
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To: MrEdd
What if your child is a shoplifter?

Well ... he was born that way. [/s]

20 posted on 06/07/2014 2:42:46 PM PDT by ClearCase_guy (Fegelein! Fegelein! Fegelein!)
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To: Dilbert San Diego

I thought this was a good article. I agree with Freeper Dilbert San Diego. . .why should homosexuality be treated any differently. Our culture, since turning its back on God’s Word, has more influence on children than parents. Not to mention the technology nightmare we find ourselves in. . .articles suggest GMO Foods and the use of microwaves and smart meters are turning boys into girls. i.e. https://healthmasters.com/blog/chemical-gender-manipulation and http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2010/05/18/microwave-hazards.aspx


21 posted on 06/07/2014 2:43:17 PM PDT by Maudeen ("End Times Warrior - Just a Sinner Saved by Grace")
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To: ealgeone

Exactly. I have has this conversation with all of my children. All sin, everyone has a sinful nature, but it’s only certain sins that are being excused because it is simply too uncomfortable to point it out.


22 posted on 06/07/2014 2:44:09 PM PDT by HMS Surprise (Chris Christie can STILL go straight to hell.)
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To: Maudeen

http://www.cbc.ca/doczone/episodes/the-disappearing-male


23 posted on 06/07/2014 2:48:29 PM PDT by Black Agnes
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To: yongin
My denomination is dealing these days with a pastor heretic behind the pulpit in California who reversed his position on homosexuality God.

But I'm fairly certain God hasn't reversed His position.

24 posted on 06/07/2014 2:49:17 PM PDT by Repeat Offender (The VA - same government incompetence as the TSA but with less molestation.)
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To: yongin

If you go with every word of the Bible as infallible, then I guess your child is out of luck for support and love.

I don’t stone people who don’t observe the sabbath. I believe babies with heartbeats who die in utero are human and have souls and go to heaven. And I believe gay people are equal to straight people. I believe slavery is always wrong. And still the Bible is a great help to me personally. I just don’t follow every word.

If my child is gay he gets total love and support from me same as if he were straight.

Not Christian but I do note that Jesus didn’t discriminate but helped and loved all.


25 posted on 06/07/2014 2:49:32 PM PDT by Yaelle
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To: yongin

You take him to an AIDS ward at a hospital or crisis center. Then you rent some gay porn and make him watch it with you while you show your revulsion.

Then you explain he has bought the BS and you want to help him. He can accept that help or he is on his own. Forever.

Then you find a different church.


26 posted on 06/07/2014 2:50:41 PM PDT by Norm Lenhart (How's that 'lesser evil' workin' out for ya?)
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To: yongin

No more “gay” postings, OK?

If we ignore them, maybe they’ll go away.


27 posted on 06/07/2014 2:51:13 PM PDT by Walrus (I love the America that used to be ---I hate the America that now IS!)
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To: BuffaloJack
If your kid is gay then he need psychiatric help to make he’s normal again.

I agree. It is part of a larger personality development problem.

We all struggle in maturing but luckily most of us don't have problems with developing our opposite gender attraction.

Those that do need help. They do not need to be told that they are fine and that they do not need to develop fully as adults.

Additionally, not all men are alpha males. Some men are more feminine...nothing wrong with that (and nothing that summer camp at Parris Island can't cure;-)). But homosexuality is a deadly lifestyle based on a foundation of pure sexual addiction (which is one of the reasons God defines it as a sin).

28 posted on 06/07/2014 2:52:15 PM PDT by RoosterRedux
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To: yongin

Don’t personalize the argument


29 posted on 06/07/2014 2:52:52 PM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: HMS Surprise

Right on. Every child will sin. Most will sin regarding sex. Some sins will be more yucky to you than others but it’s all the same.


30 posted on 06/07/2014 2:53:50 PM PDT by Yaelle
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To: yongin

What do you tell them?

You point them in the direction of the nearest Armed Forces Recruiting center! They’ll fit in just fine and they’ll love the “Golden Showers”!


31 posted on 06/07/2014 2:54:12 PM PDT by Rich21IE
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To: yongin

You say, “Oh Thank God... I thought you were about to tell me you were majoring in Sociology.”


32 posted on 06/07/2014 2:54:16 PM PDT by A_perfect_lady
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To: BuffaloJack

Parents in California are having a difficult time finding Psychologists who treat being gay as a reversible condition. There is a lot of social noise being made that they (Clerics or Aversion Therapists who assist in altering gender identity) shouldn’t be licensed as legitimate providers of care at all. This is how the majority used to feel about Chiropractors, as though they were quacks and Witch Doctors.


33 posted on 06/07/2014 2:55:24 PM PDT by lee martell
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To: yongin

If it’s a boy, tell him that there are other ways to get accepted.

If it’s a girl, tell her that there are other ways to hate men (or boys).


34 posted on 06/07/2014 2:57:47 PM PDT by BobL
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To: yongin

Every child, whether gay or straight, is oriented toward sin, and so are you.


Yes, but how many are or at least were stupid enough to rub their parents nose in it?

If some one was really gay they kept their mouth shut about it because they knew it was wrong, I honestly don`t believe they even had to be told.

So it seems to me when a child tells you he is gay what he is doing is openly rejecting God, and not only rubbing his parents nose in it but deliberately trying to rub Gods nose in it too.

A child who can make a decision in this matter is either old enough to go his own way or has been ruined by those who should have been making his decisions.

Mathew 10
34 “Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword.

35 For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’;
ruined to
36 and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’

37 He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.

38 And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me.

39 He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.


35 posted on 06/07/2014 2:58:12 PM PDT by ravenwolf
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To: yongin

My son has been a homosexual for over ten years. The following article helps to keep me praying, which I must say, really gets hard as the years go by.

Ministering to Homosexuals in San Francisco

Charles A. McIlhenny

Extracted from Ordained Servant vol. 6, no. 1 (January 1997)

A mother tearfully confided in me as pastor that her son poignantly declared himself “gay.” She had always “known” that he was different. He didn’t play sports, he wasn’t vicious or brutal, he liked music and interior decorating, he had a slight swagger to his gait, he spoke with a faint hair-lisp, and always hung around Uncle Harry at family gatherings. His declaration, however, seemed to be the “coup de grace” on their relationship - his relationship to his mother. I momentarily reflected on her sobbing, and then replied that it seemed like she was grieving over the discovery that her son was a from another planet—a Martian! That his supposed “coming out”—his confessing a newly discovered faith-sex-condition—put him beyond the pale of her fundamentalist retrieval and that she’d better get used to him being an alien, i. e., gay!

The homosexual propaganda machine has been cranking out overtime, to an unbelieving secular media, convincing people that “gay” is equivalent to any other already legitimate genetic race-like group. And amazingly many naive Christians have been seduced by such propaganda.

News Flash, Madam! Your son is NOT a Martian. He’s a sinner that needs the grace of God—JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER SINNER.

When people ask me if we have any special counseling for homosexuals I say yes: the counsel of the Word of God, the counsel of the preaching of the Gospel, the counsel of God’s call of repentance and faith in Jesus Christ, the counsel of God’s corporate covenant community in worship. Contrary to the gimmicks of the world, you’d better believe we have something special.

Is the modern homosexual a special case with unique and complex psychoses which the primitive Scriptures never knew? Have we imbibed the pseudo-medical conclusion which places the 20th century homophile beyond the reach of the naive, hysterical dictates of the Word of God? Does the Word of God fail to recognize newly discovered genetic and biological factors to which, had they been known, would have made a difference in whether to condemn or accept homosexuals as just different? Does the Bible fail to appropriately distinguish between orientation and praxis? Does the Bible really condemn homosexuals or does it condemn heterosexuals acting contrary to their natures? Is it inversion or perversion which is forbidden by the Scriptures? The answer to all these questions is a resounding NO! Homosexuals have no place to hide from the scrutiny of God’s Law—no more than any other sinner who tries to invent excuses for his sin. That’s why the homosexual paradigm is so crucial for the church today. If this sin can be justified, then ANY sin can be excused; but the only justification recognized by the Word is that of sinners who repent and believe in the cross of Christ, instead of making excuses.

No, homosexuals are to be recieve no special method or message different from other sinners that need Jesus. If that were the case every sinner would have a special excuse for his peculiar type sin. The Bible is clear that sin, of whatever make and model, can only be forgiven by grace and overcome by the power of the gospel.

News flash! The opposite of a homosexual IS NOT a heterosexual. The idea that a homosexual is of another human kind is as foolish as saying the opposite of a paedophile is a heterosexual, or the opposite of an adulterer is a heterosexual. The true opposite of fornication is regeneration; the biblical opposite of paedophilia is justification; the cleansed opposite of homosexuality is sanctification. They ARE all heterosexuals! They haven’t stopped BEING heterosexuals. They have all broken God’s moral law. They all need to be converted -” to be washed, sanctified, and justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.” [1 Cor. 6: 11]

In a sense every sinner is different in his sin but there is only ONE common faith-message: repent and believe the gospel. Paul told the Philippian jailer: “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you shall be saved, you and your household.” [Acts 16: 31] This was not tailor-made for Philippian government workers or European white/ male or Greek mid-life crises jailers with families. Paul would have said this to anyone no matter what his background or circumstance of sin would be.

Many of the homosexuality-plagued seekers think that they must be a special case. It’s supposedly too hard to give up this sin; ergo, maybe it’s not sin after all! These people must see that it is no more difficult to abandon this sin than any other sin. That this sin has the same cleansing promise as every other sin—no more and no less than the work of Christ.

Paul does say that, compared to other sins, sexual sin denigrates the human body; but he doesn’t give them a different message of the gospel, nor promise a separate healing. [1 Cor. 6: 18]

One size fits all.

As for the homosexual’s recovery the Apostle gives him the one common holy institution for all sinners: the divinely appointed redemptive agency of the Church of Jesus Christ. I say that as a pastor who knows from the Word of God that this is the covenant institution—the family of God—which best cares for sinners and saints. She cares for sinners in warning them to flee from the wrath to come forbidding them entrance into the Kingdom of God while unrepentant; and for saints, in that it provides the comfort of the gospel of the forgiveness of sins and protection against the enemy. This institution sets the overall context for counseling those struggling with homosexuality.

San Francisco culture has a uniqueness when it comes to ministering to homosexuals. In the first place, there is such a strong support system legally organized to reinforce homosexual way of life that part of the biblical therapy process many times demands fleeing this City altogether. There is such a bombardment of homosexuality—at every level of government, education, medical/health, scientific, media, entertainment and legislation—that in order to forsake wickedness as the Apostle exhorts, one must actually flee the City like Lot of old—not because of an impending brimstone shower but because the seduction is so wickedly powerful.

Every imaginable agency, institution, and ombudsman provides for the most perplexed and questioning homosexual and lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and transvestite, and transgenerational person. Even worse, virtually every mainline church—loosely defined—supports gay/ lesbian causes along with same-sex marital unions.

Just recently the San Francisco Human Rights Commission, along with the endorsement of the Mayor and the Board of Supervisors, hosted a televised hearing for “Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgender, and Questioning Youth Summit.” Over four hours of testimony was taken from self-proclaimed homosexual teens by these agencies in order to see if added legislation was necessary to support “our gay youth” in the City. New health & medical services were demanded, free condom distribution, free needle for exchanges, gay/lesbian counseling services at the junior high and high school level.

In ministering to the homosexual inquirer, we’ve found that he must cut off all relations with his old “community”; he must reconstitute by faith into the family of God. He needs a whole new set of spiritual brothers and sisters, moms and dads, found in the Church of Christ. He needs a remodeled family in which to pattern new life and conduct; a place where God’s man is a man and God’s woman is really woman; husbands acting like husbands and wives acting like wives. It’s not simply a matter of a “role model” reversal; it’s not replacing one “role” with another “role” as if play acting. A godly structured atmosphere is found only in the church of Jesus Christ that offers real hope and remedy for the enslaved sex addict.

In ministering to the homosexual inquirer not only must the Law of God be pressed upon the conscience but God’s one forgiveness in Christ alone must be also offered. Unless homosexuality be understood fundamentally as sin—transgression of God’s one and only moral Law—no further deliverance and recovery ought to be expected.

Here are fundamental givens based exclusively on the Word of God. Do NOT compromise on the biblical message of sin and grace. That is the repentant homosexual’s only hope. Do NOT compromise for the sake of winning the sympathetic hearing. His eternal security is in the uncompromised message of the Scriptures which every sinner needs.

He needs:
1.re-enforcement from the Word on what God says about homosexuality: grace, forgiveness and judgment,
2.regular monitored accountability meetings with the elders; one of the elders should covenant to pray for him daily, (part of that accountability is in regular weekly prayer and Bible study gatherings with the congregation at large),
3.reminding that the continual faith-struggle with temptation is part of the sanctification process—it’s when he stops struggling that he’s got problems,
4.reassurance that he’s not alone in this battle for victory; other members—every member—also struggles like he does,
5.to be careful about putting himself in temptation’s way,
6.to avoid being introduced to someone else who struggles with the same sexual sin—that’s too much temptation. Many of these Christians live alone and temptation in such cases is much more difficult to resist,
7.to know that in Christ he/ she is no longer a homosexual or lesbian just like converted murders and liars are no longer such despite temptations and feelings! “Such WERE some of you. . .” [1 Cor. 6: 11]

The Apostle Paul exhorts Timothy to “flee youthful lusts. . . with those calling upon the Lord. . .” [2 Tim. 2: 22] In other words, the exhortation to flee lust is ALONG WITH others struggling against sin in the context of the covenant community. The agency of the church has no hope for unrepentant homosexual only God’s sure wrath. The church has no authority from her Lord and Head to offer any hope apart from the grace of conversion; but for any repentant sinners, all the resources of the eternal God—“. . . my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” [Phil 4: 19]

As pastor I have the sure “medicine” for sin and relief in the preaching of the gospel. The ultimate counseling session must be done in the corporate worship service not merely private sessions; the full extent of the divinely appointed-ordinances of the Lord are necessary to combat and destroy every high thing and thought exalted against the Lord. Families in the church must be made aware of their needed role in ministering to individuals struggling with sin. Yet at the same time a person’s sexual past is really nobody else’s business. A group gathering of like minded repentant homosexuals must not congregate to talk out their mutual trials. Such sessions subtly foster rather than battle temptations. The mixed—heterogeneous—congregation common ground for all is God’s safest sanctuary for biblical “group-therapy.”

Thank God there is this: the one size-fits-all gospel which alone guarantees to all sinners deliverance through our one common Savior, Jesus Christ. As I counsel struggling Christians, if the Christian faith does NOT save you from YOUR sin, then I’ll renounce the faith and join you. If it won’t work equally for you, it won’t work for me either. Whatever peculiar providences may have “caused” one’s moral adversity, unless he begins where Scripture begins, he will not end where Scripture promises—an end to sin.

November 13, 1996

The Rev. Dr. Charles A. McIlhenny is pastor of First Orthodox Presbyterian Church of San Francisco, California. For the past twenty years or so he has dared to boldly proclaim the truth of the Scriptures in America’s most infamous center for the gay and lesbian sub-culture. We would urge all our readers to get and read the book entitled When the Wicked Seize the City, by Rev. McIlhenny and his wife Donna.


36 posted on 06/07/2014 2:59:17 PM PDT by WestwardHo
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To: Yaelle
Not Christian but I do note that Jesus didn’t discriminate but helped and loved all.

And He stands ready to help gays just as He does all sinners. His arms are open and His heart is filled with love and wisdom.

I am a sinner...He has saved my bacon more times that I care to count.;-)

But I agree. Our job is not to stone gays but to offer them help and support and love.

I have never know a gay guy or a lesbian who wasn't a screaming sex addict. That disease alone makes one absolutely miserable.

To pretend sexual addition is not a disease is to remove the hope of ever being cured. And frankly sexual addiction isn't that hard to cure as some are (like AIDS or cancer).

37 posted on 06/07/2014 3:01:11 PM PDT by RoosterRedux
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To: ealgeone

What if your child is a thief? an adulterer? a murderer? etc....do you just throw out Biblical teaching????


well I guess as long as it does not lead to using tobacco sarc.


38 posted on 06/07/2014 3:03:21 PM PDT by ravenwolf
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To: Yaelle
Forgive the typos.

Sexual addition ain't the same as sexual addiction.

Or, on the other hand...mebbe it is.;-)

39 posted on 06/07/2014 3:04:38 PM PDT by RoosterRedux
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To: Yaelle

Matthew 18:15-17 (NIV)
Dealing With Sin in the Church

15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.


40 posted on 06/07/2014 3:06:46 PM PDT by donna (Pray for revival.)
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To: yongin

YOU SET HIM STRAIGHT.


41 posted on 06/07/2014 3:13:43 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: yongin

Nobody is “gay”. Some people choose to engage in homosexual activity. That is a sin. It is also a sin to aid and abet that activity. The preacher condoning, accepting and promoting his son’s sinful choice is himself, a sinner in need of repentance. Until he does repent, he should be removed from his position immediately.


42 posted on 06/07/2014 3:14:41 PM PDT by upsdriver (Palin/West '16)
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To: yongin; metmom

I would probably tell my son...what he does with his body I stopped having concerns of when he became a man. Because where , with who and how he goes about in unrestrained sexual encounters is his decision.

I would NOT address the issue as anything other than a sexual issue....because frankly that’s exactly what it is. All the rest is “fluff” in order to justify what they choose to do so they are not critiqued about it by society...and relieve the guilt they carry.

It’s no different than a teenagers or adults who want to have sex outside of the clear perameters God has designed to protect them.....there are natural consequences for behavior if they choose to induldge those behaviors.

It gets more damaging for families when an individual wants to bring home or include their gay friends with the family. I would say no at that point, even if it might mean my son would not attend...again his choice and one I would not enable further behavior of.

I think that the Church needs to take a stand on this but many are unwilling to do so for the popular false belief this is acceptable behavior.....(it is NOT a lifestyle..it’s a behavior), and would loose membership or create splits in the church as it is obviously already doing.


43 posted on 06/07/2014 3:15:02 PM PDT by caww
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To: Dilbert San Diego
"Why homosexuality is deemed so special as to warrant this distinction, I have no idea."

What they have done to our children is cloud the whole issue in dialog about "...how we are so in love..." and "...being in love should be a right..." and "...we have as much right to be in love and marry as any one else..." for starters. Many of the parents that have been or become converted were won over by arguments about love and how can it be wrong to be so "in love"? And those fools buy into the arguments, not even thinking about how we can be in love with our house, dog, cat, horse or even car, but that doesn't mean we should marry them!

Once people allow themselves to accept a fallacious argument, they have lost the argument. I remember when my son was interested in Barbie dolls. He would play with his sisters and I just let him go on for a while. I figured if I let it go for a short while he would tell me why he was playing "dolls." It went on like that the whole summer and I finally asked him about it. He liked pretending with his sisters, but what he really wanted was to play with a GI Joe action figure and hoped they would get a Ken doll along the way. Guess what he got come Christmas from Santa. He and the girls had a ball, especially since we also saw to it that his big sister got a Ken doll as well. Either way was a win for everyone. Poor Ken got drafted into the Army early on so he could help GI Joe save the world.

Just because a boy/girl finds him/her self interested in stuff from the other side of the fence, does not mean they are suddenly homo. Especially if mom and dad assure them that they are still boys and girls.

44 posted on 06/07/2014 3:16:57 PM PDT by egfowler3 (Why do I even bother? No one's listening.)
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To: yongin
This kid "announced" that he was gay. In other words, he CHOSE to be homosexual.It defies our very existence as males and females, so anti-God.

Why wouldn't dad say: "It's a grave sin, son, so snap out of it"?

45 posted on 06/07/2014 3:17:22 PM PDT by cloudmountain
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to read later


46 posted on 06/07/2014 3:17:28 PM PDT by Mrs. Don-o ("Stop judging by appearances, but judge with righteous judgment." - (John 7:24))
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To: RegulatorCountry
You’re going to love your own child no matter what wrong he or she has done. That does not mean accepting the wrong. You don’t.

You mean hate the sin and love the sinner? My, that sounds like some good old fashioned God-think.

47 posted on 06/07/2014 3:18:28 PM PDT by cloudmountain
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To: yongin

My older brother was gay. I don’t believe our parents ever knew it but us kids certainly did. After we graduated from college there was hardly any communication between us. He was probably responsible for a dysfunctional family life. I really didn’t ever hear to much about him until his death. My wife and I had to act as power of attorney. He left all his debts behind him which was quite huge, while his lover was willed all his insurance money. We had to deal with a lot of angry debt holders which were mostly banks. We had to try to straighten out his records for the IRA. From our experience a gay member in a household can make family life miserable. This is what gay activist don’t talk about.


48 posted on 06/07/2014 3:18:58 PM PDT by Vinylly (?%)
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To: yongin

I will find out who molested him or her when they were young.


49 posted on 06/07/2014 3:23:04 PM PDT by goodwithagun (My gun has killed fewer people than Ted Kennedy's car.)
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To: TADSLOS
Its 2% of the damn population

I doubt it's even half that.

YOU are correct, TADSLOS.
The entire homosexual AND bisexual population is .5 - 1.5% of the population. I've been watching THAT number for years.

50 posted on 06/07/2014 3:23:26 PM PDT by cloudmountain
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