Skip to comments."The Day I Left My Son in the Car" (Huffington Post)
Posted on 07/23/2014 12:23:10 PM PDT by Faith Presses On
The day it happened was no different from most; I was worried, and I was running late. I was worried because in a few hours time I was going to be enduring a two-and-a-half hour flight with my kids, ages 1 and 4. I was running late because, like many parents of small children, I often find there just arent enough hours in the day.
We were visiting my family and I was eager to get home to my husband. My 1-year-old daughter had just gone down for a nap when, in the process of packing, I realized that my sons headphones, the ones he used to watch a movie on the plane, had broken. I called across the house to my mother that I was going to run to the store to replace them.
Me too, my son said.
I asked him if he was sure he didnt want to stay home with Grandma. You hate going to the store, I reminded him.
No I dont! he said. I should have seen what was going on my parents had been letting him play with the iPad in the car and he was trying to score the extra screen time. We got in my mothers minivan and drove a mile up the road, through the sleepy subdivision where Id grown up, the sort of subdivision where kids ride bikes in cul-de-sacs and plenty of people dont bother to lock their doors, then we parked in the recently erected, nearly empty strip mall. I had two hours to get the headphones, get home, get my 1-year-old daughter up from her nap and fed and changed, get everyone to the airport, through security, and onto a plane.
I dont want to go in, my son said as I opened the door.
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Oops. I tried to post the story from AlterNet but that site’s blocked, so next I tried the Huffington Post, but they don’t actually have the story. Here’s the link.
A better title would be: How I am self-absorbed or stupid.
That is what she gets for giving into her brat.
Libs...if they can’t kill their kids before they’re born...they still want a shot at it after they’re born.
They were charged with the wrong violation. Child endangerment, I can potentially see, but contributing would be giving them alcohol or drugs or driving them to the bank to rob it...
Dang. I grew up in the 80’s and 90’s. I’ve been left in cars all the time.
I should be dead.
I grew up in the 50s and 60s. My dad used to leave me six and my sister five in the car all the time when he went to the grocery store.
He had a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and we had no books or devices to occupy. He probably figured that no one would want his hellion offspring
I don’t think he even locked the doors so we could have run away if we wanted to. Guess we should both be dead by now with this kind of child endangerment.
Frankly, I don’t think she committed a crime of any sort.
The idiot who filmed this and made it a point to report her is the worst kind of human being.
The writer is a ditz, for sure, and definitely self absorbed, but she should not have been charged with a crime.
That is ludicrous. Born in ‘82 here, and I can tell you plenty of time I refused to go into a store for a few minutes. Most of the time of course my mom would make me go, but once you are of a a certain age, it wasn’t a big deal to stay in the car playing gameboy.
I mean damn, danger? If I was getting hot I would open the damn car door and go find my mom inside. We are human beings not brain dead sponges.
Reads like a Pajama Boy version of Maoist self-criticism.
I like to think that there was an Obama bumper sticker on the car, and that someone (a Freeper perhaps?) decided to give her a little heartburn. :-)
My sentiment exactly. All these words, this LONG article about something that would never have happened if she didn’t let her four year old rule her actions.
It might be unpleasant, but if he didn’t want to go in, then either say OK, then give me the iPad and I’ll go in. Be right back.
or forego the thing she went to get for him. I forget what it was. If the flight was long and boring....tough.
Or (imagine THIS) just say gently but firmly “you’re going in”
I think your suggested courses of action are reasonable, and they avoid the whole problem to begin with.
Regardless of my personal opinion on the law, you have to deal with reality and your suggested course of actions take the weirdo stalker who reported her out of your life equation completely, so I agree with you.
Got to live within the system that exists until it changes, no matter how bad it is. For me, I behave as to stay as far away from any sort of government figure or police as possible and seek to ensure my interactions with them number at 0 or a few as realistically possible for as long as possible.
Only trouble comes once you are engaged with those types.
Back then it seemed like they sold everything at Gibson's. lol
This ad was way before my time, but their ads were still b/w and drawn instead of photographs in the early 80's.
At 4yo or 10yo or 16yo, if my son said he didn’t want to go in after begging to go, he’d have “excuse me??” from me which meant (and still does), move it, NOW, period.
This is a tough one.
When I was a kid, lo these many years ago, my parents thought nothing of leaving us in the car for a few minutes while they dashed into a store. They let us grab our ice skates and walk through the trail in the woods to the ice rink, about 1/2 mile away. Many’s the time I rode my bike to the library, on my own, about a mile away. My sisters and I would hop on the Ride-On Bus to Wheaton Plaza, where we spent our babysitting dollars at the Hobbies and Arts store.
Then in 1975, the Lyon sisters disappeared from Wheaton Plaza, and they have never been found.
We lived in a very safe neighborhood, but the rules were different after that day. I’m sure we were just as safe as we were the day before, but that day changed everything for my parents. I can understand my mom’s fear. Yes, it COULD have been two of her daughters. So she saw our previous behavior as risky, and it stopped that day.
I have no children, but I’ve had nieces and nephews left in my care while their parents went on business trips or out-of-town weddings. I won’t allow them the freedom I had as a child. Things are so different now - there are too many weirdos or well-meaning busybodies that target children, so I’d never leave them alone in public. And that’s too bad. I’m sure that the kids are worse off because they have no feeling of security anywhere.
Of course, I would also never allow a four-year-old to play me the way that woman got played!
Helicopter parenting. Never heard the term before.