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Proverb A Day, Proverb 5 With A Commentary On Proverb 5:21-23 [Prayer and Meditation]
Bible NKJV ^ | 900 B.C. | Solomon

Posted on 10/05/2017 8:48:16 AM PDT by OneVike

Before you read today's commentary I am sharing, please understand that the training of purity begins at childhood. It is a training that must be fully learned by them before they reach pre-puberty, so that when their bodies start changing they will already have been prepared for the questions they will ask others if you did not already do so. If others must tell them, then there is a 90% chance they will not be told the truth.

If a parent fails to train a child as to what is right and wrong in all things, they will go the way Satan leads them. If you want a child, male or female, to grow up to become faithful to their spouse then it is imperative you take precautions to steer them away from pornography. In today's world, pornography is the most morally destructive behavior on the planet.

However, we cannot protect our children 24/7, so if you learn that your child is looking at porn, here are some steps to take that will help in the way you approach them on it. Know that your approach could be the difference in saving them from the destruction of porn, or send them deeper into the world that could destroy their ability to ever have a proper relationship as an adult. If your children are already grown, then please pass it on to them. You will be taking a proactive step in preventing the destruction of your grandchildren's very souls.
What to Do if My Child is Looking at Porn:
5 Critical Steps

“In the last days, perilous times will come….” (2 Timothy 3:1-5). Our children are growing up in a dangerous world, and as parents we cannot always protect them! Pornography is rampant and children are exposed at earlier and earlier ages. Satan can use an “accidental find” to hook an innocent child into a lifelong addiction. So how do we respond as a parent?

Horror! Grief! Anger! Disappointment! Worry! These are just some of the emotions the parent feels when their child has viewed porn. Just blaming your child, or blaming yourself doesn’t correct the situation, and may only make it worse. Here are some steps to find constructive solutions to the problem:

  1. Listen before passing judgment or reacting in anger or disappointment (Proverbs 18:13). Don’t jump to conclusions! Listen you your child’s story, when and how he/she first discovered pornography, his heart attitude toward what he has done or what has been done to him. Listen objectively for truth! Listen to see if there is true repentance or excuses and justification for wrong.
  2. Gather enough information to understand the depth of involvement. Listen with compassion and humility, knowing we all are candidates to sin (Galatians 6:1-5). The truth will come easier when a parent listens and disciplines in love, not in anger (James 1:19,20). Anger separates; love unifies. A child who feels loved by his parents is much more likely to open up and deal with the issues he must face.
  3. The goal of effective discipline is always “correction.” When a parent just punishes because he is hurt or angry, the child often retreats into his own secret world, and even more sin, or becomes consumed with fear, shame and condemnation. When a parent accurately evaluates a sinful attitude or behavior and then helps his child to see his own sinful heart issues, that child is more likely to want to change and correct the wrong. The loving parent can then guide his child into understanding how and when he got off track and how to get back on track. The consequences given by his parents will help him to remember in the future when he is tempted again. Parents ought to be a safe place to turn in the face of temptation where he can find strength and encouragement for right. Parents also need to model grace and mercy as God the Father graciously bestows on each of us when we sin! Forgiveness with consequences….
  4. Be the parent! Balance nurture and admonition (Ephesians 6:4). Nurture reaches the “seat of the pants” (the pain of consequences, Hebrews 12:5-11) and admonition reaches the heart (see Deuteronomy 6). Do a Bible study on moral purity with him to fortify and guide him against ever yielding to pornography in the future, to renew his mind in purity (Psalm 101:3). Put accountability in place (like passwords on computers, limitations on iPods and cellphones, earlier bedtimes, less time alone, etc.) for his protection and correction! Install programs on the computer that give accountability and prevent accidental pop ups. Train the children to follow safeguards when doing homework to avoid impulsive clicking around. Regularly follow up on his progress and accountability. Children are less likely to get into pornography, or at least stay in it, when they know parents care and will be checking!
  5. Friendships must be evaluated (1 Corinthians 15:33). Peer relationships are important to young people who are not always wise is choosing friends, yet are influenced greatly by them. It takes character to stand against the culture! Until your child has achieved moral maturity, certain friendships must be cut off or limited if they are not encouraging each other to righteousness. Encourage healthy friendships, and be sure that the parent/child relationship grows stronger.

Building Blocks to Moral Purity

The goal is to develop control in seven areas of life that will build moral purity into the lifestyle. Look up the verses for each “control” and evaluate what you have done in the past in this area, what you are doing at the present, and what you should do in the future. Be very specific. Self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit, and each of these seven controls will help you build the necessary character to develop moral purity as a lifestyle.

  1. Thought Control: Proverbs 23:7; Romans 12:2; Philippians 4:8; 2 Corinthians 10:5
  2. Eye Control: Job 31:1; Psalm 101:3; Proverbs 4:23, 25; Matthew 6:22,23
  3. Body Control: 1 Thessalonians 4:4; 1 Timothy 4:7-8; Romans 6:12
  4. Companion Control: 1 Corinthians 15:33; 5:9-11; Proverbs 13:20-21; 22:24-25; 27:17
  5. Circumstance Control: Romans 13:14; 1 Thessalonians 5:22; 2 Timothy 2:22
  6. Influence Control: 1 Thessalonians 4:6-7; Proverbs 27:17; Romans 16:17-18
  7. Focus Control: 2 Corinthians 5:9; 1 Corinthians 10:31; Philippians 2:3-4; Matthew 20:25-28

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Proverb 5 (NKJV)
The Peril of Adultery

Warning Against Immorality

01 My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
00 Lend your ear to my understanding,
02 That you may preserve discretion,
00 And your lips may keep knowledge.
03 For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey,
00 And her mouth is smoother than oil;
04 But in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
00 Sharp as a two-edged sword.
05 Her feet go down to death,
00 Her steps lay hold of hell.
06 Lest you ponder her path of life--
00 Her ways are unstable;
00 You do not know them.

07 Therefore hear me now, my children,
00 And do not depart from the words of my mouth.
08 Remove your way far from her,
00 And do not go near the door of her house,
09 Lest you give your honor to others,
00 And your years to the cruel one;
10 Lest aliens be filled with your wealth,
00 And your labors go to the house of a foreigner;
11 And you mourn at last,
00 When your flesh and your body are consumed,
12 And say:
00 "How I have hated instruction,
00 And my heart despised correction!
13 I have not obeyed the voice of my teachers,
00 Nor inclined my ear to those who instructed me!
14 I was on the verge of total ruin,
00 In the midst of the assembly and congregation."

15 Drink water from your own cistern,
00 And running water from your own well.
16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
00 Streams of water in the streets?
17 Let them be only your own,
00 And not for strangers with you.
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
00 And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
00 Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
00 And always be enraptured with her love.
20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman,
00 And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?

21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD,
00 And He ponders all his paths.
22 His own iniquities entrap the wicked man,
00 And he is caught in the cords of his sin.
23 He shall die for lack of instruction,
00 And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

TOPICS: Moral Issues; Religion & Culture; Religion & Science; Worship
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