People used to father 10-12 children all the time back in the day. Putting in 12 hour days in mills, factories and coal mines. My grandparents both came from such families. Again, things for them worked out okay.
The question of whether priest can marry is a question of practice, not doctrine. One the other hand, the question of women being ordained deacons is, as I understand it, a question of doctrine.
I agree it used to work out -— for some -—in your grandparents’ era. But “back in the day” (and I mean way back, 50’s-60’s AD) St. Paul said it tended to tear a man apart, trying to be all-out working for the Church and yet keeping his wife and family cared-for and content.