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Wife tested positive for...Baby
Christmas Day | 1/09/2004 | Flightdeck

Posted on 01/09/2004 11:17:22 PM PST by Flightdeck

I know this is somewhat presumptuous that anybody would care, but I found out today that I will be a new father in about 8.75 months. Part of me is scared because I firmly believe that raising a child into a good person is probably the most important thing a person can do in their lives. The only reason I am posting this is that I bet this value is shared by a great many people in this forum, and our anonymity allows a comfortable level of discourse. (Wait, that's two reasons.) Anyway, wish us luck.


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1 posted on 01/09/2004 11:17:23 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: Flightdeck
Don't worry about it. Get some sleep now cause you'll never get it again.

Invest in some valium.

2 posted on 01/09/2004 11:19:48 PM PST by zarf (..where lieth those little things with the sort of raffia work base that has an attachment?)
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To: All
Click!
3 posted on 01/09/2004 11:21:34 PM PST by Support Free Republic (Freepers post from sun to sun, but a fundraiser bot's work is never done.)
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To: zarf
You're going to scare him!! LOL
4 posted on 01/09/2004 11:21:53 PM PST by cyborg
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To: zarf
BTW you forgot about the sex :D
5 posted on 01/09/2004 11:22:15 PM PST by cyborg
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To: cyborg
Well, he can certainly forget about it now!!!

Seriously, the only piece of advice I can give you is to be a parent to your child, not their 'friend'.
6 posted on 01/09/2004 11:24:09 PM PST by Bush_Democrat (Now EX-democrat!!)
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To: Flightdeck
Don't listen to all the BS that will be thrown at you. You and your wife have done the most important thing you have ever done. Money is nothing, nothing, in comparison. Wait and see. I do not exaggerate. Do this with honor, and you are worthy of respect from the best there are.
7 posted on 01/09/2004 11:25:03 PM PST by Iris7 ("Duty, Honor, Country". The first of these is Duty, and is known only through His Grace)
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To: Flightdeck
Congratulations! You are now responsible for training your replacement. You have no idea what you are capable of doing that you may have found 'icky' before. Empathy, strength, wisdom, compassion, love...all will be taken to a level you have no idea exists.

No love exists like that of a child to their parents. Drink it up cause it is a pure as the driven snow.

Oh yeah, the sleep thing is correct. People aren't joking.
8 posted on 01/09/2004 11:26:35 PM PST by wireplay
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To: Iris7
We're going to do our best, same as our parents did with us. We were lucky.
9 posted on 01/09/2004 11:27:17 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: Bush_Democrat
Father is so important in child's life, whether it is a girl or boy. I hope the message of parenting a child in the spirit and model of God gets through to a lot of soon-to-be fathers.
10 posted on 01/09/2004 11:28:43 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Flightdeck
Oh God... you wife tested positive for BABY? I hear that sticks with you for 18-22 years. After that, you are prone to have recurrences at unexpected and inopportune times.

The initial phase is usually coupled with some swelling and nausea. It takes NINE MONTHS for the swelling to go down. Then you enter a long period of sleeplessness.

Research shows that they really flare up after 13 years or so and can stay inflamed like that for YEARS.

I also saw a stduy that said 75-90% of sub-Saharan African women are expected to test positive for baby at some point over the next ten years. It's an epidemic!

* * * * *

God bless you, your wife, and your new child.
11 posted on 01/09/2004 11:28:46 PM PST by bolobaby
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To: Flightdeck
Keep Right and Wrong separate in your mind and heart. Be straight. Do your best to not be mean. Your kids will want to respect you. Do whatever it takes to deserve their respect. You will err. You will have hard, very hard, times. Do what it takes. May the Lord God Bless you and your family.
12 posted on 01/09/2004 11:29:05 PM PST by Iris7 ("Duty, Honor, Country". The first of these is Duty, and is known only through His Grace)
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To: Flightdeck
Congratulations to you both!

May God give you wisdom, faith, and PATIENCE!!

< wicked grin >

Becki

13 posted on 01/09/2004 11:30:14 PM PST by Becki (Pray continually for our leaders and our troops!)
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To: Flightdeck
It will be trying when he/she is little, but enjoy every second of it. Don't wish for him/her to grow up. I mean wish they grow up but not fast. You'll know what I mean after he/she has grown.
14 posted on 01/09/2004 11:31:37 PM PST by mindspy
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To: Flightdeck
Congratulations!

I have no doubt that anyone named "flightdeck" would be anything other than a wonderful parent.

Signed,

DC2K, wife of a former carrier qualified Navy pilot (Viet Nam).

P.S. They are right about the sleep and icky thing. ;o)
15 posted on 01/09/2004 11:31:44 PM PST by dixiechick2000 (President Bush is a mensch in cowboy boots.)
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To: Becki; bolobaby; Iris7
Thanks, and you know what parents say: "I hope you have a kid like you". God help me.
16 posted on 01/09/2004 11:32:21 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: Flightdeck
sleep ,my man sleep:) having had twins at 35 i cherish sleep more than any other lesiure activity. naps are the best thing created! congrats and have fun children are the best.
17 posted on 01/09/2004 11:34:25 PM PST by suzyq5558 (Deenie has no claim to national leadership. but he does claim lots of theory conspiracies!)
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To: Flightdeck
With your handle, you sound like an old swab. One myself. The Naval Service is ancient and most honorable.

Get ready for some long watches.

There is nothing in this life more important than Duty. Good job, lad.
18 posted on 01/09/2004 11:35:30 PM PST by Iris7 ("Duty, Honor, Country". The first of these is Duty, and is known only through His Grace)
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To: dixiechick2000; mindspy
I appreciate your well-wishes. And not to misrepresent myself, dixiechick200, my undergraduate college was the University of Dayton, mascot Flyers. The loge area over the basketball stadium was the "Flightdeck" after which I am "named". On the other hand, I am indeed a pilot, but civilian, and fly off USAF runways. I have nothing but the greatest respect for carrier pilots including my cuz. Anyway, thanks.
19 posted on 01/09/2004 11:37:43 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: cyborg
Oh yeah. What's sex?
20 posted on 01/09/2004 11:37:53 PM PST by zarf (..where lieth those little things with the sort of raffia work base that has an attachment?)
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To: Flightdeck
CONGRATS !!!!!!!!

GOD bless your Wife, you and that darling on the way. I have 4, and no matter HOW poor they keep me, they are the greatest treasures of my life. Enjoy each and every second.

Nam Vet

21 posted on 01/09/2004 11:38:37 PM PST by Nam Vet (It's a small world. So you gotta use your elbows a lot.)
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To: Flightdeck
1. The fact that you care means things will probably turn out pretty well.

2. In connection with becoming a good person, kids seem to follow your example more than anything you can tell them.

3. "One doesn't live long enough to learn how to be a good parent." - Norbert Wiener

4. You can't be as scared as me. I will be a parent of a newborn again in about two months, and at a fairly advanced age. My first child was born in the first year of the Reagan administration.

22 posted on 01/09/2004 11:38:55 PM PST by wideminded
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To: Flightdeck
Man, if I have kids like myself... *shudder*... oooooh... I was a BAD kid!
23 posted on 01/09/2004 11:39:00 PM PST by bolobaby
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To: Iris7
I appreciate it. I'm not Navy, see post 19, but my brother's a Naval flight surgeon he's always happy for support. Thanks again.
24 posted on 01/09/2004 11:40:22 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: zarf
LOL no doubt baby will cry at those inopportune moments better get used to it
25 posted on 01/09/2004 11:40:41 PM PST by cyborg
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To: Flightdeck
Congratulations! And remember: parenting is the most important job in the world...and it will always be left to amateurs. : )

I suspect many will give you lots of advice during this time, so I'll keep mine brief: give your wife *lots* of backrubs and footrubs as the pregnancy progresses. This alone, while apparently a selfless act, it's not entirely so.

Why? Well, when Mommy's happy, Daddy's happy. : )
26 posted on 01/09/2004 11:41:47 PM PST by Prime Choice (Americans are a spiritual people. We're happy to help members of al Qaeda meet God.)
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To: zarf
According to visembryo.com, it's only 0.4mm in diameter yet, so I'm not sure they can tell!
27 posted on 01/09/2004 11:42:57 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: Flightdeck; Brad's Gramma
Not to worry .. you and your wife will do just fine raising your little one

Personally, I think one of the hardest thing as a parent is not laughing when kids say things

You'll find this out soon

Congrats on the Great News !!


28 posted on 01/09/2004 11:43:08 PM PST by Mo1 (Join the dollar a day crowd now!)
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To: bolobaby
Man, if I have kids like myself... *shudder*... oooooh... I was a BAD kid!

I know the feeling. It's the Mother's Curse. We'll have kids just...like...us. And I fear that day, for my child will be born with the same love of incendiaries and pyrotechnics that I possess, but he or she will have none of the caution that I've gained from years of damn near blowing myself up. ; )

29 posted on 01/09/2004 11:43:56 PM PST by Prime Choice (Americans are a spiritual people. We're happy to help members of al Qaeda meet God.)
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To: wideminded
Ha! My WIFE was born a week before Reagan was elected. Life goes on.
30 posted on 01/09/2004 11:45:21 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: Prime Choice
Well, that works fine until she is in transition. I swear to god, her head spun around and she told me in a demonic voice "get your hands off me!".

Well, I pretty much stayed out of it at that point and everything went fine.

2 kids, 13 years of marriage, and I still remember the Exorcist moment.
31 posted on 01/09/2004 11:45:27 PM PST by wireplay
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To: Nam Vet
Thank you.
32 posted on 01/09/2004 11:45:56 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: Flightdeck
Congratulations!! Go out and buy all the Dr. James Dobson books you can afford. Read them and study them carefully and APPLY his principles.

Be a patient, loving, FIRM, communicative parent. And remember, the first 5-7 years will establish your authority over your children for the rest of their lives.

Never let them take control because if you do, you won't get it back unless there's a Huge battle! Love them up and cover their little faces with sloppy kisses. I envy you. Mine are all grown now, but I'd love to start all over - just because it's so fun and so challenging!

It's the greatest journey in the world!
33 posted on 01/09/2004 11:47:07 PM PST by Humidston (Two Words: TERM LIMITS)
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To: Flightdeck
A co-worker once told me three years ago "Children are your miracles". Now the father of a two-year old, I agree whole-heartedly.

Still, my first two years of parenting are easier than my first two years of Law School, but i suspect that the job will get harder.

congrats

34 posted on 01/09/2004 11:47:28 PM PST by Smedley
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To: Flightdeck
Take your child to church and never let them forget how much you love them... Everything else takes care of itself...
35 posted on 01/09/2004 11:49:55 PM PST by dwd1 (M. h. D. (Master of Hate and Discontent))
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To: Smedley
"Still, my first two years of parenting are easier than my first two years of Law School, "

Don't tell me that, I've still got two to go on my Ph.D. Now I'm getting worried.
36 posted on 01/09/2004 11:50:55 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: Humidston
Thanks for the advice.
37 posted on 01/09/2004 11:52:32 PM PST by Flightdeck
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To: bolobaby; Flightdeck
And, babies tend to lead to more babies

Flightdeck, enjoy! There's nothing like being a parent until you get to be a grandparent.
38 posted on 01/09/2004 11:52:48 PM PST by hocndoc (Choice is the # 1 killer in the US)
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To: Flightdeck
How wonderful for you! Don't worry...It's on the job training (The best kind).
39 posted on 01/09/2004 11:54:52 PM PST by lainde (Heads up...We're coming and we've got tongue blades!!)
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To: Flightdeck
Best wishes!
40 posted on 01/09/2004 11:58:25 PM PST by vikingchick
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To: Flightdeck
I meant, you better have sex...sex and nore sex. Get as much sex as possible.

OD on sex until your wife waves the white flag.....cause you ain't getting it again buddy!

41 posted on 01/09/2004 11:58:47 PM PST by zarf (..where lieth those little things with the sort of raffia work base that has an attachment?)
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To: Flightdeck
I wish you and your wife well. Since people are giving advice, I have 2 comments:

1. Forgive your wife her moods. She can't help it and she doesn't mean to be a pain in the rear.

2. It's alright to apologize to your child when you've made a mistake. We're all human, even parents.

Welcome to the real world.
42 posted on 01/10/2004 12:07:10 AM PST by radiohead
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To: Flightdeck
Awww...congratulations to the Flightdeck family! Prayers for all!
43 posted on 01/10/2004 12:10:31 AM PST by ETERNAL WARMING
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To: Flightdeck
Thanks, and you know what parents say: "I hope you have a kid like you". God help me.

LOL!!

My first son was wonderful! Slept the whole night from the second night home on. Didn't sleep much during the day, but that was OK. Smiley, alert, laughing, sensative and intelligent. Potty trained day and night at 21 months by the time my second son was born.

My mother called him poetic justice.

I said Mother, I never! and she said Oh yes you did!

He had a SEG from the get-go. Up all night, almost 3 when he was potty trained. He was a hider. Loves to argue. He calles it "honing his skills". He could talk the Devil out of his pitchfork. He is my red white and blue boy. His hand went over his heart every time we passed a flag from the age of 4 on. I had to make a flag quilt for his room because we couldn't find one he liked.

He is in college now for law enforcement, and has the Marines in the back of his mind. My oldest is in an art institute for illustrations. He is very good.

You never know what you are going to get. It won't be perfect, but it will be wonderful!! Hang on and enjoy the ride!

God bless you!

Becki

44 posted on 01/10/2004 12:14:25 AM PST by Becki (Pray continually for our leaders and our troops!)
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To: Flightdeck; Texas Termite; TexasCowboy; M0sby; kayak; ohioWfan; Simcha7; Yaelle; MoJo2001; ...
I'm SO HAPPY FOR YOU TWO!!! Many, MANY congratulations!!!

Don't listen to the psychobabble that's out there. Just DO IT! Be good parents...it'll come naturally. Follow your instincts.

Raise your child in the Lord, and he/she will be richly blessed. And please, keep us updated on this pregnancy! WHOO HOOOOOOOOO!!!!!

The rest of you folks....NEW BABY PING!!!
45 posted on 01/10/2004 12:19:07 AM PST by Bradís Gramma (Donate to Free Republic!! I have SEWING to do!!!!!)
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To: Flightdeck
Congratulations. May God bless your wife, child and you in the exciting years to come.
46 posted on 01/10/2004 12:19:32 AM PST by xp38
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To: Flightdeck
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Be the best tree you can be.
47 posted on 01/10/2004 12:20:53 AM PST by exit82 (Toll free number for the Capitol switchboard:1-800-648-3516--let your reps in DC know what you think)
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To: Flightdeck
I've managed to keep two wonderful kids alive and educated through some really trying times. What's more, I've even managed to keep them happy and feeling well-loved. I could tell you horror stories, but the end point is always the same; it will be all right. Stay the course, love them, be patient when things seem overwhelming, stand by your wife and you will raise precious babies into fantastic human beings.

Read Dobson. That wonderful man taught me how to be a mom. A good mom. Just the fact that you are even thinking about it makes the odds of you being a successful parent almost 100%

Now enjoy this wonderful feeling and go rub your wife's feet! :-)

48 posted on 01/10/2004 12:22:08 AM PST by Marie (Laz, you touch my tag and die.)
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To: Flightdeck
Yay!!
49 posted on 01/10/2004 12:26:13 AM PST by ArneFufkin
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To: Becki
LOL! Thank you for sharing about your second! He sounds JUST like my son. His most common word is, "But..." He argues. He hides relentlessly. He loves to dig holes and climb trees. I had to take him to the chiropractor to have a rib put back in yesterday. The dr said, "What's your trauma." We told him about the treehouse accident. Then it was my turn for an adjustment (may as well). He says again, "So, what's your trauma?" I just grinned and pointed to my son.
50 posted on 01/10/2004 12:31:19 AM PST by Marie (Laz, touched my tag. I'm pressing charges.)
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