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The Home Schooled Girl
Elijah Company Newsletter ^ | September 22, 2004 | Chris Davis

Posted on 09/23/2004 7:04:45 PM PDT by SLB

She lives in a small town in Tennessee, or in a subdivision in North Carolina, or on a ranch in Montana .

She may be 15. Or, she may have graduated from college. Either way, the odds are no boy has ever paid much attention to her. She may wonder if she will ever get married. She is lonely.

What’s her problem? The answer is simple: She is different.

She doesn’t particularly like being different. She may tell you that she doesn’t care; but she does.

Her peers think she is a snob. Her mom says the reason other girls don’t want to be around her is because they are jealous. That doesn’t help much. So she tries to be friendly and kind but that doesn’t help much, either. She may be shunned by other girls and ignored by boys.

She is different. And who wants to be different? Nobody likes others who are different and nobody likes being different.

I have met hundreds of homeschooled girls like this around the world. Each girl thinks she is the only one who is having these experiences. But, there are thousands just like her. If they ever find one another, there would be a huge group hug. And, yes, probably lots of tears. They would finally have found others like themselves who aren’t interested in what girls normally think or talk about. Their talk wouldn’t center around boys or movies or how stupid some other girl is. They would talk about their families and about what interests them and about God and about Jesus. They would pray together and for one another.

That girl from Tennessee who is 15. She’s actually 15 going on 21. She seems to have skipped the teenage years altogether. The girl who has graduated from college without meeting her future husband has been told many times not to worry. “Mister right” is just waiting somewhere in the future. She struggles to believe it and to trust God for her future family.

These girls are different. Not because they wear Christian hairdos or clothing. It really has little to do with externals. But it has everything to do with their Father and what He has done inside them. They are just different, whether they like being different or not. Everyone can tell.

One day I was trying to understand this regarding a young girl who was a friend of my son. All at once the Lord showed me a kind of vision about this girl. Here’s what I saw:

The girl was in her Baptist Sunday school class. All the kids were sitting in a circle. Just then I saw Jesus open the door to the room. He walked directly to this girl and held out His hand to her. She took His hand and got up from her chair. Then Jesus took her out of the class and closed the door. I understood Him to be saying, “This girl doesn’t belong in the same way other people belong. I have made her exclusively Mine.”

I knew this didn’t mean she would never have a family or always be by herself. But the Lord made me understand that He is using the home schooling movement because it is the easiest context in which to raise young people who can be truly “different.”

Why do I keep using the word, “Different”? It is because of the origin of that word. The word “different” is the most exact translation of the Greek work, HOLY (hagios). These kids are different in that the Lord has placed in them something which makes them holy unto Him. They are not really trying to be this way. It’s something He has done. He has separated them from the kind of things normal young people find important. They may struggle with what God has done. They may be terribly lonely. But they ARE different and it is the work of God, Himself.

It is not easy to encourage these girls. Loneliness is no fun and being different can be a real bummer, too. Telling someone to “have faith” can sound pretty shallow, even though it’s the truth. The girl who graduated from college and never had a boy who was a friend ended up meeting “the man of God” she had always dreamed about. They are married now. Another is still waiting, praying for faith to believe it will all turn out as her heart hopes it will.

This is a holy generation. It is a generation set apart unto Him. It is a generation of young people the world has not seen in so long it doesn’t remember what real holiness looks like. The purposes of God rest on our children being willing to walk “in the world” but, at the same time, separated from it. The world waits for a people to show them that a relationship with Jesus isn’t a religious put-on, but is worth giving their lives to, too.

Our girls have been created by the Lord to show everyone what the Bride of Christ looks like, sounds like, acts like, believes like. It can be a burden, but it is precious. We need to deeply respect our girls for what they have been called to be. They need to be encouraged to understand who they are to a world (and, yes, even to a Church) who desperately needs to see the kind of “Lady” Jesus is returning for. We need to give them a vision for who they are that is deeper than simply saying to them, “the other girls are jealous of you.”


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As the proud dad of a home school family I found myself nodding in approval at every word in this article. My prayer for this nation is that it be turned from the evil ways and return to the godly founding of it.
1 posted on 09/23/2004 7:04:45 PM PDT by SLB
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To: SLB; homeschool mama

BTT.


2 posted on 09/23/2004 7:06:41 PM PDT by MarMema (Sharon is my hero)
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To: Boxsford

Bump!


3 posted on 09/23/2004 7:07:46 PM PDT by jim_g_goldwing (Principled... Always Remain Principled)
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To: 2Jedismom; MasonGal; CourtneyLeigh; Jeff Head; sit-rep; Travis McGee

Home School ping


4 posted on 09/23/2004 7:08:18 PM PDT by SLB ("We must lay before Him what is in us, not what ought to be in us." C. S. Lewis)
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To: SLB
To all the anti-homeschoolers who would say this girl is a geek....a dork....doesn't fit in.

Aren't you the ones who have been telling us 24/7 to embrace diversity....respect the differences of others....exhibit toleration?

Hmmmmm?

5 posted on 09/23/2004 7:09:54 PM PDT by Lizavetta
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To: MarMema

Homeschooling was the greatest thing that I was able to give my son. He did well, he learned alot, and so did I. :)


6 posted on 09/23/2004 7:09:57 PM PDT by Lovergirl (Proud member of the Pajama Brigade.)
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To: SLB

Dig'n it.


7 posted on 09/23/2004 7:10:19 PM PDT by AmericanCheeseFood (Only place Kerry has to go now is to the glue factory.)
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To: SLB

Excellent article. My children will NEVER attend school EVER. As for being different, well I can only say that at home I would never had my hair cut off or have kids tease me for being smart, heavy or my mother's home cooked lunch. School is HELL, and I didn't even go to a public school so what does that tell you about public school? They're ten times worse.


8 posted on 09/23/2004 7:16:15 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: Lizavetta

How about their sensitive concern for children's socialization???


9 posted on 09/23/2004 7:18:23 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: SLB

Thank you for the article...we're North Carolina home schoolers in our third year and there are many times I feel like we're in the Matrix. You know, looking at the world that everyone is wondering through and we are separated by the grace of God and able to see the system. Chris Davis has been a source of encouragement for us.


11 posted on 09/23/2004 7:21:37 PM PDT by blteague
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To: blteague

We are in our 18th year. Hang in there the results are beyond words.


12 posted on 09/23/2004 7:24:13 PM PDT by SLB ("We must lay before Him what is in us, not what ought to be in us." C. S. Lewis)
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To: SLB

I guess I'm in the minority, in that just about every family I know homeschools their kids, and the homeschooled kids have LOTS of peers.

I suppose there are lonely homeschooled kids....

I'm a member of Sovereign Grace Church in Chesapeake, Virginia, and while the pastors have made it clear that homeschooling is absolutely not "the only way to educate your children," most parents (probably over 80 percent) in fact *are* homeschooling their kids. There's a nice homeschooling enrichment program at our church, field trips that kids can do with each other, more advanced classes taught by members of our church, and a community college that accepts high school-aged homeschoolers. The kids I know who are homeschooled are VERY well socialized, and have lots of friends.

Again, perhaps the non-loneliness of homeschooling that I witness here is the exception....


13 posted on 09/23/2004 7:24:46 PM PDT by Theo
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To: cyborg



Why would someone want to raise a socialist?


14 posted on 09/23/2004 7:26:03 PM PDT by Repairman Jack
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To: Lovergirl
Wow...I had to read the whole article before I understood what Chris Davis was getting at....but it's TRUE!

Our three homeschooled kids (9,11, and 14) are indeed different! ...and godly too! They don't "think" like their public school peers, nor do they act like them.

Our hope is that when this generation matures, that they will smite the world with discernment and righteousness.

I sometimes wonder if this generation is the church of Philadelphia which John talks about in his Apocolypse.

I'm not certain of this, but I am certain that these kids are different! ...and this is a GOOD thing!
15 posted on 09/23/2004 7:26:18 PM PDT by hiredhand
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To: Repairman Jack

I don't know, but everytime homeschooling comes up, I always hear about the whole socialization aspect. Give me a break!


16 posted on 09/23/2004 7:27:59 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: hiredhand
I sometimes wonder if this generation is the church of Philadelphia which John talks about in his Apocolypse.

Yes! Isn't the thought of that coming true for this generation simply breathtaking!

17 posted on 09/23/2004 7:30:16 PM PDT by SLB ("We must lay before Him what is in us, not what ought to be in us." C. S. Lewis)
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To: SLB

A friend of mine home-schooled her two boys---they were never lonely. And talk about smart boys with excellent characters. You couldn't ask for better!

Home-schooling makes all the difference! Keep up the good work, parents.


18 posted on 09/23/2004 7:30:55 PM PDT by Cedar
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To: cyborg

Hey -- aren't you supposed to be cutting back on your Freepering?

:-D -- just a reference to the thread BibChar started....


19 posted on 09/23/2004 7:32:17 PM PDT by Theo
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To: Theo

You are obviously a newbie and don't realize I can't keep my mouth shut for long :O)


20 posted on 09/23/2004 7:34:44 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: SLB

Great article! Thanks so much for posting it.


21 posted on 09/23/2004 7:36:01 PM PDT by Smocker (13 years homeschooling and counting...)
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To: SLB

The homeschooled girl has the self-respect and honor that commands respect, she has the decorum that comes from interaction with good adults, she has a mind pure and able,
the charm of a generous and innocent soul, and most importantly the integrity of deeply-held convictions.
At least that is true for every homeschooled girl I have met, and I have met many of them.
Of course I could be biased since I was homeschooled and have younger sisters.


22 posted on 09/23/2004 7:38:08 PM PDT by FierceKulak
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To: SLB

Thank you.


23 posted on 09/23/2004 7:39:44 PM PDT by canalabamian (Common sense, unfortunately, is not very common)
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To: Lizavetta

Diversity seems only to include varied forms of moral pervesion and statist political idealogy.


24 posted on 09/23/2004 7:40:01 PM PDT by FierceKulak
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To: JenB; RosieCotton; 2Jedismom; SuziQ
OK - I think this article is sortof depressing, but everyone else seems uplifted by it.... So maybe I am just missing something!

Ping for your perusal....

25 posted on 09/23/2004 7:40:42 PM PDT by HairOfTheDog (John Kerry... Almost as presidential as Jane Fonda.)
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To: SLB

Bad theology.


26 posted on 09/23/2004 7:42:37 PM PDT by Styria
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To: SLB

As a single 22 year old Christian guy, I can say that I would certainly be interested in such a girl.


27 posted on 09/23/2004 7:42:58 PM PDT by jude24 (sola gratia)
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To: SLB

OK, just what the heck is a 'Christian hairdo'?


28 posted on 09/23/2004 7:43:29 PM PDT by Grig
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To: Grig

good question *lol*


29 posted on 09/23/2004 7:46:01 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: SLB

"These girls are different. Not because they wear Christian hairdos or clothing. It really has little to do with externals. But it has everything to do with their Father and what He has done inside them. They are just different, whether they like being different or not. Everyone can tell. "

I respect anyone who responsibly home schools their children. I also respect anyone who responsibly has their children in Church regardless of whether they attend secular schools or not.

Is this "difference" really because of home schooling? The author rightly credits God for the work. Why wouldn't all Christians be "different"? Also, why isn't this titled "The Home Schooled Child"?

Cloths and hairdos are just cloths and hairdos. I really don't think that there is a process of "Kosher" for making them Christian.


30 posted on 09/23/2004 7:46:59 PM PDT by watchinginawe ("I AM THAT I AM."...God)
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Breathtaking?! Oh man! That's an understatement! These kids are an average of three grade levels ahead of their public schooled peers. Most liberals are simply NO match for them in a "discussion". They read World Magazine, FreeRepublic, and other conservative news sources. They scoff at the notion of liberalism, leftism, and the godlessness of society. Yet, they still possess that "innocent" attitude that most kids lose by the third grade or so in public schools. My 14 year old in particular has "discernment".....the Aramaic word fro this translates to "accuteness of judgement". As his witness, he does have this gift. I've been smitten by it myself!

Something is DEFINTELY going on with this generation we have produced. I don't know what, but too many people are starting to notice that these kids are "different"....have a different focus.... KNOW right from wrong....and care more about what Adonai (YHVH) thinks than what the world thinks! YES! Finally! People of principle! OH YES! OH YES! OH YES!

The leftists must really hate discovering this sort of thing. Sorta kicks the ole diversity training agenda in the pants doesn't it? :-)

I suspect at some point, the lefties will try to outlaw homeschooling. That will be "interesting" at minimum. But I think even if they pulled it off in the next year, it's too late. The "different people" are already formed....they're already who they are.
31 posted on 09/23/2004 7:47:30 PM PDT by hiredhand
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To: SLB

What a great article.

We do not homeschool, I do not have the temperment for it and realized early on that it was more detrimental for our daughter than beneficial.

With that said, I give HUGE applause to those who are homeschoolers.

Not homeschooling does not mean we do not care about our child's education, we moved to a specific area specifically for the schools. It also does not mean we are not fully involved in her education.


32 posted on 09/23/2004 7:48:57 PM PDT by Gabz (Hurricanes and Kerry/Edwards have 2 things in common - hot air and destruction.)
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To: SLB
I was a big proponent of home schooling until I met some family members who are products of a home school. The conclusion I've come to is that home schooling is only as good as the home they are schooled in.

I met a 17 year old and a 14 year old who had the maturity of someone less than half their ages. The 17 year old failed the SAT and in my estimation will never pass it. But far worse is the fact that neither of these kids has any ability to communicate with anyone outside of their immediate family. An immediate family that is headed by two of the most arrogantly ignorant people you'd ever want to meet.

They have brought these kids up by spoon feeding them intellectual pablum and making them incapable of any initiative or independent thought or action.

What they've done to these kids is criminal, so I will never again give a blanket approval to home schoolers. I know there are lots of terrific examples out there, but it is the ones that aren't terrific and are actually doing damage to their kids you don't hear about.

33 posted on 09/23/2004 7:52:27 PM PDT by Maigret
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To: Grig

For males, one that looks masculine, is practical, and does not imitate some well-known failure called an artist.
At least that's what I believe.


34 posted on 09/23/2004 7:52:50 PM PDT by FierceKulak
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To: Grig
OK, just what the heck is a 'Christian hairdo'?

That made me think of Carman and the "ponytail comin' out the front of their head". :-)

35 posted on 09/23/2004 7:53:08 PM PDT by DJ MacWoW (Save a Democrat! Vote Republican!)
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To: Grig

I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that it is something of a reasonable length (no mohawks or crew cuts) that isn't dyed pink, purple or green. Also no spikes or anything else that might suggest rebellion or free thinking.


36 posted on 09/23/2004 7:54:07 PM PDT by TwoWolves (The only kind of control the liberals don't want is self control.)
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To: cyborg
I don't know, but everytime homeschooling comes up, I always hear about the whole socialization aspect.



I agree,My wife and I get hit with that.My answer is,Children don't need that kind of socialization!
37 posted on 09/23/2004 7:55:29 PM PDT by Boazo
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To: Maigret

Do the percentages however, and it becomes apparent that homeschools as a whole see a far smaller proportion of underachieving, pampered losers than the pubskewl does. The perfect can not be made the enemy of the good.


38 posted on 09/23/2004 7:58:33 PM PDT by The Red Zone (The reason they're trying to starve her isn't because she's dying, but because she isn't. [Supercat])
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To: jude24

My wife and all her sisters (3) were homeschooled. Let me tell you this...she is one FINE woman. She helped turn my life around by introducing me to Jesus.

Oh yeah...and she let's me Freep. She thinks I'm weird sometimes, but she's glad that I have FRiends as fanatical as myself.

I'm at the kitching table on my laptop right now. She's sitting across from me writing a letter of all things. It looks like she also brought out her painting stuff. Yep...she's painting flowers or something.

Homeschooled women are so classy.


39 posted on 09/23/2004 7:58:49 PM PDT by I got the rope
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To: Boazo

Nope not the kind that I had in school. There are many home schooling groups that get together, church sunday school,etc. where kids meet friends.


40 posted on 09/23/2004 8:00:53 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: cyborg

Yeah, the church! Who'da thunk it. Is this article stereotyping in some subtle underhanded way?


41 posted on 09/23/2004 8:03:16 PM PDT by The Red Zone (The reason they're trying to starve her isn't because she's dying, but because she isn't. [Supercat])
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To: hiredhand
Breathtaking?! Oh man! That's an understatement! These kids are an average of three grade levels ahead of their public schooled peers.

While I agree with you that many homeschooled children are that far above, there are also children in public school doing the same or better.

My daughter tested with a 95 at the 4th grade level for reading when she finished kindergarten in June.

I acknowlege that much of that is because of how daddy and I do things at home, however it not only is possible but does occur. A combination of regular school and parental involvement can and does make a difference.

42 posted on 09/23/2004 8:05:00 PM PDT by Gabz (Hurricanes and Kerry/Edwards have 2 things in common - hot air and destruction.)
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To: Maigret
I was a big proponent of home schooling until I met some family members who are products of a home school. The conclusion I've come to is that home schooling is only as good as the home they are schooled in.

Absolutely right.

Homeschooling, in the hands of good, loving, hard-working parents can really work. I'm where I'm at because of it. But there are exceptions -- and they are rare -- where homeschooling is nothing but a cover for negligence, or even abuse.

This is why -- and this is an unpopular sentiment amongst some homeschoolers -- I firmly support the local school districts checking up on homeschooled kids.

43 posted on 09/23/2004 8:07:20 PM PDT by jude24 (sola gratia)
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To: The Red Zone

Don't know about stereotyping but it has to be annoying the liberals.


44 posted on 09/23/2004 8:07:49 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: Maigret

"so I will never again give a blanket approval to home schoolers."

I'm curious, do you give blanket approval to public schoolers? You could say the same thing there which you've said about homeschoolers -- a public school education is only as good as the school in which it takes place.

You're going to find disappointing experiences in either place. Odds are, however, you'll find far fewer problems in the homeschool environment; as time goes on this is increasingly backed by hard data.

With best wishes --


45 posted on 09/23/2004 8:07:52 PM PDT by GOPrincess
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To: Gabz

I'll bet money that FReeper's kids are in the upper percentiles in most subjects.


46 posted on 09/23/2004 8:09:01 PM PDT by I got the rope
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To: Maigret
"I met a 17 year old and a 14 year old who had the maturity of someone less than half their ages. The 17 year old failed the SAT and in my estimation will never pass it."

And of course, this has never happened to a public school kid. >/sarcasm off

47 posted on 09/23/2004 8:09:45 PM PDT by Bob Mc
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" I firmly support the local school districts checking up on homeschooled kids."

And I firmly support the local school districts mind their own business. I am insulted that some petty bureaucrat (a total stranger no less) feels the need to approve the raising of my family.

48 posted on 09/23/2004 8:12:46 PM PDT by Bob Mc
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To: cyborg

Well, it does seem to be giving short shrift to the "BODY" of Christ concept, as if leaving the world's side means going off into a vacuum. The church isn't supposed to be a herd of cats.


49 posted on 09/23/2004 8:14:12 PM PDT by The Red Zone (The reason they're trying to starve her isn't because she's dying, but because she isn't. [Supercat])
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To: cyborg
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50 posted on 09/23/2004 8:15:06 PM PDT by Boazo
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