What Japanese Women Want: A Western Husband

The Christian Science Monitor ^ | December 6, 2004 | Bennett Richardson

[RandallFlagg]

I'm not bored, and I'm not cranky.

I'm at work trying to keep up, but I'm still here.

[RosieCotton]

I assume you're not talking about the "wanna go out" that comes out of the blue..

Actually I was...it's happened a few times and been a shock.

For the most part, I do agree with the rest of what you've said. The downside? As a conservative woman, I feel kinda like I should let the guys do the pursuing. So there's that. Once the relationship is underway...you're probably right in that the woman has something of an upper hand. when it comes to ending things.

[Libertarian444]

Over 700 posts and NO picture of Hiroko Anzai????? Boy, this place is really slipping....

[RosieCotton]

Just don't use that 'I don't want to spoil the friendship we have' nonsense. It would be nicer to just kick them in the junk and walk away.

Heh...last time someone asked I didn't use quite those words...he wasn't even a really close friend. But I did say a buncha garbage, I admit. I didn't know what else to say! I was flabbergasted!

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She'll never be president. Too many skeletons in her closet.

[mbennett203]

"I mean, like, I've always been a conservative Christian, type, like, even when I edited Ramparts and stuff. And was saying "f*** the police" and stuff, ya know?"

If she thinks she can nab conservatives with that, they were shallow to begin with. I thought we were supposed to think for ourselves.

Every one of them is all over the morality and God thing. The same folks that have been tearing down everything moral and good in America, and treating Christians like second-class citizens in their own damn country.

But Heels, if the base got turned out to vote against Kerry, they're going to sacrifice food in order to devote more time to defeat the Hildabeest. She and Bill are one thing that unite the HELL out of conservatives.

I don't want her anywhere near the Whitehouse. She's worse than Kerry would've been. Her past is almost as radical or more so than Kerry's.

[marajade]

Don't take this the wrong way... as a female poster on FR who the heck is Hiroko Anzai?

[mbennett203]

"Just don't use that 'I don't want to spoil the friendship we have' nonsense. It would be nicer to just kick them in the junk and walk away."

Amen to that.

[RandallFlagg]

THANK YOU!!!!

*I tried with a pic of Anna Nakagawa*

[RosieCotton]

Marriages based on strong friendships are the kind that last.

Oh, I agree! Completely! You're very right.

This wasn't that sort of situation at all. Just a friend who I play music with, but who would never, ever, ever be anything more...for lots of reasons I don't want to go into.

[TalonDJ]

I think Ken is more right on this one. Letting the guy pursue is all well and good but some of the best ones will not make a move unless they see signals.

[RosieCotton]

I'm not bored, and I'm not cranky.

I know! ;-) Just pointing out that the more cantankerous types seem to have left us...for the moment anyway.

[RandallFlagg]

I think the Admins gave 'em a stern warning.

[Hi Heels]

Amen. I'm right beside ya.

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But, now days a girl can be thrown in jail for kicking a fella in his junk. I go with the 'we can still be friends'.

[TalonDJ]

I was kinda suprised when that one mocked me for wanting to respect the person I marry. Gee I must be crazy for wanting that.

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Yes. It was starting to get pretty nasty in here for a while.

[RandallFlagg]

Some folks just get too uptight sometimes.

Not me, though. I'm too busy gloating!

MUWAAHAHAHAAAA!!!

[Fatalis]

Oh, come on now, Fatalis. I feel like we're playing merry-go-round word games.

Yeah you are.

Will one do? I'm supposed to be working here. :-) How about this: "In 2002, 1.5% of all native-born Japanese women between the ages of 18 and 25 married a native-born American man, an increase of 87% over the previous year."

I take it that's a projection over the whole population based on a statistical sample. Ergo, a generalization.

Next!

The whole complaint with generalizations is rather sophomoric. Generalizations are useful and often necessary tools in discourse. They aren't inherently bad, they're only bad if they're incorrect.

Generalizations are about sets, not specifics. A problem can arise if folks assume a generalization about a set is necessarily applicable to any member of that set; that's stereotyping. Stereotyping is not useful, but that doesn't mean that the utility of generalizations should be ignored.

[TalonDJ]

Yeah well, with the kick the pain will last a shorter time. No really. I know some guys that were some what timid to begin with that got their spirits pretty much crushed from a consistent 'just friends' response from women. Now I am sure they guys needed some fix'n up to appeal a bit more... But they knew darn well that 'just want to be friends' means the girl thinks they have the sex appeal of a log and would never consider them if they were the last man on earth.